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Grief & Loss Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
 January 15th
...See more Welcome to the Grief & Loss Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 9 September (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Char1984 @CordialBeing @GentleCalmness @HealingTalk @Jaeteuk @LeonardoMarino @mish3l @mytwistedsoul @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @tommy
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Grief Support Session Resumes!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 January 6th
...See more Hello all,  I want to inform everyone that we'll have a Grief Support Session starting this Saturday, 19th of October, at 8.00 pm ET time zone in the Support Session group chat. All are invited to join and participate to explore & discuss the experiences and emotions related to grief. @CaringEzra will lead the sessions. Listeners who are experiencing grief are also welcome to join and participate from their member accounts. We look forward to seeing you there! Note: If anyone like to host some support sessions, please do send me a pm at @ASilentObserver Any and all help will be much appreciated. tagging some of the friends: @Jaeteuk, @Happy2Help18, @reallyoverallofit @jonghyunnie, @BlueDarkAurora, @mytwistedsoul 
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Defining Grief: Understanding Loss and Sorrow
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 21st, 2024
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself.  This post is part of 2 Week's Group Support Event on Grief Awareness [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/GroupSupportCommunityEvents_2295/Joinusfor2WeeksofGriefAwarenessEvent_334437/].   Grief is a complex and personal experience that affects everyone differently. So, the forum thread will be the space to share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences about grief. Let's explore what grief means to you, and how we can better understand and support one another during loss. What is grief?  Grief is a natural response to loss. It can be experienced in many different ways and at varying intensities.  I am sharing a few questions for this week's forum discussion on grief. Please feel free to share your thoughts on any or a few questions as per your comfort. Please include the question that you responding to so we can have a focused discussion.  Questions for discussion:  * Can you describe a time when you experienced grief? What did it feel like? * How does grief differ from sadness? * Are there different types of grief? If so, can you explain them? * How does culture or religion influence our understanding of grief? * What misconceptions about grief have you encountered? * How can we create a more open and supportive environment for those experiencing grief? Tagging a few friends for the discussion:  @marinsen, @summerkay2024, @Catunion, @jonghyunnie, @daydreammemories, @richvision, @mytwistedsoul, @communicativepond1728,  @reallyoverallofit, @tinywhisper11, @jaeteuk, @thoughtlight
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Lost of my 6 week old daughter to SIDS
by optimisticBirch1215
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more It's been 18 years since I lost my daughter and on this day I lost myself. I have a husband and 2 sons and have been there physically but mentally I have been gone. I forgot how to communicate with anyone. I try to be there but my mind is so blank. The last 18 years I have built my life around this and I am the only one in it. The blame and guilt I have for not saving her. I was her mother and I was her protector and I have failed at both. I don't deserve anything because with a mistake like this how can anyone live with there self. I quit self caring for myself since and it's been 1 health emergency after another and husband always makes me go to the hospital when I fight with him that I don't need to go. Just give me 1 more day to see if I am going get betterI have tried consuling, physiatrist's, meds, drugs, and alcohol and can't seem to find anything that helps. I have been stuck but the days and time keep going. Why can a healthy 6 week old die when I do so much damage to myself and I am still here?
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I miss him
by Hiba111
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I was in a situationship with a guy online from my college he was everything i ever wanted but i felt used so i insulted him and he blocked me and i went tl him from 6 numbers and he blocked me i opened up too quickly and too much to the person i really miss him i felt i lost him he was treating le good and was everything i wanted
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Grief and Loss Support Check-in *February 3 ~ February 10 2025*
by CaringEzra
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Grief and Loss Support Check-in  February 3 ~ February 10 2025 Hello, lovely grief and loss support community! Welcome to our weekly check-in.  How are we all doing? I hope that the week is being gentle to you and you find time to take care of yourselves. Some days are harder than others, and sometimes they all just feel hard. Please know you are not alone in these moments, and to please reach out for support if you are struggling. There are listeners, my pms are open, forums, helplines, there is help and hope. I would love to hear updates on what you have been up to and how you are doing. Whatever you are feeling, it's welcomed and valid here. I wish you all an amazing week and year ahead. I am always here for you and you are not alone.<3 •───────•°•❀•°•───────• I would love to welcome you to participate in some reflection questions!  Our weekly check-ins are an opportunity to get to know each other a little bit better and offer continual support. Feel free to answer as many or as few as you would like. Also, feel free to share anything on your mind or just say hi! Whatever you post; we eagerly await your response! •───────•°•❀•°•───────• Here are some reflections for the week ❀ How are you doing? Highs? Lows?❀ ❀ How has your grief felt this week? ❀ ❀ If you could see anyone in concert who would it be? ❀ •───────•°•❀•°•───────• We hope you all have a wonderful week. I look forward to hearing everyone’s responses, and please don't hesitate to reach out for support.
