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IcedTea95
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Hey!! Welcome to 7 Cups
-I usually take one chat at a time but feel free to leave a message and I will get back to you as soon as possible-
"It's okay not to be okay"
I'm just a random 22-year-old who likes to listen because I know what it's like to be overwhelmed by life challenges. Everyone is different and I won't judge you in any way.
If you're looking for someone to talk to about what you're going through, please leave a message and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.
Looking forward to our chat!!
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Do you have social anxiety?
Anxiety Support / by IcedTea95
Last post
 May 4th, 2016
...See more Hi everyone! I've had social anxiety since I was very young- In fact, I can't remember a day in my life without it. I'd like to share with you the short version of my story. If you are suffering from SA, I do hope you can find something to relate to- you are not alone in this! Trigger Warning* Content below may not be suitable for everyone. What happened to me? *I remember the first year of primary school when I was 6 years old. I guess everyone was nervous because of the new environment. I cried almost every day before going to school and sometimes I got so scared that I would completely break down outside the school gates in front of everyone. Over those years in primary school, every single person has called me "shy", "mute" and "quiet" and everyone would try so hard to get me to talk. To me, life in school was a disaster. I started going to secondary school at 12y/o and I met a whole lot of new people. The bullying started in the first week of school. My whole class hated me and sometimes my teachers would laugh with them. Everyone said it was wrong to be quiet and would stop at nothing until they could get me to say something. At this point, my parents kept denying the fact that I have SA and said I would grow out of it. They would blame me for being quiet and say something like "Why is this so difficult for you? Everyone can do it". I met my only friend when I was 16 and my life was changed forever. We talked and talked... and I was hopeful that I was turning my life around. For certain reasons, my only friend left and I had never felt more depressed. I started questioning myself and hating myself as a person. I didn't tell my parents because I knew they would be upset.* *(Details are deleted to make the thread less boring) What happens now? Now I'm 20. If you ask me, I didn't grow out of it.. I didn't turn my life around but I can tell you that I didn't waste my time going through my problems Life is not about what you lost, it's about what you gained. I still hate having social anxiety.. I've missed out so much when I was a teenager but at the same time, I've become a strong person I had never imagined I could be. If I can be strong, so can you. Icedtea
Do you have social anxiety?
Anxiety Support / by IcedTea95
Last post
 February 18th, 2016
...See more Hello everyone! Most of us have probably experienced challenges in our social lives. For people who have Social Anxiety, these challenges can be overwhelming. If you are reading this, you are probably suffering from it yourself, or intend to help someone. I am not an expert, just someone who was in your shoes. I would like to take this opportunity to share with you what I think. This is not a guide or tips on anxiety, but something we can think about. Anxiety or anxiety? Sometimes anxiety is not just about feeling anxious. It is likely you also feel sad, lonely and regret. Yes, we feel anxious because we anticipate what is going to happen in the future. There is uncertainty in this world and what if something goes wrong? It is perfect if everything goes our way, but what if it does not? I have to admit, these thoughts are not totally irrational because we cannot always get what we want. If something unexpected happens, you may tell yourself :"Maybe I was right all along". By telling yourself that, you are feeding the anxiety, generating more negative energy of disappointment and sadness. Eventually, you feel anxious now because of what might happen in the future, and down because of what happened in the past, which leads to future assumptions. You are capable Social anxiety does not define who we are. It does not make you less capable than others. Let's say you have to attend an event where you need to talk to strangers. You start thinking about the possible outcome of it and every aspects of the event. Does this make you weak? No! Your mind is strong enough to analyse everything in order to protect yourself from any potential danger. I am not supporting this behaviour which may make you feel more anxious (*perhaps we can work on this or think about this later), I just want to point out that you ARE more capable than you think... and no, it does not make you look stupid. As much as I want to talk about social anxiety, everyone faces different difficulties and the way I dealt with anxiety does not necessarily mean it will apply to you However, being socially anxious does not make you less important, you deserve to be happy like everybody else (like me..) This is all for now... think about it and hopefully you will feel better soon IcedTea95​
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Fantastic, really helped.
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IcedTea95 was very kind and attentive~~she cared about the issue I was struggling with, and tried to not only see things from my perspective, but with a well-rounded viewpoint. I appreciated her encouragement to see a counselor--because the issue I'm facing is one that keeps coming up again and again as a common theme in my life. It's time to find out WHY. IcedTea95 was a good fit, as a listener, for me. Thank you. :)
Be patient, icedtea is very good. :)
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