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scarletOwl
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Help! Where is the place to *answer* questions?
Newbie Hub / by scarletOwl
Last post
 June 8th, 2020
...See more When I first started on 7 cups, I remember there being a place you could go to instantly answer forum questions. It was like a box in the middle of the page and it would let you click through forum questions and answer them (without actually going into the actually forum posts). It was a very quick and efficient way to help others and participate. Does anyone know where this page is ... or if it still exists? Thank you!
Please help. Feeling hurt and discarded.
Relationship Stress / by scarletOwl
Last post
 June 8th, 2020
...See more I'm in the middle of a divorce (my ex was emotionally abusive and we were together 12 years). I started talking to a guy back in Feb and we agreed we were looking for someone to hang out with casually (neither of us want it to go anywhere long term). Back in April/May, we started hanging out pretty regularly. It felt nice to be spending time with someone again. Then, all of a sudden, he got really distant. We've developed a great friendship and we talked openly about how this is something he often does (we often talk about our respective issues). He still texts every day, but it's been three weeks of him being very distant. Now, it's been over a week since I've even seen him. Whene I speak up about how painful this sudden switch is for me, he gets annoyed and isn't compassionate. I'm so hurt. I've tried to wait for him to come back around, but we're going on week 4. I'm just heartbroken that he can't seem to find it in him to really care about how painful this is for me... to go from hanging out every other day and texting all day every day... to barely seeing him and very few texts (no more morning texts). Just feeling heartbroken, hurt, abandoned, discarded, and angry. Can't seem to stop feeling that pange of hurt every morning when I look at my phone and there's no text... or when I think about how he hasn't wanted to spend time with me for over a week (and barely at all in the weeks before that).
Psychologically abused and my friends don't believe me
Trauma Support / by scarletOwl
Last post
 October 14th, 2019
...See more About two years ago I realized that I'm in an emotionally and psychologically abusive marriage. I have one friend who understands, but the others don't believe me. It's hard enough to call abuse what it is. It's so hard to say it out loud. And since I've been psychologically abused for 10+ years, I get confused easily. That alone makes it hard to believe myself. Plus it's scary and awful to be in the abuse cycle... where sometimes he's wonderful and I think it's all okay.. and then other days he becomes this awful person that I hardly recognize. I just wish people would believe me when I told them. It hurts to be invalidated by my friends and the people around me... just because it looks "fine" from the outside. Feeling heartbroken, invalidated, and alone.
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