Hi there, looking for kindred spirits
Hello everyone! I just joined here, looking to connect to people who live a similar life.
I seem to be stuck in a loop. I work, get home, have a drink and fall asleep. This has been the rhythm for the last 6 years. I seem to be no longer open for new 'fun' experiences, and kinda stick to what I know.
It's been intensely lonely, and I don't see it changing much going forward.
Does anyone else have this feeling?
@Haurus Hi haurus, i can relate to the feeling of being stuck. im not in this working cycle cause im still a uni-stundent but i feel like my life isnt moving forward. in any way. im not getting forward with my studies or my social life, i dont have many hobbies and dont meet much new people. sometimes on the weekends i meet up with my friends , but its often kinda the same. I feel lonely too sometimes but i somehow dont have the courage to change someting and move forward.
What do you think is holding you back?
Hello @Keineahnung123 , thank you for the reply. I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing something similar, it can really get you down.
I think what's holding me back is not knowing what to do instead. I didn't grow up with big dreams or passions, mostly hobbies that would let me escape from life and distract me (games, media etc). Nothing seems particularly interesting to do, already assuming before doing anything that it won't be a good time. That and socially isolating, the people my age around me seem to have such different hobbies and outlook on life, I can't relate much to them.
Do you think there's a reason you feel like this? Did something happen?
@Haurus Hi, im sorry for not answering so long.
No nothing really happened. i think that is also why i cant feel sorry for myself cause in my mind its my own fault that i am how i am (i gotta be nicer to myself i know that i tend to think worse of myself then how i really am (hope so at least haha)). I guess ive always been sort of unsure of what i want and who i am and nerver really figured that out. and its so easy to get more introverted, less social.
not knowing what to do is also a big part, not knowing how to do things or what makes sense.. when i dont know how to do it i tend to do nothing caus i dont wanna do something wrong, which of course doesnt help. but you get used to that pretty easily, its a toxic trait.
you said other people have much different hobbies then yourself, do you have some niche hobbies or something? I can image that you dont knowwhere to start or what to do. Maybe try to think as little as you can. what particular thing is bothering you. eg. how you sepd time after work if its always the same. then you could think of one thing you could try to do diffferent. like going on a walk, doing somethink creative,... just something else maybe
also you said that you wont have a good time. Sometime i also think that negative, cause i dont want do be disappointed. Maybe try to start thnigs with zero expectations. it could be good or bad, or just okay. but i think you can be proud of trying/ doing something despite having no motivation maybe. and mostly things are better than expected ( in my experiece who tals everything down myself)
i hope that made some sense what i wrote :)
