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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
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 September 30th, 2024
...See more Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 July 26th, 2024
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
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Temporary Friends
by Uncertain20
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more People here will come and go. There are some who you like to talk with but yeah, will disappear. We are here as temporary sharers and listeners. Sad but that's the reality.
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Silent Treatment
by DogAndButterfly7777
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more I just broke up with a man who had a habit of using the silent treatment against me whenever we had a disagreement. This would go on and on until I essentially got on my hands and knees to beg for forgiveness (even during times when I did nothing to cause upset).  This last time was due to him canceling our plans last minute. I was already en route to his house, but he didn't care. He demanded I not come over. I turned around and drove back home. For reference, his house is 40 minutes away from me.  I texted him to say how hurt I felt by his words and actions. No response. I decided to give him space, and didn't contact for several days. After a few days, I decided to check in and simply gave a text saying, "Hey just checking in to see how you're doing. I'm sorry if I upset you in any way the other night, that was not my intention." Again, I was apologizing when there was nothing for me to apologize for. He canceled plans. He was cold and nasty, saying don't come over. I simply gave in.  That text also got no response, so after about 7 hours I had enough. He had used the silent treatment for the last time. I told him that I felt he was weaponizing the silent treatment and that was a form of emotional abuse. I was tired of it and told him to stop abusing me. Didn't matter to him. I was ignored again. Whats worse is that I owe him money for helping me the previous month with a car issue. I told him I'd pay him back, and have begun to do so. I sent a cashiers check via certified mail and notified him via text and email (email with the transaction and tracking numbers). Again, no response. I'm at a total loss. I tried so hard in the relationship to make things work. We were together for a total of 9 months. Most of that time, yes, he weaponized the silent treatment. I glossed over it by focusing on the fact that he would cook for me, take me to dinner, take me on trips and buy expensive things for me. I thought, "He must care! He's doing all this nice stuff for me when he could just leave me." I was so deep in love I didn't care about the negative. It isn't so easy for me to move on because I invested a lot of time and emotions on the relationship. I gave him my heart. And instead of focusing on myself, I'm worried about the fact that he's moved on already or was cheating on me, which makes me feel worse. I feel like a fool. The worst part of all is that we work together. Not all the time, but every once in awhile. I have to work with him in 2 weeks and it gives me so much anxiety.  I just don't know how to process all of this and move on. Especially without closure. He's a grown, middle-aged man and can't even have the common decency to break things off. That's the lowest of low in my eyes. 
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Epiphany
by creativeKite447
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more At 36, I've recently come to a realization: I don't have any friends outside of work. It hit me that my work friends are just that friends at work. They have their own social circles outside of the office, but I don't. I'm feeling at a loss and unsure how to build a friend group from scratch at this stage in my life.
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Feeling lonely
by Great4Sam
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more At the age of 38 as single i always feeling lonely. 
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Heart so broken
by happyfish1314
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I was so in love with this amazing guy I met during a holiday, and I thought what we had was so special. We fell in love. We were in a long-distance relationship, and four months later, he came to visit me. We spent the most amazing three weeks together, and during that time, he told me he loved me for the first time. He also initiated the idea of relocating to my country. Last month, I visited his hometown, and he introduced me to his parents and grandparents. His family was so happy to meet me because it was the first time he had introduced a girlfriend to them. Everything went so well during my visit until I checked his phone and discovered that he had been flirting with other women after we met. He had sent a selfie to one girl, saying, “It’s a blessing to meet you, and I hope to meet you again. I’ll be waiting for you.” When I confronted him about it, he said he was just being stupid and wanted to show off to his colleagues that other women liked him. I also found another message to a different girl that said, “It was nice meeting you. I hope to see you again soon, and I hope I didn’t misbehave last night.” After the confrontation, he started having thoughts about ending things with me, and I later found out he told his best friend that he was “kind of done” with me. I was heartbroken and not in the best state of mind, so I initiated the breakup. He still kept in touch with me and was being very sweet, so I initiated to reconcile. But two weeks later, he was already with a new girl. I can’t make sense of what happened. Can someone tell me what’s going on and why?