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To my grandpa
by BlackBlueWhite
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello there beautiful people, I'm writing a letter to my grandpa as you guessed, I just wanted to name him and remember him officially, so I just put a TW just in case. I believe I have moved on, but that won't refrain me from remembering him. So it's up to you if you want to read it or not. But feel free to do so. Trigger warning// Writing a letter to sir Asher: First of all I apologize for changing your name, you even wasn't English but I don't want to revive your identity. And secondly, English wasn't your first language but you were good at it, do I hope you resive and understand this. I hope you are doing well, I'm seeing you up in heaven. My mum missed you a lot, but I think you already know. Thanks for being an awesome human, thanks for fighting for women's rights in about 40 years ago or earlier. Thanks for supporting my mum, thanks for being an awesome dad for my mum and taught her to be a awesome parent by your kindness. Thanks for being, you. Today I learned more about you, how open minded you were, for a sec I was about to say you, are. Although I see you in pictures but your memories are fading, it's been about 12 years, I'm 17 now. I wish you were here for me, but I hope you have less responsibilities now, maybe one day I get older than you, I prey that I remember you until the day I die. I'm trying to take a good care of your daughter, I'm trying to move from here and take her and my family with me. Today I learned that it was one of your dreams, seeing your children move from here, but you didn't have the chance to see it. I'm glad that I have your eye color, your creativity, your kindness, your passion for poetry, writing and reading, and drawing. You had lot more talents, but at the moment I'm thinking of those. For now, thanks for listening. Maybe I write to you again in future. God bless your soul, With love, from rain, the only daughter of your oldest children.
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Any Advice?
by Iwiwd
Last post
 Thursday
...See more After the breakup, I find myself thinking about her 2-3 times a day, which is a huge improvement from when I used to constantly replay memories or wonder what went wrong. Now, when I do think about her, I don't focus on what went wrong but rather on how the breakup might have been a good thing in hindsight. My emotional reaction is more neutral now—there’s no longer the intense anger or sadness, but there is still a desire for revenge, even though it's not as overwhelming as before. I guess a part of me still wants some sort of justice for what I went through, but it's not consuming me anymore. In terms of new relationships, I’m am not yet open to the idea of moving on and experiencing new things, and I don’t ever want to venture into another relationship. The betrayal I faced has made me feel like trusting anyone again is pointless. Looking back, I can now see the red flags from the very beginning, which I ignored or justified. Those realizations have left me somewhat stuck in the past, still processing what happened and questioning how I could have been so blind to the signs. I still wish things had turned out differently, but at the same time, I don’t think I would want to go back to that relationship. If she were to come back and beg, I think I’d still say no. Even though there’s a part of me that wants things to have worked out, deep down, I know the relationship isn’t something I should return to. I’m trying to heal and move on. I’ve been focusing on studying for a government exam as a way to distract myself and to have something to work toward. But my motivation is lacking, and I’ve been reading manhwa instead of studying to avoid facing the reality of my situation. I’m not as focused as I should be, and it’s difficult to stay on track. The healing process feels slow, and some days, I still feel stuck in my emotions, especially when I think about how much she hurt me. I don’t think I’ll ever forgive her, and it still feels like a betrayal that cuts deep. Even though I’m struggling with the hurt, I do have moments of happiness when I spend time with my family, especially my niece. I laugh, joke, and enjoy being around them, which gives me some peace. But despite those moments, I still feel like part of me is missing, like I’m not fully whole. I question whether I ever deserved her, and that thought makes me wonder if I’ll ever deserve anyone else. It’s hard to see myself finding happiness again. I don’t think about the future much. It feels like there’s no real future ahead of me. I don’t feel motivated, and I don’t have any ambition. I’m just going through the motions, doing what my family wants me to do, like preparing for this exam. I’m retreating into my room, hiding from everything, pretending to study, and avoiding facing the world around me. This breakup feels different from any other I’ve been through. In my past relationships, I never thought about a future with them the way I did with her. With her, I truly believed we would be together forever. The pain I’m feeling now feels unique, tied to the loss of that dream and the shock of how it all ended. This is a pain I haven’t experienced before, and it's hard to know how to move on from it. Overall, I’m stuck between trying to heal and still grappling with the weight of the betrayal, but the pain feels deep, unique, and hard to let go of.
