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 November 15th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 October 28th, 2024
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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Friends?
by sociableSkies9735
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Bettering yourself can be lonely, anyone else looking for friends?
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I can't wait to find "home"
by GumballMachine
Last post
 January 13th
...See more As I finish my degree this year, I am experiencing immense suffering. I failed to have a rewarding life and find what I was looking for in this city when I moved here a few years ago to start studying. I tried to look for a purpose and have a “home,” including somewhere I belong socially. The only thing I will find in the end will be my degree. However, although I am graduating, I am not even excited or happy about it. I could care less because my life is so bad. During my degree, the only significant thing that happened is that I discovered how much I want to leave the continent and find my home and “real life” abroad. I am suffering immensely socially as well and need to deal with everything alone. Since 2019, most of my life fell away (not due to any conflict) including my closest friends and close family. Although I worked on my degree during that time, it is no excuse for people to leave my life. For the past years it has been me who has needed to initiate interactions with others, and worst yet, interactions have become incessantly unrewarding and not long-lasting. Any effort to make new friends has been unsuccessful as well. Everyone in this city, including roommates and random strangers anywhere, have been rude and distant, or simply unappealing or unrelatable. People do not appreciate me in general. They haven’t even wanted to hire me when I applied for employment and had several interviews for what I was eligible for. People do not want anything to do with me or connect personally. As a result of having no social circle, I am extremely isolated. It is made worse due to the high level of use of digital technology to mediate social relations. This all has been horrible for me, since due to inherent social need, nobody should be constantly alone or neglected as I have been. I simply cannot connect with anyone on this continent unless they are not from here, for many reasons. I am tired of cultures that promote individualism as well as social interaction through digital technology. I can’t wait to move somewhere where I will have a better social life. Overall, I just want to find where I belong and where I can enjoy life no matter what it throws at me, with the people who will become my family. It feels like no matter how long I stay here life will only be inconvenient and not have a higher purpose. Life is meaningless, unrewarding, and arbitrary here.
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Dear god, let me skip to my 30s please?
by RK0005
Last post
 January 11th
...See more Being 22 is awful. Most of the people I've asked so far say the same. And I can understand why. There's just so many stuff to figure out: What kind of person I am? What kind of career I want? What kind of partner do I want? And oh god don't even get me started on adulting and bills. And working a 9-5 yuck.  When I picture myself as a 30 year old, I imagine myself to be sipping pina coladas on a beach, with my wife resting right next to me.  I like to imagine I'm content with life by then. That I'm aware of my identity and able to suppress my demons. I hope I also get a rock solid body by then to sport my bald head. Most importantly, I hope I'm used to life by then and not getting anxious and sad over every little thing.  So yes, dear God...let me skip straight to the 30s please? Yours, Cheeky lazy monkey 
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General Sadness of the State of the World
by AutumnHarvest
Last post
 January 4th
...See more Hi, I'm a 24f and I just graduated university in May and have been living with my parents looking for apartments in a new city. I'm am lucky to have some privileges as a white, middle class girl and I am incredibly thankful for that. But I'm also incredibly saddened by the state of the world constantly, be it the environmental state, the economic state, and all the other isms, and systems of oppression.  To take a moment to be a little selfish, I'm seeing it heavily as I try to find an apartment in the city. I am feeling sad and hopeless as I look because it feels like my standards are way too high - but to me, they feel like basic things that people should have - like a stove, enough space to have more than just a bed and desk, and a little natural light for my plants. But as I look, I'm coming across many places outside of my budget that lack even these basic things. I understand your 20s are about "roughing it" but, with the state of the world, the increasing basic living costs and the fact that the future is completely uncertain due to climate change and capitalism - I'm finding it incredibly hard to feel like I'll even be able to live the way I want in the future. It doesn't help that I'm constantly told by my parents and other generations that they paid for their entire education themselves or had to work 3 jobs to afford a house, etc.  I know there really isn't any solutions to this problem and will have to lower my standards for housing and living, but after working so hard in high school and university and being promised I'm working towards something - I'm burnt out and it feels like I'm not gaining any of the rewards of my hard work.  Maybe I've just thrown myself a huge pity party, but thank you for listening none the less. For others who struggle with these feelings as well, what do you do to give yourself more hope and stop feeling like everything sucks? Thank you for listening. 
