I'm useless
I'm useless. I work a half time job at almost 24, living with parents and having little to no independence. I see all the people who are my age or younger living to the fullest, working, studying, travelling, getting engaged, moving in with their partners and having a good time. And then there is me. I hate this so hard. I can't climb out of it no matter how hard I try. I feel useless. Worthless. And I hate myself so hard for it all. If I only tried harder. Fought harder. Maybe it could be me. But it isn't. And I'm just stuck being useless. With no life skills and independence. With no energy at all and a *** health. Anyone else on the same boat? :(
@sadcat13 anyone else in the same boat? Only almost everyone on this site😁 your not useless, and your not worthless. Your my sweet little kitty ❤ it's common theese days, to live with your parents for most of your life, it's common that you only have a part time job. It's like if full time jobs is no longer existent. The what ifs, what could have beens . Well their the thoughts that destroy us the most. I've told you before, thinking is bad for your health, don't do it😂😂 perhaps a change of perspective might help you, instead of feeling bad, maybe think about it like this. At home you have no full time commitments, so the world is yours to explore to do what ever you want to do and when you want to do it. You have a part time job, which means more freedom on your hands, more freedom means more time to do the things you want to do ❤❤❤ those people who seem to have life altogether, are really just as lost as you, so try not to compare yourself with others, I know that's easier said than done. I don't like to see you depressed and struggling🙁 my poor precious kitty, remember you are safe here, and you have people who care about you, I care about you ❤ hugs you tightly, you can talk to us here, always there to listen and hug you ❤❤hugs you tightly ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 thank you. I know there is many people like me. It's just that everyone around me belongs in the got their *** together category. I hate myself so hard. My family gives me no freedom to go and do as I please. I want to go to visit my boyfriend but I can't. I'm tired of this. Some days I just wish i was not that sheltered. But on the other hand my health is not good. I have no energy. And my mental health is not good either, at minimum my executive function is not functioning properly. It just sucks seeing others being in a stage of life I would like to be in. *Hugs back. I'm really going through it now
@sadcat13 🙁 awww honey I'm so sorry😥 life sucks, I understand that feeling of everyone else having it better and easier than you😥 you know venting always helps me, I'm hear to listen anytime you need, I'm just a tag away ❤ you are loved here, I love you ❤ and you have many friends and people who care about you, lean on us in times of need ❤ gives you a giant tiny hugggg ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 thank you. It means the world to me ❤️
@sadcat13 ❤❤ I love you ❤
@sadcat13 I relate to you on sooo many different levels. I feel like this myself but I have decided to push through. Although some days are hard and tiring. I wish for a change of pace daily and I hope it comes my way soon.
@sadcat13
There are many people who are in the same boat as you, cat ᓚ₍^•⩊•^₎
. 🥺 In terms of not being independent (not owning my own house, not having a job, though I am busy with taking my father to doctors), I'm more than 24 & I couldn't even get a job ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ despite having a graduate degree.
I know sharing about me is not a solution, but maybe it will help to not beat yourself up because if we compare you are doing much much better than me. So, I hope you be kind to yourself & I know we often try hard in our situations and there's not much options. I also compare myself with people who are about the same as my age, they seem to have a fulfilling life, with having a family, settled, I even compare myself with my cousins. Though I have a better academic background, but now I do not become anything now, & they have a business, a job 🥺
Also you have a half time job & you earned money & can save. Perhaps living with your parents can be good because you don't have to rent a house or an apartment & can save money. ᓚ₍^•⩊•^₎ *hugs if okie*🥺
@VictoriaLove7 thank you for your encouraging words, it means the world to me 🌻 I hope things will work out for you soon too 🌻
@sadcat13
Thank you, cat! 🐈⬛ᓚ₍^•⩊•^₎
@sadcat13 It's okay not to be in the same place as everyone else. We all have our own path and different speeds. Sometimes it seems like everyone around here has their stuff together. But you might wonder if it's as beautiful as it looks.
Don't be so hard on yourself, you're not useless. Sometimes it doesn't matter how hard you fight. So don't beat yourself up about it. Take your time.
And yes, there are a lot of us in the same boat. And sometimes we look like we have our lives together, but we don't.
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