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Validating and Channeling our Emotions
Grief & Loss / by HealingTalk
Last post
 February 2nd
...See more ------------------------- This thread is part of the "Emotional Awareness Week Event" - January 2024 Click HERE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/grief/CommunitySpace_2586/EmotionalAwarenessWeekEventMasterpost_322259/] to go to the Masterpost ------------------------- Hello, wonderful Grief and Loss Community! In this third post of our “Emotional Awareness” Event, I propose you to reflect on Validating and Channeling our Emotions. As we discussed in previous posts of this Event, consciously identifying our emotions gives us the possibility of understanding, validating and channeling each of them in its proper way. Thoughts like “I feel awful” or “I am a mess” don’t help us much in this respect. We need to identify specific emotions so we can do something appropriate and helpful about each of them. For example, after a serious loss, we might feel “awful” in general. This “feeling awful” might be composed of a host of emotions. Very Sad for the loss. Angry at the situation, how unfair it is. Scared of our emotional future. Less valuable, as we lost someone who used to bring meaning and value to our lives. Shamed by invalidating external factors like culture and people who hurry up to “get over it”. And so on. After identifying the specific emotions we are experiencing, we know much better what is happening to us, which is reassuring in itself. Even if we continue to feel “awful”, now we know exactly what’s going on. We can now validate each of these emotions on their own terms. Validating our emotions is about accepting, and understanding them without judgment, taking our feelings seriously and giving ourselves permission to feel them, no matter how “positive” or “negative” they may be considered in our culture.. All feelings are valid and there's no need to judge or criticize ourselves for feeling a certain way. it's okay to feel whatever we are feeling. To reinforce this non-judgemental, validating attitude towards our emotions, we can use affirmations like, "It makes sense that I would feel this way given the situation", or "I'm doing the best I can, including feeling these emotions". And deal with each emotion by expressing and channeling it in its specific proper way, further understanding them, validating them as a genuine part of our emotional life, and challenging problematic assumptions, for example about our worth and our future. Validating and channeling emotions is a skill that can be practiced and improved. Emotions have different qualities, and degrees of intensity, and each one has a meaning, a reason, and a proper way of channeling them. Sadness, for example, can be channeled in a cathartic way by crying. Give yourself the time and space to cry and validate it as a genuine expression of your true feelings. Some people find it difficult to cry. They might benefit from finding some cathalyst that triggers crying, like listening to emotional music, reading poems about grief, or contemplating any other intense artistic expression of sadness. Some people find it useful to write in a journal about their sadness, in a direct or a poetic way. We might also feel a lot of Anger about the unfairness of this world, and how random events bring much suffering to innocent people. Anger carries a lot of energy, and we might channel this energy to things that make this world a little less unfair. For example volunteering in activities that mitigate suffering. Even seemingly small things, like spending some time in 7 Cups answering posts of people who are struggling right now, might be a way to channel that energy from righteous anger into things that make this world a more caring place. Emotions like fear of the future, shame, or guilt, might be re-examined and dealt with head-on. Asking questions is a great way to start. For example, asking What certainty do I have that my future will be so bleak? What can I do to make it better? What external factors invalidate my emotions and promote shame? What responsibility I have in what happened? Could I have done something different to avert the worst? And if we think so, identify it and practice self-forgiveness. These are just some examples. You might find your own way to channel each specific emotion once you have acknowledged and validated them. What about positive emotions? We might benefit from identifying, nurturing, and promoting positive emotions as well. Even if they are fleeting, lasting only for a brief time, or seem out of place when we are grieving. Despite our general mood being very down, we might find positive emotions in our daily lives and be aware of them when they are present. It is very important not to feel guilty about positive emotions while grieving. Grief might be an emotional rollercoaster with marked ups and downs, and the ups are as valid as the downs. We might recall good memories of happy times with a person we lost. We might enjoy some music, even very sad music. We might feel the warmth of friends and family. The beauty of a nice day. The fun of a comedy film. The fulfillment and satisfaction at the completion of a meaningful project. Next month Kristy ( @Kristynsmama ) will propose a very meaningful activity that best exemplifies the kind of projects we might embark on while grieving, to give full expression to the love we have for those hugely valuable people in our lives who we have lost. ------------------------- Questions: * Have you ever felt that your emotions are invalidated by someone or even by yourself? * How do you express and channel your emotions while grieving?  -------------------------
