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Group Support Feedback for the Relationship Stress Community ✨💓
by KatePersephone
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2 days ago
...See more Hello community! This forum thread has been created for the purpose of sharing the feedback our amazing hosts have received for the discussions they have hosted!
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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (January 27 - February 2)
by KatePersephone
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Thursday
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s your favorite way to spend a weekend? * Do you prefer exploring cities or nature? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
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January 21st
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInFebruary39_345936/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @cyanCranberry3855 @OlivePotatoes @jazsan89 @RunReadRepeat @limeKitten8854 @adaptableAcres6240 @decisivein122 @NinaaZondag @eczlipse @limegreenOcean3115 @wakulien @jasonmp @Jordan404 @brightCherry7816 @funnyFig4527 @ILoveYou00426 @affableEyes2498 @azureRaspberries538 @intellectualCherry8631 @calmSky173 @oliveWalker4288 @ColoringUnicorn @affectionateChestnut6193 [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] 
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Feel insecure and that everyone's against my relationship
by justanotherpersonyknow
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7 hours ago
...See more I am a young adult college girl who's seeing a guy. I feel insecure about my relationship due to I feel like everyone in my life I know is against me having a relationship. I haven't told my mom or my dad yet, mostly because my mom told me that I "deserve to get rejected" for asking out a boy. I also had an ex friend who would call me an attention seeker and lonely for wanting to be in a relationship. Sometimes I wonder if I'm the problem due to having a lot of issues with abusive men that I've had relationships with in the past, so maybe they were just trying to help me, but I can't help but feel mad at my mom and my ex friend. Especially since my ex-friend would vent about me to other people and threaten to harm himself because of me ghosting him due to him constantly sending me mean messages. So due to all of this I feel insecure about my relationship, and I feel like I constantly have to be validated. Sorry for the rambling, I just had a lot in my head, and I hope for advice. Thanks for reading btw.
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I told him to block me but that’s not what I wanted
by passionateDay9792
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9 hours ago
...See more So l was seeing this guy and I happened to get really annoyed at something he did, and basically I let my frustration get the best of me and told him to leave me alone and basically to block me and he did : (I didn't actually mean it, I was just upset and it slipped out, now I don't know what to do, I want to explain myself because I still want to keep seeing him
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Love after baby
by Thoughtdweller
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10 hours ago
...See more I’m having trouble connecting with my partner after having our baby. He is finding the adjustment very difficult and I feel like I’m walking on eggshells everyday. we haven’t been intimate in anyway (3months) even though I try to initiate it all the time, I try to kiss him passionately and I get a peck and turns his head away.. I’ve dressed in lingerie, had the baby asleep and nothing.. I’ve sent nsfw photos to him trying to get something and I get nothing. It’s starting to really take a toll on me and my self esteem as I can only take so much rejection… I know relationships are more than sex, I’ve tried to talk to him about how he feels, how I can support him, does he feel like he’s missing something and I get nothing useful in return. I’m just at a loss. does anyone have advice on bringing the spark back after having a baby and how to support a depressed partner?
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Should I unfollow? (Breakup after 4 1/2 years)
by intuitivePenguin4529
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14 hours ago
...See more Hi everyone! below is the context to the breakup that i’ve posted before: “my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me officially over text earlier. We were meant to just be on a break to reassess because he wanted to break up, and then we were going to meet up in person to speak to each other after a month. Well... he sent me a whole paragraph earlier officially ending things, saying he's sorry and that there's nothing wrong with me but he can't be there for me emotionally and mentally. He said he doesn't regret the 4 1/2 years and thinks its best that we don't meet up in person anymore.. I haven't replied and I may never reply because the past few days I really started to see him in a different light. The amount of times i've tried to justify his behaviour towards me, the effort I poured in when I barely got even the bare minimum and then the disrespect when he told me he wanted to break up a few days before i leave for my home country for the month when he knows I haven't been home in over 5 years.” I posted this a month ago. now he’s making new songs and posting a lot compared to when we were in a relationship, and it doesn’t bother me that he’s writing love songs because I don’t know who it’s about to be honest but I’m not sure if I should unfollow or block him? The way he ended the relationship was a disrespect towards me and I use that as my closure now. I’m asking this because I feel like I shouldn’t really keep his energy around, I feel like he thinks i’m okay with things ending the way they did because I didn’t unfollow or block him? if anyone can offer advice because i’m torn right now, there’s a part of me that wants to leave him unblocked so he can see my posts and maybe regret what he’s done (I rarely post though so Idk if that even matters) but then there’s a part of me that would rather just leave everything behind and not keep things open, because he still has access to me when maybe he shouldn’t? so it’s pretty conflicting… i hope someone understands why im torn about this lol
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Solo Thriving
by Heera72
Last post
15 hours ago