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A year later & its now feeling like everything is catching up
by azureOak800
Last post
 Thursday
...See more A year ago my brother died. Constant health battles, surgeries, months long hospital stays. Cancer was the finishing blow. During the summer, my wife almost died. She got sick out of no where and if we’d been a few hours later to the ER, the infection they found would’ve turned septic. But we got through it. With so much time that’s passed, I should be moving on, right? Is it normal to feel so emotionally all over the place so long after? Every day feels a toss up. I’m a Christian & my faith remains unshaken, but why do these emotions linger? Idk if this makes sense. Or if anyone relates. I guess I just want to know if I’m being dramatic
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Teaching Listeners About Grief & Loss
by HealingTalk
Last post
 January 28th
...See more ------------------------- What are some things that you wish Listeners knew about Grief? Sometimes Listeners come to 7 Cups not really knowing about certain topics, but are eager to learn about them, to better help those who seek support here. In order to help Listeners support members who are grieving, in the best way that they can, we ask you to tell us what are some things that you wish Listeners knew about Grief. This could be anything from knowing what Grief really is, how it feels like to be grieving, to the best ways to communicate with a grieving person during one-on-one chats. I look forward to your comments, and I wish you all the best! Marcelo ------------------------- @azuladragon34 @CordialBeing @HealingTalk @Jaeteuk @LeonardoMarino @mish3l @mytwistedsoul @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @tommy
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Coping with Grief and Loss
by Mel
Last post
 January 28th
...See more There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to deal with the grieving process. What are your own tips for coping with Grief & Loss? Here are mine: 1) Take care of yourself as you grieve! Everything you feel is normal and valid. 2) Face your feelings - they're there, okay, what are we going to do about them? 3) Find ways that you like to digest what you're feeling! It could be writing, drawing, talking, whatever you feel comfortable with! Share with us!
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Grief and Loss Support Check-in *New Years*
by CaringEzra
Last post
 January 27th
...See more Grief and Loss Support Check-in  New Years  Hello, lovely grief and loss support community! Welcome to our weekly check-in.  How are we all doing? I hope that the week is being gentle to you and you find time to take care of yourselves. Happy New year friends. We officially have made it through the year and that is a huge accomplishment. I know for me this year has been quite challenging as for many of you. So please be proud of yourself for making it here no matter how you got here, no matter how messy that journey has been. Lately I have been hearing and seeing all about the new year's resolutions so I just want to share a gentle reminder to be gentle with yourself - there's no rule that says you must make dramatic changes just because it's January. Break any goals into very small, manageable steps rather than trying to transform everything at once. And lastly, It's completely normal and valid to struggle during this period. While there's often this pressure to feel renewed and motivated in January, many people experience all the other emotions instead. Whatever you are feeling, it's welcomed and valid here. I wish you all an amazing week and year ahead. I am always here for you and you are not alone.<3 •───────•°•❀•°•───────• I would love to welcome you to participate in some reflection questions!  Our weekly check-ins are an opportunity to get to know each other a little bit better and offer continual support. Feel free to answer as many or as few as you would like. Also, feel free to share anything on your mind or just say hi! Whatever you post; we eagerly await your response! •───────•°•❀•°•───────• Here are some reflections for the week ❀ How are you doing? Emotionally? Physically? Spiritually? ❀ ❀ What hopes or goals do you have for 2025? ❀ ❀ What support do you need this year? Are there any ways that this community can help support those needs for you? ❀ •───────•°•❀•°•───────• We hope you all have a wonderful week. I look forward to hearing everyone’s responses, and please don't hesitate to reach out for support.