Acknowledging our Emotions
Grief & Loss / by HealingTalk
Last post
 March 24th
...See more ------------------------- This thread is part of the "Emotional Awareness Week Event" - January 2024 Click HERE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/grief/CommunitySpace_2586/EmotionalAwarenessWeekEventMasterpost_322259/] to go to the Masterpost ------------------------- Hello, wonderful Grief and Loss Community! In this second post of our “Emotional Awareness” Event, I propose you to reflect on the need and the benefits of "Acknowledging our Emotions". We will reflect on how emotions need to be recognized and acknowledged. How they claim to be seen and expressed, and how denial and repression of emotions might lead to negative psychological, physical and even social effects. Our mind might hide from view some emotions that are painful, like sadness, or that we don’t like to see as part of our personality, like anger. It will hide them in our mind’s “basement”, below ground level, "the unconscious". But those emotions won’t disappear. If repressed, they might manifest themselves in unhealthy ways. We might increasingly “feel awful” without knowing why. We might become anxious without explanation. We might even suffer physical consequences. Like a wound that is neglected, this might get worse with time. Repressed emotions worsen our mental health and might lead to exhaustion, stress, and stress-related illnesses. And even hurt valuable relations by treating others in hurtful ways we are not aware of, nor control. Repressing emotions is stressful, mentally demanding, and energy-depleting. The need for acknowledging our emotions has been recognized in traditional cultures worldwide since time immemorial. Particular rituals were practiced to recognize and express emotions, and very significantly, Grief. Grief has a prominent, highly visible place in the social life and expressions of most traditional cultures worldwide. But in our secularized, efficiency-focused, quick-fix-happiness and success-obsessed contemporary culture, emotions might be dismissed or even considered a burden in the way of achieving goals and “success”.  However, we also have in our cultural heritage some elements that promote acknowledging our emotions. For example, in Western culture, there is a tradition that goes back to the Greeks of 500 BC, who encouraged the deliberate expression, or “Catharsis”, of intense emotions through theatre (we now have movies as well for that), and ritualized community gatherings that included music and songs specific to represent and elicit each emotional state. More recently, we might recall influential thinkers like Carl Jung and Sigmund Freud, whose “Psychoanalysis” has as one of its main goals unearthing emotions that lie deep in the mind, and bringing them to the surface, to consciousness. While psychoanalysis itself lost its appeal as a therapeutic technique, the idea of making visible emotions lying deep and previously unseen, stood strong. and is at the core of most thinking about mental health. And here at home, in 7 Cups, this concept is central to the book “7 Cups for the Searching Soul” (get it HERE [https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/611898]),  which condenses in an accessible way the core ideas promoted in our Community. It is also frequently reminded to us in many posts and group support sessions by thoughtful Cupsers. Likewise, acknowledging emotions is one of the main goals of Active Listening, the emotional support practice central to 7 Cups. Quoting that wonderful book: “You’ll recall the iceberg metaphor. The part above the surface represents the conscious mind. The much larger part below the surface represents the unconscious mind. We like to believe that we are fully aware, but much of what we think, feel, and do actually happens below the surface, outside of our awareness” Bringing to the surface, recognizing and acknowledging this large part of ourselves that might remain hidden, is the most healthy way to deal with our emotions, even if they might be unpleasant, distressful, or painful. We will discuss, in upcoming posts, the great value of these wrongly considered “negative” emotions, and why it is crucial to give them a "first seat" in our lives. ------------------------- Questions: * What emotions feel the most genuine expressions of your true self?  * Do you have any emotions that seem out of place, like they don’t represent who you are? * How do you deal with these different groups of emotions? -------------------------
Emotional Awareness Week Event - Masterpost
Grief & Loss / by HealingTalk
Last post
 April 7th
...See more ------------------------- Hello, wonderful Grief and Loss Community! This week we will be holding a Community Event on “Emotional Awareness” This Event consists of three Forum Threads that will be posted this week (click the underlined ones to go to each post): * Tuesday 23: “Emotional Awareness: Listening to our Inner Music [https://www.7cups.com/forum/grief/CommunitySpace_2586/EmotionalAwarenesslisteningtoourinnermusic_322258/]” * Wednesday 24: “Acknowledging our Emotions [https://www.7cups.com/forum/grief/CommunitySpace_2586/AcknowledgingourEmotions_322327/]” * Thursday 25: “Validating and Channeling our Emotions [https://www.7cups.com/forum/grief/CommunitySpace_2586/ValidatingandChannelingourEmotions_322396/]” I hope you find these topics interesting, and I invite you to participate actively in this Event by sharing your thoughts in each thread. See you there! * "La Mélancolie", Louis Jean-François Lagrenée, 1785 (Oil on canvas) -------------------------
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