My boyfriend or girlfriend is embarrassed of me. What should I do?
Anonymous
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Nov 11, 2015
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If ur relationship partner is ashamed of you. Don't care whatever the reason maybe. If you can accept their mistakes and flaws why can't they. Love is all about loving and caring for each other irrespective of their mistakes or even their ordinary behaviour. If you are fat take pride in that, if u speak too much or too less take pride in that, if you do anything that defines you be round of that because that's who and what you are. You've no need to change it for a person who can't accept the real you but want another person out of you according to their own preference. Wish them all the best for your life and move ahead there definty someone who'll never be embarrassed by you and will love you no matter what happens.
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Anonymous
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Feb 9, 2016
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Leave them! You deserve someone who loves you for who you are. You should never feel ashamed and you should never feel less than anyone else. If they have such a problem with you, then why bother giving them the time of day? You deserve better.
ZeeV
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Feb 8, 2016
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If someone is embarrassed to be with you, the most important part is to think about why that is. Are they a naturally shy and self conscious person? Do you like to draw attention to yourself? Does their embarrassment stem from having the spotlight on them or does it stem from their belief that your actions reflect negatively on themselves? There's a difference between, "It's embarrassing when you shout loudly in the middle of a crowd to draw attention to us" and "I don't like the way you dress, you look like a slob and it's embarrassing". If it's the former, there's a good chance that the embarrassment has nothing to do with you personally. Your partner may just not be as outgoing as you are, and that can be okay. If your partner is embarrassed because they think that your actions reflect negatively on them, than that's a different story. When you date someone, it should be because you like and accept them as the person they are. You should never be compelled to change things that you like about yourself because someone else may not like those parts of you. Everyone deserves someone who accepts them for the person that they are. If your boyfriend or girlfriend makes you feel bad about yourself, maybe it's best to move on.
Anonymous
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Dec 3, 2015
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Ask yourself if this person is accepting you for who you are. In our society, it's not nice being judged by anyone, but for your partner to feel embarrassment about you, well that's just an undesirable feeling you shouldn't have to put up with. Your partner should support you and embrace who you are.
FluffyPenguins
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Dec 2, 2015
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I think that the key in this case is communication. Since the question of "What should I do" is being asked, I can sense that the desired result is to have a happy, healthy relationship. Talk to them and relay your feelings in a constructive way; confrontation doesn't have to be negative. Point out to them that they are doing something that bothers you, BUT make sure you don't push all the blame onto them or they may feel attacked. Let them know that it is an emotion that YOU are feeling and that the issue is a two-way street, and that as a couple, you both share responsibility in the issue. When done well, confrontation about unhappy thoughts can result in an amazing sense of relief and a strengthened relationship.
BrooklynRose
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Jan 4, 2016
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I think you should leave them. Don't even question them about their opinions on you because they don't matter, you deserve to feel unconditionally loved and cared for.
WorldCitizenSam
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Nov 7, 2015
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Real love is when we admire someone, respect them, and appreciate for who they ar, regardless of what their physical appearance, social class, or any external thing that doesn't define us as human beings. Yeal love doesn't see flaws, only imperfections that make us unique. If your partner is not proud of showing you to the rest of the world, than they don't deserve a place in your life. Find someone who celebrates your uniqueness!
Anonymous
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Dec 5, 2015
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If your girlfriend or boyfriend is embarrassed, you should ask them why and have a talk with them and make a compromise that would work between the two of you to salvage your relationship.
Anonymous
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Nov 7, 2015
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I found that I felt the same way with my past boyfriend, and I also had no clue what to do. I ended up just talking to him about it and it turns out that I had just been misreading the situations and overthinking things. Sometimes in order to know the truth you just have to ask.
Sageflower140
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Nov 8, 2015
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If your boyfriend or girlfriend is embarrassed of you, chances are that they are not worthy of being with you. If they can't see how beautiful and how wonderful of a person you are then they are not worth you time. You shouldn't even waste your time fighting with them because they are simply not worth it. What I would suggest you do is break up with them because being in a toxic relationship like that is not loving and caring as it should be. You should not waste your time trying to fix the relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend because if they really feel that way about you then they obviously don't love you and aren't worth your love. Seek out people who love you and see how good of a person you are. These are the people you should spend your time with.
Anonymous
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Nov 8, 2015
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Ask him/her why they feel this way, and if it cannot be resolved then it would be best to end it the relationship.
4CinderandSage
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Nov 7, 2015
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Are their reasons valid or superficial? If valid, it's your choice to understand, accept and try to improve. If superficial, decide whether they are healthy for you. No one should break down your sel-worth.
Anonymous
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Nov 7, 2015
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If the embarrassment is about looks...you should probably leave him cuz it's not looks all the time...you can't love someone for lifetime for their looks.
But if it is some kind of behaviour issue...one has to think whether such behaviour is right one or not. If it is a good one you have to be yourself. If not, change for good and love him more...
magneticLight30
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Mar 4, 2018
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you need a partner who is not embarrassed of you. who thinks of you as equal to him/her. leave her/him. but still you can ask for the reason why that person is embarrassed of you and if it is because of something you did wrong then correct it.
Anonymous
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Nov 15, 2015
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be honest and say how you feel, if they're embarrassed of you, they don't deserve you. You have agreed to be in a relationship, not hide
7MugsOfCoffee
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Dec 2, 2015
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If you're feeling like your partner is embarrassed of you in any kind of way, the best thing you could do to put your mind at ease is to sit down with your partner and explain to them what's going on in your mind at this moment in time and that you feel like they may be embarrassed of you or how you're acting. Ask them what it is so you both can work it out together :) But first ask yourself what the reason could be, at least that way you will have an understanding of what's going to be said when you have that sit down with each other. Be strong! and remember talking is the key.
Shikamaru42
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Jan 4, 2016
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Confront them. Tell them that you feel like they are embarrassed of you. Ask for reasons and try to understand those reasons. If any of them offend you as a person, you should reconsider the relationship.
SereneDreamer87
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Apr 29, 2018
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Are sure of this feeling of your boyfriend/girlfriend? If you are, what about you is making him/her embarrassed? Talking to him/her directly in non confrontational tone will help. Show sure signs of you wanting to solve this for both of you. Cheers
compassionateButterfly91
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Nov 7, 2015
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you should talk to them and find out what they are embarrassed about. remember your unique and don't let anyone change anything about you
lovinglife99
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Apr 25, 2016
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talk with them and express to them how you feel. you never know, maybe its something with them and not you at all!
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