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Pressured
by Uncertain20
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Who are here are more pressured because of New Year? Getting old but not yet married, no children 😅 I'm more pressured with my friends asking that I should be married and they are suggesting this guy or those guy even not my type haha. I just want it to be my choice not through friends2x.  Online also is my option but I'm ashame to look haha and a fraid if it won't work.  Thank you in advance for your advices haha. 
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Pause and Pose
by Uncertain20
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more IF LIFE GETS HARD, REMEMBER TO REST
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Meltdown Mitigation 🥴✨
by communicativePond1728
Last post
 Friday
...See more I had massive cptsd meltdown today. The effects of childhood and the abuse, assault, ***, grief and loss, homelessness, poverty and illness let itself be known. I had nightmares of it happening, I yelled and shouted, I swear, I shook and couldn't stop shaking and have been shaking for years and I hated it all. The chronic fight flight freeze fawn response is aging me and ruining everything. I don't want this to happen to anyone else. But I don't know what I can do other than link a bunch of helpful videos here and hope they make a meltdown a bit easier or at least more manageable then mine was. People keeps suggesting mental health or other such over glorified health professionals but medication these days is still inept and grossly unhelpful and most people are just intolerable to deal with. When it comes to medication usually 10 people need to be treated for one to recieve the help they need, and we all know they say mean girls become nurses for a reason. But with a quiet resurgence in researching psychedelics the past decade and such medication as ketamine helping four out of five people treated, there's still a small reason to keep going. Here's a video or two that may be helpful for anyone else getting the brunt end of the stick. A Relateable and Funny post-CPTSD meltdown video  https://youtu.be/en0B7b2PkeM?si=mVkn01XubW4SmMw [https://youtu.be/en0B7b2PkeM?si=mVkn01XubW4SmMwm] Video to Watch Right Before a Meltdown to Try Prevent it https://youtu.be/aLWL9EraNNI?si=p1uxpEdSe-f30Y5L
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Heartbreak
by helpfulVase1706
Last post
 Friday
...See more I started seeing a guy around 6 months back. We matched online but i didn't think much of it as I felt we didn't have much in common. But he pursued me hard and turned out to be this amazing, sweet, witty guy. Couple of months into dating he started having money problems and I was happy to help him out because of the emergency situation initially. But slowly he started expecting me to cover all his expenses. His rent, his food, his entertainment, everything. I was also exclusively paying for all our dates. It started making me uncomfortable and I told him I wasn't ready to take on such financial responsibility so early in the relationship. I also knew his parents were well off and can easily help him out. He never paid me back all the money I did give him. And last week he broke up with me saying he can never forgive me for being so selfish. I feel devastated I'm not a selfish person I just wasn't ready to cover all his finances 3 months into dating. Anyway he has blocked me everywhere now and I feel so confused about what happened. Any advice on what to do next?
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Uncertain
by Uncertain20
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Hello 30s! I am 36 years old but I'm feeling like a late bloomer. A lot of regrets, hang-ups, not financially stable, no own family yet. What am I doing in the past 2 decades since I graduated? A lot of questions comes into my mind when I'll be alone.  Now, I'm thinking starting an own family is good but will I be a good mother or wife inspite of my weaknesses and capacities?  People in my place keep telling I have to have a boyfriend and be married so I can have an own family. I said to myself it's too late. 
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Loneliness hurts
by quietSpring2202
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more I'm a 34 years old man, living in Czechia. Nearly all my life I was lonely. I never loved my parents. I always felt like a stranger as I was living with my parents. I was the only child. But they weren't able to give me love. I felt no more than a pet at home. I had some short-lived relationships. It was either me or them. It never worked. I was loved. I had great s.x but it was like a camp fire. It decayed... Sundays hurt. Xmas and easter hurt even more. No one to go to somewhere. No one genuinely smiles on you. Sometimes it's hard to sleep. No one to cuddle. No warmth of the woman's body... It hurts man... It f.king hurts. I write it maybe just for a vent. Maybe someone to talk to. I don't know..
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Finding friends near my age. I feel lonely.
by resourcefulFriend2347
Last post
 January 12th
...See more I'm a 42 year old living in a small City in UK. I'm struggling to make new friends my age. I've tried evening classes, hobbies and volunteering. Meetup.com events near me are geared towards people significantly older. Has anyone got any suggestions.

Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


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The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!