Dealing With a Narcissist
Lately, my mom has been criticizing everything I do. I never do anything right or make good decisions according to her. Every relationship I’ve been in so far, except my current one, has failed because she put them down all the time. If we don’t do things her way, she gets mad at us. I don’t know how to deal with it. Any advice is appreciated
@LovedandLonely24 🙁 that sounds really hard to have to deal with, bless you 🙁 I'm not sure what to say to comfort you best😕 sorry. But I think you need to have a long stern talk with her, you shouldn't have to put up with that crap. Gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ good luck sweetie ❤
Thank you so much for that. It’s very tough to deal with, and I’ve tried everything to stop it. It only gets worse as she gets older. I fear I’m gonna have to deal with it again on Friday, as I’ll be getting a ring from my boyfriend, and he’ll officially be my fiancé
@LovedandLonely24 😮😮😮😮😮😮 omg! Congratulations🎈❤ aww on Valentine's day that is soooo sweet ❤ yaaaay! I'm so happy for you ❤sometimes it's not situations that we can control, I mean you can try to talk to her, but some people just can't change🙁 I guess you can only try ❤ just know you are not alone you have your future fiance, and friends here at cups ❤❤❤ we'll pick you up on the hardest of days ❤❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ have fun on friday ❤❤
I am so sorry you have to deal with this. It is heartbreaking to not have a supportive mother.
@LovedandLonely24
I’m really sorry you are being forced to live with this. It really sucks. My mom is a narcissist so I know what it’s like to live with one.
My advice to you is to talk to her. During the conversation, if she interrupts you, stop her and say “Is there any reason why you’re interrupting me? I wasn’t finished talking yet. So please don’t interrupt. I’ll let you know when I’m done and then you’ll have your turn to talk ok??” Tell her everything she’s done/is doing that’s problematic for you. Also, respectfully but firmly and sternly set boundaries.
If none of that works, then deal with it by not dealing with it. In other words, distance yourself from her and limit your interactions with her as much as possible. This is what I’ve been doing with my narcissistic mom - to the point where I’ve even blocked her on my phone - and it’s working.
The reason why I gave you the advice to have a conversation with your mom first is bc distancing from others no matter who they are or how they are or what they did/do, it’s still a very heavily difficult thing for some people to do. However despite that, if the conversation and setting boundaries doesn’t work, please try distancing yourself for your own wellbeing. If the conversation does work though, great!
Good luck to you with all this as well as your engagement and eventual wedding which I congratulate you for.
Hugs and lots of love to you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@LovedandLonely24 been there, she said "you got friends cause' of me". She really made me doubt myself, all I can say is don't listen! Believe in yourself, trust yourself as you are your only true supporter! 💙🫂
The first chance you get, expel your mother from your life. Narcissists are incurable.