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breathe in my grave.
by suu1309
Last post
 January 27th
...See more but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where my shattered hope is left but to grieve,  all in front of the eyes, yet truth became absurdity the innocence they once called my prize became a casualty. but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where i kill versions of me to fit in their definition of healed, call myself a botherer, a presence they never so want  and see my soul grow cold, but its not the winter's fault. but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where i evermore feel ugly worth a hideous decree, once a merry phoenix now scarred and wise  the quilt over my head witnesses those muffled cries. but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where with a joyous seize i call myself alright, but only if they'd pick a lie detector for once they'd be surprised to see how it spikes up like a kite. but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where choosing me ever was to them a fatal disease, but oh, that forever fable, a story they tell with glee a mirage called happy ending of what it all seems to be. but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where to no being am i ever enough, forever incomplete, yet the wars i fight, to end the yearn of never being their pride  wrap me up in a coffin, oh, what a triumphant defeat. but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where love lost its throne to reason reigning supreme, the kid who built the castle of joy and dreams "but the tides would wash it away" oh logic, your vicious schemes. but how in this world am i supposed to breathe  where my lips call the truth a lie, where my eyes see the sun in deceit my evil bruised heart never finds a place to call home yet i wander impatiently, for someone to call me their own. so i'd continue to breathe in my grave, the grave they fondly call as life  but leave the threads of what could have been, a feeble voice with no more strength to strife. here's this poem i wrote a while ago. when heart sank in unrecognised agony.
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My Boyfriend
by creativeLemon8178
Last post
 January 27th
...See more Today is mine and my boyfriend’s anniversary. He is the love of my life and I am celebrating alone. He died in May. I wish he was here to celebrate with me and I wish his smile was in this room. Him and his baby sister are my whole world. Sometimes I still feel like I’m holding her in the hospital parking lot. Things are hard today.
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They Existed: Finding Strength in Grief
by Esha00
Last post
 January 27th
...See more A Gentle Heads-Up This post touches on grief and losing someone you love. If this feels heavy, take your time, and remember to be kind to yourself as you read. 💛 ------------------------- In 2023, I lost a dear friend who had been a part of my life through 7 Cups. Their absence left me a void that I felt could never be filled. Grief arrived like an uninvited guest—one I didn’t know how to face. I was lost. I felt helpless. That's when I found Maya Angelou’s poem When Great Trees Fall.  The poem: When great trees fall, rocks on distant hills shudder, lions hunker down in tall grasses, and even elephants lumber after safety. When great trees fall in forests, small things recoil into silence, their senses eroded beyond fear. When great souls die, the air around us becomes light, rare, sterile. We breathe, briefly. Our eyes, briefly, see with a hurtful clarity. Our memory, suddenly sharpened, examines, gnaws on kind words unsaid, promised walks never taken. Great souls die and our reality, bound to them, takes leave of us. Our souls, dependent upon their nurture, now shrink, wizened. Our minds, formed and informed by their radiance, fall away. We are not so much maddened as reduced to the unutterable ignorance of dark, cold caves. And when great souls die, after a period peace blooms, slowly and always irregularly. Spaces fill with a kind of soothing electric vibration. Our senses, restored, never to be the same, whisper to us. They existed. They existed. We can be. Be and be better. For they existed. This poem is more than just words on a page—it is a reflection of the human experience of grief. Angelou speaks of loss as a traumatic yet inevitable part of human life- one that leaves despair in its wake. The poem uses an extended metaphor of a tree falling in the jungle and its effects on the fauna to describe the enormity of death and its impact on those struggling to cope in its aftermath.   When the people who brought light into our lives are gone, the world feels quieter, less vibrant, as though the very air has grown still, uncertain of how to move forward. Our reality takes leave of us. And that's okay. But Angelou doesn’t leave us in despair; The poet reminds us that grief can seem all-consuming, but peace blooms over time. The poet reassures us that healing, though slow, will come. "Our senses, restored, never to be the same, whisper to us: They existed. They existed. We can be. Be and be better. For they existed." We might never be the same again- the pain and sorrow might never leave us, yet the memory of the great soul will linger and continue to shape our lives. Because this great soul existed, we can be better versions of ourselves. Her poem reminds us that grief is not just about sadness—it is about remembering, honouring, and eventually finding strength in the void left by those we lose. So, to anyone who’s grieving, remember it’s okay to feel sad, but it’s also okay to laugh at the silly memories, to smile at their quirks, and to find comfort in the joy they brought into your life. After all, as Angelou says, “they existed.” And because they did, we’re left with not just the sorrow, but the incredible gift of knowing them. Keep their light alive, and don’t forget to smile when the memories make your heart feel full. <3

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