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by tommy
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 November 15th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 October 28th, 2024
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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Cheaters
by Loveyourself3333
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more Hello, My bf (ex now) of almost 2 years told me he cheated on me last week. He said he was drunk and takes full responsibility for what he did. I am going through all the emotions and I’m having a difficult time processing all my emotions. Any tips on how to heal and recover.
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A little wish
by Helen0046
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more I'm writing this and I don't know what to exactly write.. but I wanna write something, to feel something, to make something.. I don't what I'm doing for my life lately, I built and then destroy, I break and try to fix, I cry and then act like a numb, I try to do my best, to be the best, but then.. I just regret and feel pain, I make people get attached to me and then leave them and cry.. I wish I could be better, for myself, for my mother, for my life, for those who have always prayed for me, for.. for something good afterlife. I wish I could shine like a Helen. I really wish, may God forgive me if I fail.
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New Here
by Anushka116
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more Just learning the ropes :)
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Late 20's
by Rianakh95
Last post
 21 hours ago
...See more I am in my late 20's and to be exact my late 29. In few month I will turn 30 and to be honest when I was 18 I called people on their 30's old and I'm almost there and for sure 30 is not old (I can't even get it how I'm so close to 30. I feel I'm still 25 which I'm not ). I've done a lot in my 20's and I am so happy with my path overall, but what is crazy is that my reality is so different with what I thought It would be when I was 18.  These days I hear a lot that when you turn 30 you are just a newborn adult. You've been learning and exploring in your 20's and in your 30's it's your time to build up your life. Honestly I really like this idea. I was learning and exploring my 20's and at this point my life still is not stable at all which kind of scare me but I am trying every single day to be where I wanna be.  I like to know if someone has the same feeling or situation in their late 20's and how you are dealing with life?
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Trust issues and overthinking
by nailah28
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more I don't know why I'm writing this but I just want to say it ..i lacking trust ..it's been 2 years in a relationship everything was going good one day I checked his phone and found he lied to me he didn't cheat although but he went to his friends bdya party without letting me know he told me he's going to gym ..i forgave him that time another day I found out he was with his cousin and his cousin shared him a link ( adult content) that link asked to sign in for something first before Opening ..or day I was checking his phone and saw hide my email in apple there he signed into *** and bumble using that Apple id when I ask him to tell truth he cried and said yes I watched that porn video sent by his cousin and that video before opening asked to sign in to something I did it not knowing what it was...and when I checked his app store i knew it he didn't download that *** and bumble app he just signed up through that link ..but now I have to fight with myself to trust this story I don't know how ... He cired he was guilty he begged me to stay he loves me as well but my overthinking is just killing me .. please help me to deal with it 😔
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Just want to stop overthinking
by forcefulAcai5064
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I don't know what it is, but I'll go hang out with friends and I'll do something that isn't wrong necessarily, but I can't tell what people think about how I acted. I want them to think well of me and I hold myself to high standards. They are good friends of mine who wouldn't want me to overthink in this way. I just can't stop myself from replaying certain moments and trying to see what I should have done instead or try to figure out what they were thinking. These moments aren't even very impactful things. I'm sitting here now with a drink just to get my mind to quiet down so I'll be able to sleep. I would like to be able to think about the things I would like to think about instead of having my train of thought yanked onto a different track without my say so.
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Life
by hardworkingTown9914
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more New here & feeling very confused. I’ll start by saying I was in a 10 year relationship, although we had a lot of financial difficulties we got on well like best friends but I felt like that was all it was in the end. He didn’t treat me badly at all, although we obviously had our arguments he did love me. I called off our engagement 6 months ago and moved out and have met somebody new who makes me incredibly happy. But I can’t stop the feeling of sadness. I feel like I am grieving him. I don’t hate him and I feel so bad for leaving him heartbroken when he’s such a good person. I guess I feel bad for doing what I needed to do to be happy. I don’t know if that even makes sense. Although I’m happier in my new relationship I just feel incredibly guilty as he did absolutely nothing wrong and I couldn’t give him much of an explanation as to why I was leaving other than I wasn’t happy and we felt like friends rather than in a relationship even though we tried to address it many times. i don’t even know why im writing this, I just needed to get it off my chest.
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World is a good place isn't it ?
by searchingSoul01
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more I know many might disagree it to be so, and maybe it’s not entirely true, but the world isn't a bad place. Just think about it—aren’t we living in a world where most people want to appear meaner than they actually are? Many of us hesitate to accept the goodness within us. Now, place your hand on your heart and ask yourself: Am I truly a bad person? Forget any mistakes or wrong choices you’ve made. And even if your answer is yes, don’t worry—you’re not. Because if you were truly a bad person, you wouldn’t even care enough to ask yourself that question. (And if you didn’t ask yourself, that doesn’t mean you’re a bad person either )
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This is what gets me deprived of my youth
by livbinny
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more My body hurts my soul is sad i wish to be freed from where I am guys I must make it thru i can’t be here forever i I can’t be always in this cage not seeing world cuz fam got all the control in the world :(
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Hello
by sociableHuman660
Last post
 Monday
...See more How do I control my bpd ?
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Racism and hatred toward an ethnicity
by imaginativeFarm9697
Last post
 Sunday
...See more I feel wounded after reading the comments and questions on reddit and Quora.  It said that all Indians smell like ***. They all are stinky and smell weird. Indians are the stinkiest on the planet. I don't feel like stepping out of my house and meeting any new people. What if they are the same as the critics. I am scared and anxious. I feel like hiding myself in a closet or dying as I am one the people that have caused this hate.
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Dealing With a Narcissist
by LovedandLonely24
Last post
 Sunday
...See more Lately, my mom has been criticizing everything I do. I never do anything right or make good decisions according to her. Every relationship I’ve been in so far, except my current one, has failed because she put them down all the time. If we don’t do things her way, she gets mad at us. I don’t know how to deal with it. Any advice is appreciated

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