...See more Many people consider loneliness an epidemic, but thriving alone can be beneficial in many ways. Thriving solo is essential because it builds self-reliance, confidence, and emotional strength. When we learn to enjoy our company, we become less dependent on others for happiness and validation. It allows us to discover our true passions, develop new skills, and grow at our own pace. Being comfortable alone also improves decision-making, as we learn to trust ourselves without external influence. Additionally, self-sufficiency makes relationships healthier since we connect with others out of choice rather than need. Ultimately, thriving solo leads to personal fulfillment and a deeper understanding of oneself. https://yourmentalhealthpal.com/complete-guide-on-what-to-do-when-you-are-lonely/
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Lonely
by ShamrockViking
Last post
20 hours ago
...See more In home separated. Lonely. Wanting touch and intimacy. Feeling unloved and unwanted. Fearful of the future.
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Need advice
by Mmurphy0731
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21 hours ago
...See more It’s so long but my 39 SO and I 38M have been struggling for a while. But in the past 6 months a lot of things have happened. I said I’d never give up, but now I’m at the point I actually want to, but I also feel I need to stay to help her.
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Time to go
by Grmb1957
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1 day ago
...See more New on here, just feel the need to vent, apologies up front. I've been married for 44+ years, I understand things will slow down/change/develop but my wife seems to be happy in a sterile relationship and I'm finally done.  I can and have lived with a plethora of issues from her, her family, her friends, and all I have ever asked is that she shows some form of intimacy.  Sex would be great, but truthfully just a touch, a hug, a kiss would have been enough.  She has NEVER initiated anything over the past 20 years and we've talked about it, I've left a few times, but ALWAYS give way and return under threat of changing.  She shows more affection to her dog (i hate the ***-and I love dogs, all dogs and they love me) but this creature is allowed to do anything despite her promising it would change.  It has no boundary, no discipline and it is her priority over me.  I have finally reached my limit and want to live my final years in peace and without her.  I still love her, but have realised (far too late) that her words mean nothing without the actions to prove her sincerity.  I am job hunting in my late 60's anywhere in the country away from her.  I've cried my last tear and I'm steeling my heart to get away.  I don't want to hate her, but I know that's how I'll feel if i don't leave.  I cannot face another round of false promises and pain.  It's overwhelming.
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I feel hopeless
by persistentJar149
Last post
1 day ago
...See more So I’ve always been depressed since forever, and had bipolar, and anxiety that’s nothing new. Recently it’s been triggered even more than before because my boyfriend broke up with me it was my first time hyperventilating and having a panic attack. We ended up back together but he told me he has lost feelings for me he doesn’t feel the same love from when we first was together. He says he still love me and even if we break up he will be there for me but he probably won’t gain those feelings back. I feel like he feels trapped but it’s my fault. I was begging him back and he knew I was suicidal. I think he’s scared if we break up I will ruin my life. I don’t want him to feel trapped. We been together for 2 years. I love him so much I can’t think of a life without eachother and I don’t want to think of a life without eachother. But I don’t want him unhappy bc soon he will just lose the rest of his feeling and there’s nothing I can do about it. I really want to be with him but Ik I should let him go. I don’t know how to deal with these suicidal thoughts. I really have no one. No one to rely on any more, talk to or anything. I feel so hopeless it’s to the point all I do is cry I don’t even wanna get outta bed. I feel like I have no future. I just want all this to stop it feels like I’m being hit everyday/week with more bad news. My life is falling apart. I don’t think I have the strength this time to make it through.
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FML. Why do I do this? (Story time)
by thespicymango
Last post
1 day ago
...See more I am a sensitive guy. I don't fall for people often, but when I do I am completely magnetised to them. A recent experience became a painful reminder of why I need to change this before it literally turns me into a stone cold a**hole.  So last year I left a long term relationship due to significant differences in life aspirations, and I felt good about it - like a new chapter was beginning. Shortly after, and without meaning to, I met a girl in America during a business trip (I'm from the UK but go there a lot). This girl and I didn't start with any intentions, in fact it was a one-night stand. That night led to a couple more meet ups (walks in the park, dinner in the city etc) before I had to go back home. When I left, I decided to stay in contact with her - she was super cute, nice to spend time with, her dog LOVED me, and we clearly vibed together - so we kept talking.  Some weeks later I get a text that she's PREGNANT (I had been her only sexual partner in 6 months, so definitely mine). That was a massive curveball, and we decided it was best to get an abortion. That was immensely hard on both of us, but more so her due to the fact she had to go through with it without anyone there to support (I 100% would have gone if I could get there soon enough).  That experience definitely brought us closer together, and I booked a flight to go back to her city. I may have lied and said it was for business, but really I just wanted to see her again.  Anyway this was 2 months after the abortion, and we met again a week ago. It was great, like nothing had changed, and I stayed over at her apartment - amazing. We planned to go on dates and had a whole list of things to do before I left.  Then she had to go home to her parents for the weekend, and I waited to see her again. She would text me things like "I miss you" and "When I get back I'm locking you in my apartment" (a joke, but cute flirting) When she got back she invited me over, tired from the drive. I didn't mind, I just wanted to be with her. She fell asleep cuddling me, and I really felt like I had something real here. It was what I had hoped for. The next thing I know, she wakes up and we start to watch a new TV series we were going to binge together that night - she then tells me she doesn't feel great, gets really distant, and starts ignoring me entirely by going on her phone and not engaging with me at all.  