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Help
by Ki222
Last post
 December 24th
...See more Hi everyone. I am new here. I really need help or fear that I might start spiralling. I live with my dad and his wife , today my dad was on a phone call with her and she gave me confirmation on how I have already been feeling. I’m currently studying and I am working, but I still live with my dad . She called me things like “useless” she told me I create all the problems within the house. She told me that life would be better if I killed myself. Now I had already been feeling this way internally but hearing it come from someone else made it so much more real. 
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Are close friendships more difficult to obtain as we grow older?
by UnsungTangerine
Last post
 November 21st, 2024
...See more I had romantic dream about a friend I was decently close to back in high school. Although now I sort of regret not trying to continue that friendship I did try to do so and attempt to reach out again to no avail. That got me thinking that despite the world seemingly being more open, I'm older and can go to places I couldn't as an adolescent the ability to create strong friendships has become a lot harder. Maybe its just me? It could be due to other circumstances like covid recently that definitely had a massive impact on social relationships due to social distancing. But, I just feel a lot more lonelier now than when I was in high school. Nowadays I would struggle to say I have any real close friendships anymore. 
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Managing Emotions in Relationships
by deephealer1111
Last post
 November 5th, 2024
...See more Emotions are a natural part of human relationships. However, when not managed effectively, they can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts and even the breakdown of relationships. Learning to manage your emotions is crucial for building and maintaining a strong and healthy relationship. If you're struggling with your emotions or your relationship, please know that you're not alone. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here to listen.
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 October 28th, 2024
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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I'm useless
by sadcat13
Last post
 September 25th, 2024
...See more I'm useless. I work a half time job at almost 24, living with parents and having little to no independence. I see all the people who are my age or younger living to the fullest, working, studying, travelling, getting engaged, moving in with their partners and having a good time. And then there is me. I hate this so hard. I can't climb out of it no matter how hard I try. I feel useless. Worthless. And I hate myself so hard for it all. If I only tried harder. Fought harder. Maybe it could be me. But it isn't. And I'm just stuck being useless. With no life skills and independence. With no energy at all and a *** health. Anyone else on the same boat? :(
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Hi there, looking for kindred spirits
by Haurus
Last post
 August 28th, 2024
...See more Hello everyone! I just joined here, looking to connect to people who live a similar life. I seem to be stuck in a loop. I work, get home, have a drink and fall asleep. This has been the rhythm for the last 6 years. I seem to be no longer open for new 'fun' experiences, and kinda stick to what I know.  It's been intensely lonely, and I don't see it changing much going forward. Does anyone else have this feeling?
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Indecision
by vall11
Last post
 August 6th, 2024
...See more Hi everyone I found this site today and I am very pessimistic about the future. Let me start with my background. I am 22 years old and from Malaysia. I didn't go to university due to illness and the pandemic. I have been working as a private school manager for a year (minimum salary). It was fun at first but now I feel like I have nothing to do and can't improve myself. I play games with a Korean girl every night. I want to study and work abroad but I feel like my boss will have a hard time accepting me if I leave at the last minute. I want to study English hard but this environment doesn't allow me to. I am 22 years old, I have low self-esteem, no confidence, no real friends for 4-5 years, I have never had a college life, I am ugly, thin (89lbs), short (5.18ft), I have eczema (Frequent peeling of the skin), I often bow my head, my scoliosis has become more serious, I want to go to the gym or run but I can't make the correct posture (long and short legs), my neck often leans to one side and I can't breathe smoothly. I feel that I have missed a lot in my life, I really want to improve myself (study abroad part-time and make myself normal), I long to be with this girl who plays games with me all the time. (I have never met this girl), no matter what I use identities are, Because I once gave up on real life, but it was this girl who said goodnight to me every night while playing games that cheered me up again. Want to be better and thank this girl in real life. But the gap between Malaysia and South Korea is too big... Now I need everyone's encouragement to help me....
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I am tired
by emotionalJackfruit2873
Last post
 August 3rd, 2024
...See more i dont understand why my family doesnt understand that i dont want an arranged marriage ever(no offense to those who r happy married through that, its not for me and i dont ever want it). its painful having to keep explaining it for years. its hard enough to find love without them pressuring me.

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