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Relationship boredom
Newbie Hub / by selfdisciplinedMelon5895
Last post
 October 28th
...See more I’ve been married for 8 years. We have children together. The relationship itself is fine but I’m finding myself bored. Naturally I’m a person who likes to do new things (serial entrepreneur - starting a new venture in my mid 30s). its the bedroom life that’s bothering me. It’s the exact same thing for the last 10 years. I know having a family def screws with all of that but I literally don’t want to do anything with him - or really I don’t want to initiate it. When we do have sex, it’s actually pretty good… but it’s everything that leads up to it that I dread. the last few months I found myself on public chat rooms and that actually helped. I chatted and exchanged photos with new people and it actually “sparked” my drive and it made it easier to jump my husbands bones. He found out, wasn’t happy, so I quit it all. I don’t necessarily want to leave him, he’s a great partner and father, but I’m missing something… does anyone else feel like humans aren’t meant to be monotonous not just with partners but life in general. We all get burned out from jobs, hobbies, why is it so taboo to admit that you’re burned out on your partner or even just burned out on your partners member.
Can sex be just sex?
Relationship Stress / by selfdisciplinedMelon5895
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more I’m not sure how to really put this, my thoughts are all over the place. After my first child, 2 years ago - I have completely lost my sex drive. My poor spouse has suffered my mood swings abs lack of sex (and even worse we’re trying for another kid - which, well… involves sex, so I feel bad, I feel like I’m using him). Anyway. I often feel like I would be 1000% OK if he were to have a sexual - and only sexual - relationship outside of me. I know those needs need to be met and I don’t want to fulfill those needs (I don’t want to fulfill those needs with anyone, so im not NOT attracted to him or anything). However I have recently thought about sexual relations with other men… and THATS it. I still want the relationship with my spouse, for him to be my person .. and well, still have relations… but both of us have relations with others. Ugh… I feel all over the place here lol.
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