I got anxious and confused, and then (maybe stupidly) asked her "So, are you talking to anyone else rn?" She got a little weirded out by my question and said she's not sure what she wants and that we live far away blah blah blah...  I know what that means... The feeling in the air completely changes and it's awkward, so I'm sat there distraught and trying to be calm amidst this unfamiliar discomfort with a girl who until a few hours ago was all over me. She gets upset and says "This feels to awkward and I feel like I want to cry".  I said I was sorry and hugged her because I didn't mean to make her feel like that.  She then says a little while later that she'd like to be alone tonight.  I immediately packed my stuff and left because I was about ready to break down and didn't want to face this situation. A few days later, and after going back to her parents for a few days and asking me to leave her be, I reached out to try and rekindle things. She tells me she isn't ready for a relationship, her mental health and hormones are all over the place and that this wasn't actually anything. I confronted her on how she told me all the things about missing me, wanting me. telling me "This just feels right", etc she apologised, and now I'm here in her city alone wondering wtf I did wrong.  I can't stop crying and wishing it wasn't happening. I risked a lot to come here and it's blown up in my face.  have no one in this city, and still a lot of time until I leave, so I guess I should make the most of my solo adventure even though it's not what I wanted. Moral of the story: Don't be too caring, and don't take people's words as truth, because it'll be taken for granted, and you'll be left broken.
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Feeling lonely and lost
by warmheartedPenguin281
Last post
1 day ago
...See more I am a divorcee. I live with my parents. A year ago I became friends with a man. At first he met as a friend. Then, he told me that I have no one and he made love to me. He promised to marry me. Since I was also single then, I accepted his love. Then we went outside together.we had some physical relationship as well.I told him that my parents would not easily agree to my next life. He also said he would wait. Yesterday he asked me to run away from home. I said I will not come without my parents consent. He started fighting with me. We both had a fight yesterday. This morning I started talking without thinking as usual. But he prepared his biodata and sent it to me. He said that he had sent all his friends and was going to find another girl. I got more and more angry. I said you swore to me and now you are looking for another girl. Again he fought with me. No matter what I say, he doesn't change from trying to find another girl. We broke up this evening. Now I feel like crying and angry and don't know what to do. The person who told me that I am there for so long, has gone in search of another girl in one day. I don't know how to get out of this. I feel lonely.
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Trouble letting go of past hurts in marriage
by lavenderCucumber9487
Last post
1 day ago
...See more Sorry if this is already posted somewhere else, I couldn’t find it again. My husband and I have been married 21 1/2 years. Our daughter just turned 21 and is away at college. When she was born we agreed to do attachment parenting, meaning staying with her until she fell asleep instead of letting her cry. This became a problem because she was not a good sleeper. Sometimes I would fall asleep with her. If not, I was busy with dishes, etc., because he was too tired to help. He often worked 60 hours a week or more. Anyway, he assumed that because I wasn’t watching tv with him, that I didn’t care about him and had used him to have a child. I just found this out from him a couple of years ago. I told him I couldn’t believe he thought this and that it was very hurtful. At the time my mother in law told me it looked like I didn’t care when I’d fall asleep and not come back downstairs, but I said “but I do!” and tried to prove it. I got a watch with a vibrating alarm so it wouldn’t wake our daughter, and so if I did fall asleep, it would wake me without waking the baby, and I’d go back downstairs. And he would ignore me. He would just scowl at the tv and not say anything, as he was fixated on his gory, violent movies, which I hate. I know I’m guilty of having assumed things, too - to me he seemed unapproachable, and I didn’t want to watch what he was watching, so I’d go check my email or something. In retrospect, I should have said, “Hi. Can we watch something else?” So, again a couple of years ago, he told me that he felt even more hurt, because he felt that I hadn’t tried hard enough to get him out of his funk. I asked him how I was supposed to know that. There were times when he did communicate, and say that it seemed like I spent 99.9% of my time with our daughter, (taking care of a baby with no help is time consuming) and that after 8:00pm he didn’t have a wife. I said, “I’ll come back down,” and he would ignore me. And instead of telling me that it seemed to him that I felt like being there was a chore, he decided to start picking on me. For the better part of 15 years he criticized, insulted, belittled, or ignored me. Unfortunately I would react to whatever negative thing he was saying, instead of asking him why he was being so mean to me, and we would just end up bickering. I felt like he punished me for years, based on his assumption about what he thought I had done. We almost split up a couple of times, the last time, two years ago, being the closest we’ve come to divorcing. The next morning, after discussing divorce, he said, “This is hard! I’d miss you!” I said I’d miss him, too, mostly because I felt like that was what I should say. He went upstairs and I texted him, asking him if he wanted to see how it goes for a while. So, we patched things up, and since then he has been like the nice, sweet guy I used to know. He feels like everything is ok now, and it is better, and he has a lot of good qualities and we have a lot in common, but I’m having a hard time resurrecting my loving feelings for him. I wouldn’t expect it to be like the early, passionate days, but I’m having trouble feeling romantic love for him. I say I love him, and I’m trying to feel it again, but it’s more like a fondness. I feel like I’m supposed to forgive and forget and move on, and not hold onto past resentments, but it’s hard to just instantly change how I feel. Our daughter is now studying abroad and we are going to visit her in a few months, and I  don’t want things to be awkward then. So I feel like I’m sort of pretending, and holding my feelings in, trying not to rock the boat, at least for the next few months. I feel guilty for the way I feel, or don’t feel, alternating with anger from the past. Having trouble moving forward and not sure what to do.

