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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 July 6th
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
20+ Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
 April 8th
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
I'm useless
by sadcat13
Last post
 September 25th
...See more I'm useless. I work a half time job at almost 24, living with parents and having little to no independence. I see all the people who are my age or younger living to the fullest, working, studying, travelling, getting engaged, moving in with their partners and having a good time. And then there is me. I hate this so hard. I can't climb out of it no matter how hard I try. I feel useless. Worthless. And I hate myself so hard for it all. If I only tried harder. Fought harder. Maybe it could be me. But it isn't. And I'm just stuck being useless. With no life skills and independence. With no energy at all and a *** health. Anyone else on the same boat? :(
Hi there, looking for kindred spirits
by Haurus
Last post
 August 28th
...See more Hello everyone! I just joined here, looking to connect to people who live a similar life. I seem to be stuck in a loop. I work, get home, have a drink and fall asleep. This has been the rhythm for the last 6 years. I seem to be no longer open for new 'fun' experiences, and kinda stick to what I know.  It's been intensely lonely, and I don't see it changing much going forward. Does anyone else have this feeling?
Indecision
by vall11
Last post
 August 6th
...See more Hi everyone I found this site today and I am very pessimistic about the future. Let me start with my background. I am 22 years old and from Malaysia. I didn't go to university due to illness and the pandemic. I have been working as a private school manager for a year (minimum salary). It was fun at first but now I feel like I have nothing to do and can't improve myself. I play games with a Korean girl every night. I want to study and work abroad but I feel like my boss will have a hard time accepting me if I leave at the last minute. I want to study English hard but this environment doesn't allow me to. I am 22 years old, I have low self-esteem, no confidence, no real friends for 4-5 years, I have never had a college life, I am ugly, thin (89lbs), short (5.18ft), I have eczema (Frequent peeling of the skin), I often bow my head, my scoliosis has become more serious, I want to go to the gym or run but I can't make the correct posture (long and short legs), my neck often leans to one side and I can't breathe smoothly. I feel that I have missed a lot in my life, I really want to improve myself (study abroad part-time and make myself normal), I long to be with this girl who plays games with me all the time. (I have never met this girl), no matter what I use identities are, Because I once gave up on real life, but it was this girl who said goodnight to me every night while playing games that cheered me up again. Want to be better and thank this girl in real life. But the gap between Malaysia and South Korea is too big... Now I need everyone's encouragement to help me....
I am tired
by emotionalJackfruit2873
Last post
 August 3rd
...See more i dont understand why my family doesnt understand that i dont want an arranged marriage ever(no offense to those who r happy married through that, its not for me and i dont ever want it). its painful having to keep explaining it for years. its hard enough to find love without them pressuring me.
Hi guys, how are you all? I am very shy and introverted. I am afraid of talking to people because I have spent 10 years in my room without focusing on
by affableWatermelon9160
Last post
 July 15th
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 July 6th
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
Advice for Mid-20’s!
by HopefulWrench
Last post
 July 1st
...See more Hi! Would everyone who sees this leave a little bout of advice for someone in their mid-20’s? Can’t wait to see what you come up with! ✨
Is anyone else going back to college?
by DitaBear
Last post
 June 8th
...See more I'm 32 years old and am starting college again after so many years.  Am really nervous, especially about needing to relearn math and having to take the ACT for one of my majors.  I was wondering if anyone else was in the same boat.
I feel low and neglected. Can someone help me?
by Aspirer123
Last post
 June 6th
...See more I feel low and neglected. Can someone help me?
Angry doom cloud
by Pabuu
Last post
 February 14th
...See more This is my first community post.  I’m pabu, my current mental state is angry doom cloud. 
Friendzone, Self doubt and Sexual Thoughts
by chrism59082
Last post
 January 12th
...See more Hi everyone! There's a lot going on in my life and I just wanted to get it off my chest. I don't have anyone with whom I can share this stuff without any fear of judgements hence came up here. Hoping to get some honest advice. So I am a 23 years old guy who has been in love with his female bestie for like past 6 years without any reciprocation from her side. I'll put the whole thing in brief just so that you understand the background. I know it's absolutely okay to not reciprocate someone's feelings but that way she has treated me all these years is something that has affected my mental health a lot. She used to ghost me whenever she got into a new relationship and came back after her breakups. She lied to me about so many important things in her life and kept leading me on by telling fairy tale things about our future which she never really meant. We weren't ever together in a relationship, nor have I ever been with any other girl in my life. I stopped talking to her few months ago when her lies came out but now I miss her a lot. I don't know what to do. Now there's another part to this story too. You are welcome to judge me as whatever you would like to. I know I am a messed up person in some aspects. While I am doing absolutely great in my career (not trying to brag about it but just for the background), I am kinda a failure when it comes to leaving my bad habits. When my bestie got into relationships, there were times when I was too lonely. Ofc that's not a good excuse but I resorted to watching porn to combat that loneliness. It didnt help and always left me with guilt, making me feel like I am cheating on her. I tried leaving it so many times but failed. But finally I was able to succeed in it few weeks ago. But then arose a new problem. I have started to have sexual thoughts about one of my cousins who is my age and has been talking to me a lot these days. I know this makes me sound like a perv and it's all *** up. I don't want act on those thoughts and I never will because it's immoral. But all this leaves me with more guilt and I hate myself for all this. I really don't know how to handle this.  I know some of you would recommend seeking professional help, which I agree might be right but I don't and cannot seek it right now. I just want to hear your opinions and advice. Thank you!
Loneliness
by JingleSavage
Last post
 January 1st
...See more So i found recently that being alone hurts more then anything i dont really have many people i can go to and not alot of friends to kinda keep my mind busy idk if its allowed but are there any people on here that have this same issue and just want some new folks to talk to?

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