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amicableMoon5744
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My partner refused to help with my anxiety
Anxiety Support / by amicableMoon5744
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August 10th
...See more Hi everyone, I'm feeling a lot hurt right now and I need some outside perspective. Me and my partner were arguing about something trivial, when he said that something I did was something typical of stupid people to do, and i panicked because it's a huge phobia of mine to be considered stupid by him (he has... little tolerance towards "stupidity"). I asked him, if he ever implies something I do is stupid (which is fine! We don't have to agree to everything) to just reassure me that he doesn't think I am stupid. He refused to do it even if I asked multiple times, telling me he found it an insult to my intelligence (even if I repeteadly told him it would actually make me feel better), then agreed by saying that if I wanted to be treated like a mental institute patient he would do it. It took a lot of me to just ask for this, as I'm not used to be vulnerable about my social anxiety, and it's only after a few months of therapy that I've started asking for explicit support about my phobias. Everyone has been supportive apart from him, and I'm now hurt and confused because I don't feel like asking for too much? He made me feel kind of pathetic for asking, honestly. He knows of my anxiety, knows other people have been supporting me, kows how terrified I am to be seen as stupid by him, so I don't really understand his reaction. Am I overreacting in considering this extremely serious?