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Coping Tools & Resources: Need some resources? Find them here!

Dating Issues/Tips: A place for all things dating.

Friendships: A place for all things friendships.

Relationship Space: A place for all things relationships.

Sexual Health: Need to discuss sexual health? Do it here!

Share Your Story: Share Your Story here!

Teens Only Zone: A place for teens to discuss.

The Self-Care Lounge: Take good care of yourself here!


How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable). Check-in with us, join a discussion, or start one! Alternatively, you can join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.


Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our tag list to be notified whenever there is a new discussion or update within the community!


Relationship Stress FAQ

Q: Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to?

A: You can find sub-community specific guidelines below, which you should follow in addition to the general forum guidelines.


Q: Are there any live group chat rooms?

A: Yes! Adults can join us every Thursday in the Relationships chat room


Help! I still have a question!

If you need help, feel free to contact a community leader or post here, and someone will contact you!

Community Guidelines

Welcome to the Relationship Stress Community!!

✔ Maintain a positive and constructive environment in the Relationship Stress Community. 

✔ Kindly do not express judgments, attack or impose beliefs onto anyone within the community. 

✔ Please do not double post in different areas of forums & always ensure you're posting in the correct area so you can get better support.  To know the various forum areas & get an overview of the community, please Click Here!!

✔ Please do not SPAM any part of the forums with unrelated links or ads.  

Community Leaders
Community Mentor Leader
Forum Supporter
Group Support Mentor / Teen Star
Community Resources

 Making the Sub-Community your home!!

★ Get started with Relationship Community!!

Relationship and Friendship Support  Sub-Community Guide

Welcome Resource: Welcome to the Relationship Support Subcommunity!!

★ Discussion Calendar: Resource for you to know the upcoming support sessions on Relationships. 

★ Breakup FAQs: This is a great resource for all those who experiencing break-up struggles in their lives. 

 7Cups Self-Help Guides: to help you a bit to deal with certain issues you may face in your relationships. 

✔ Breakups

✔ Family Relationships

✔ Surviving Domestic Assault

✔ Forgiveness

★ Ember's Relationship Resources: a list of resources that could help you in understanding your relationships better. 

★ 12 Relationship Tips: A good checklist to improve your relationships. 

Relationship Support Wiki: the place where you can find some great resources on relationships. 

Other Resources:

★ The Relationship Support Forum Team: Learn more about the Relationship Support Community Leadership & Moderation Team. 

★ Apply to be a Forum Supporter!: If you're not a Forum Supporter and would like to be one, please apply through the application. 

★ Become part of the Relationship Support Team:

✔  To join Forum /  Feed Sub-Team, please Click Here!!

✔  To join the Adult Support Team, please Apply Here!!

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