I guess I am destined to be lonely forever.
From my birth, I have experienced that whenever I got close to a person or made them a friend, something or the other happens and we no longer are together. Whomever I become close to or have a genuine bond, they either die or go far away suddenly or their account is deleted etc or something.
Is it so wrong to desire for a person to lean on or take support from. I don't have anyone now... everyday I go through loneliness and try to improve...but it gets more garbage sometimes.
I think I should just give up and accept the fact that I will be lonely forever.
Thank you for sharing @SoulwithGoals✨
We are here…we hear you
Sometimes we meet people just for a season, a reason or a lesson - you will find friends and someone you can rely on ✨
May I kindly suggest that next time you meet someone you have no expectations at all? Just enjoy the connection one day at a time 🙂
Lots of good energy✨
@ElenaDeMonaco
Thank you.
It's been a while since I posted, and I am doing a bit better now.
That's right... a season, a reason, or a lesson. Beautifully said.
I mostly don't keep any expectations at all and I only implement this philosophy that- It doesn't matter if the other person is a good friend or not, I will be a good friend and do my best. However, when it comes to people whom I take support from or lean on (all of them online people, not offline), I do expect that they stay...However something happens and they might need to disconnect(It's not their fault, the universe brings out situations as such).
But i guess, I will try not giving up. I am not sure how long I can keep up without giving up though.
Thank you for the energy!
@SoulwithGoals
”I think I should just give up and accept the fact that I will be lonely forever.”
Please don’t give up on yourself. You deserve way better than that and way better than what you’re going/have gone through.
I understand the feeling of loneliness and how much it hurts.
I’ve been there and aside from the friends I have known here I’m still going through that.
There was a time I wanted to give up to the point where I not only thought about giving up but seriously considered it. But then I told myself if I did that I’d be giving up on myself and if I gave up on myself how can I expect anyone else not to? And if others gave up on me like I did then they’re not gonna see anything in me like justifies them being friends with me.
If you want I’ll be your friend. We can even go beyond just being friends and be pen pals if you want that. Just lmk if you want either of those. I’m here for you as the rest of us here are.
Sending you love, support and the friendliest hugs you ever got ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown
Thank you very much. It really means a lot.
It's been a while from the time I posted this, and now I am doing a bit better. My thoughts on giving up are currently at a standstill. I am gonna try again. I hope it doesn't come back.
Thank you for being a friend. I would love to be your friend too. (I am not too familiar with the app as I am kinda new here. I am not sure if I can message you.)
Thank you for your kindness and your wonderful hugs.
@SoulwithGoals
You’re most welcome. I hope the best and wish you all the good luck with this next try.
I don’t use the app. Idk why tbh lol.
Hugs ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown
Thanks.
(I use both app and in pc, yet Idk to message lol)
🫂
@SoulwithGoals
Unless they’re a listener or a therapist idk if you can directly message someone on here like that which other sites like this allow.
But if you were pen pals with someone on here that would allow you to have an actual conversation with someone on here. Have you ever tried that? If not I suggest giving it some thought to trying it out :)
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@akunknown
I see. I've not tried it. How do I do that?
@SoulwithGoals
I’ve never done it myself either but I think there’s a Pen Pals group on here and you can probably choose someone to be pen pals with on there. But how to do it idk. I’m really sorry I can’t be of any help to you with this beyond that. If you figure it out please lmk. If I figure it out I’ll be sure to let you know how it’s done :)
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@akunknown
I see. Thanks for telling me the steps.
Quick question- So the way to communicate with a member, is using a thread and not a DM...am I right?
Also, supposing I do create a thread in pen pals, will everyone be able to see it? what if I wanted to set it to specific people?
@SoulwithGoals
So the way to communicate with a member, is using a thread and not a DM...am I right?
Idk if you can message someone with a DM. You’re welcome to try it if you want to. Since I’ve never tried it idk if that’s possible on here or not.
Also, supposing I do create a thread in pen pals, will everyone be able to see it?
They’ll see the thread but depending on what the thread is about idk if everyone will be able to post a comment on it.
Like for example if you created a pen pals thread between you another user, everyone can see the thread but I don’t think everyone else can post on it.
what if I wanted to set it to specific people?
It depends on what type of thread you’re creating. I’m guessing you can create a pen pals thread for specific people but idk for sure as I’ve only seen pen pals thread created for only two users - that being the one who created it and the user they wanted to be pen pals with.
But if you want to try creating a pen pals thread with more users than just two, you can try it and see if it’s possible to create it.
I really understand this- Loneliness sucks and makes you question everything! Just remember to not give up on hope! Friends come and go, but it also means that some Friends are worth staying. I was lonely a lot! But I also learned that its an opportunity to make new friends that care about me as a person! hope this helps :>
@Blessyourself
Thanks a lot.
Its been a while after posting this, and I am doing better now. Currently I have not given up, and I am willing to try again.
I hope I won't give up in futurre.