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by tommy
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 November 15th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 October 28th, 2024
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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Lonely
by peachBanana3925
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more All my life growing up, I was told not to show emotion not to get attached and not to let people in. Now I am in my 20s living on my own and feel so alone, I can’t have good relationships because I shut people out, and have a fear of getting attached. I’ve been a caregiver my whole life to my parents And I seek to fix people and every friendship/relationship. I don’t know how to stop this and I wish I could open up to people, but I don’t know how anymore.
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Losing hope
by Reforged882
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more Every day I wake up feeling suffocated with a tightness in my chest. Battling with chronic depression, anxiety ever since I was a child, had psychological trauma from school and recently got diagnosed with ASD. I stopped taking my medications because it kept suppressing my emotions more. But now I am worse, I can't handle the intense loneliness that autistic burnout brings. Cannot meet my friends frequently, maybe once a year if I'm lucky. I've settled for online friendships but I am struggling to keep anyone in my life. I can't reciprocate or pretend anymore, all the nostalgia makes it impossible for me not to breakdown and cry. It's a nostalgia that makes me sick to my stomach because I wasn't even myself around them. Now everything is falling apart, all these years of masking and trying became useless since I have no one when I really need somebody. I miss times when conversations were light hearted, but I also remember how disconnected I was with myself. I feel like if I don't bring my best self everywhere, things will always fall apart. I try so hard only for it to be blown away like dust.
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Nobody likes pain :(
by livbinny
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more You guys this pain:( I don’t have good prediction of when it gets worse but I think I should know by now that it won’t get better once I. Start to feel it more:( it’s hard to be alone, I’m trying to stay calm to monoxide effects on my stomach, to let it work, now it wore off cca after 7hrs the first one so it’s like idk sometimes it lasted me more I guess my main goal is not to upset stomach i have to let it stay so it can work again🙏🏻 but like alone n in pain🙏🏻😟💓 #strongerformmyself
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Mental health
by laisha34
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I hope this is the right place to speak about but lately I've been struggling with bipolar depression it's not just that but I feel lost at the same time I moved to text as from Colorado back in 2024 last August got into a massive fight with my roommate went to jail and I lost everything in the process my home, myself my cats my best friend my job I was a huge wreck and wanted to relapse but I pushed through I moved back to Colorado to live with my bf and honestly it's great but it's hard to get a job I'm waiting 2 month for my ID it's under processing expectation being stuck at home makes me feel so guilty that I lost everything that mattered to me I'm back on square one I'm struggling I'm doing everything I can to help myself and get my life back on track just some set backs with my ID but I'm finding ways around it I feel like I'm not doing enough idk what I'm doing wrong is it just my bipolar depression acting up? Or how can I manage this feeling it's killing me? Idk if anyone can relate but I hope someone relates to me with bipolar depression
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hello,
by melancholicglitter002
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more am just looking for friends to talk a lot and listen a lot. yeah,i need interaction i guess new here,i dont understand this app well enough yet thanks a lot 😅
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Scared of loneliness
by livbinny
Last post
 Saturday
...See more 22 no friends it scares me how much n all stuff I do by yourself sometimes I go into big anxiety or panic mode where I feel unreal cause it’s hard to feel n realize how painful this is…. no one to save me but me if we have to keep goin to be strong ppl
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I lost my mom
by humorousWest6200
Last post
 Friday
...See more Hello i am 23 years old female, i was living with a divorced mom and i was her only daughter, my mom passed away less than one month ago due to metastatic cancer . any advice to move on? If you go through such situation i will appreciate your input.
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nice to meet you
by yuinanao
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 Friday
...See more hello I am japanese people
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Why u can be sad
by livbinny
Last post
 Friday
...See more Honestly even if I don’t wanna think abt the hurt I just feel it then I’m sad cuz seeing ppl getting care n concern for their mental health but nobody properly cared abt me ppl used me but before I knew it it was already too late they left n ghosted i I couldn’t do anything i still feel abandoned bound to find strength in myself everyday it is hard it gotten better with me not falling into self pity but there are still times I’m suddenly there i just don’t want to anymore i don’t deserve it but knowing how much i did for ppl just for them did almost nothing like no surprise nobody ever tried something nice out of pure interest or effort i gave them my all whilst they left me with nothing💔 its a lot to process no matter how many months pass by… to all in this pain: I empathise with you ppl i wish I could say more to this but there are no words that can bring comfort for already done damage ❣️❤️‍🩹❤️‍🔥💔💕
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Friends?
by sociableSkies9735
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Bettering yourself can be lonely, anyone else looking for friends?
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Family trauma
by bubbleFan9625
Last post
 January 13th
...See more Hello my name is Bree, I’m 22. I’ve been dealing and battling with depression and anxiety for awhile trying to think more positive about a better life and bettering myself.
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I can't wait to find "home"
by GumballMachine
Last post
 January 13th
...See more As I finish my degree this year, I am experiencing immense suffering. I failed to have a rewarding life and find what I was looking for in this city when I moved here a few years ago to start studying. I tried to look for a purpose and have a “home,” including somewhere I belong socially. The only thing I will find in the end will be my degree. However, although I am graduating, I am not even excited or happy about it. I could care less because my life is so bad. During my degree, the only significant thing that happened is that I discovered how much I want to leave the continent and find my home and “real life” abroad. I am suffering immensely socially as well and need to deal with everything alone. Since 2019, most of my life fell away (not due to any conflict) including my closest friends and close family. Although I worked on my degree during that time, it is no excuse for people to leave my life. For the past years it has been me who has needed to initiate interactions with others, and worst yet, interactions have become incessantly unrewarding and not long-lasting. Any effort to make new friends has been unsuccessful as well. Everyone in this city, including roommates and random strangers anywhere, have been rude and distant, or simply unappealing or unrelatable. People do not appreciate me in general. They haven’t even wanted to hire me when I applied for employment and had several interviews for what I was eligible for. People do not want anything to do with me or connect personally. As a result of having no social circle, I am extremely isolated. It is made worse due to the high level of use of digital technology to mediate social relations. This all has been horrible for me, since due to inherent social need, nobody should be constantly alone or neglected as I have been. I simply cannot connect with anyone on this continent unless they are not from here, for many reasons. I am tired of cultures that promote individualism as well as social interaction through digital technology. I can’t wait to move somewhere where I will have a better social life. Overall, I just want to find where I belong and where I can enjoy life no matter what it throws at me, with the people who will become my family. It feels like no matter how long I stay here life will only be inconvenient and not have a higher purpose. Life is meaningless, unrewarding, and arbitrary here.

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