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aliceinwonderland22
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Consistent goodbyes and obstacles
Relationship Stress / by aliceinwonderland22
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 November 15th, 2020
...See more I'm feeling frustrated and hopeless. Each time I finally find a guy I click with, I open myself up to them, an obstacle appears, and the obstacle is usually them moving interstate or countries. Recently, I fell head over heels for a guy, who ticks all of my boxes and is one of the most kind hearted people I've ever been with, and he tells me he's moving to the other side of the world for work. In the middle of a global pandemic. The two guys before him both moved interstate for their careers. I'm so sick of opening myself up to someone who's just going to leave me. I know it's nothing personal, but that's almost worse. If it were personal, I could do something about it. Instead, I'm encountering constant obstacles in my love life, and losing hope each time. It hasn't gotten easier to say goodbye.
Putting myself out there is making me miss my ex
Relationship Stress / by aliceinwonderland22
Last post
 February 5th, 2020
...See more My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, although I knew the break up was coming a bit before it actually happened. I've recently started using dating apps to try and put myself out there/move on and just have a bit of fun. I'm not ready for anything serious but I also had the idea that dating would show me there are plenty of other men out there and I shouldn't be TOO cut up about my ex and I breaking up (not like it was my choice anyway). However, I've had a few negative experiences since dating (e.g. one guy bragging to me about how he cheated on his ex and never told her...on a second date!!), and it has left me coming home each night feeling miserable and missing my ex. This has sparked a lot of self criticism and helpless feelings surrounding our break up and my own faults within the relationship. For example, I'm questioning whether I should have complained about certain things my ex would do, because at the end of the day he was a good, honets loyal man. Anyway, I'm sure I'm not the only one who's felt like this before. I just thought a bit of harmless dating would be fun but I just feel like it's making things worse. If anyone has any similar stories/experiences or advice please feel free to comment, need some positivity.
My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday
Relationship Stress / by aliceinwonderland22
Last post
 December 27th, 2019
...See more My partner and I split yesterday after 2 years. He said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be in this relationship and that his heart was no longer in it. This is the second time we've split up for similar reasons. I have GAD and I know my anxiety played a role in the break up but I'm trying not to blame myself for it. At the end of the day, I was willing to work on us more than he was. It's really hard because we were a strong couple with so much potential, but I guess he wasn't ready for a serious relationship or taking the next step, nor was he willing to compromise during conflict (especially towards the end, but I do remember he did sometimes at the beginning). He was an amazing guy, but our relationship was always a bit of a roller coaster. For example, we would have discussions about getting engaged, moving in together etc or we would be in a really good place, and a few days later we would be on bad terms/he would be unsure about us. This uncertainty would increase my anxiety and make me feel so insecure, about myself and the relationship. I do admit there were times I was impulsive and said things I should never have said (which I regret immensely) but for the most part I was a good girlfriend. Even after the break up, he called me last night and told me he can still see us getting married, and maybe in a few weeks/months/years we will get back together. I don't know if having conversations like that is helping me or hindering me from moving on. I miss him already and it's hard to cut ties with him. I don't know what I should be doing right now.
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