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by tommy
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 November 15th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the 20+ Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 29th July (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Dawnie0203 @forcefulThinker186 @HarmonyBlossom @Racey08 @Rainer111 @TannDee @tommy
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Let's discuss issues
by pandanfe
Last post
 October 28th, 2024
...See more What are the adult issues that you would like to discuss? 
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Some question in my mind
by livbinny
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more @Tinywhisper11 i hope this finds u well i was meaning to ask before n was thinking few times but wasn’t sure since I probably shouldn’t but could…. anyway, I wanna find ppl like u in my life, ur the right type that im searching in p to be empathetic n caring n i feel like i hit dead end each time i trust them more or open up finding friends been the hardest n unfortunately not luck yet it all ended up to waste or pain still healing from it thats why the loneliness n anxiety is beside me so I’m like thinking if I could ask, but is it possible u have this “name” on some other platform? I hope it’s ok to at least try to ask since I have some other tasks n things to do where im also gonna ask so im placing my practice to see if its worth it to ask for anything that’s on my mind🐙 I guess staying busy like my dad is the best? Not thinking of these stuff or feelings but instead giving them chance to get better by doing tasks each day n becoming that friend for myself im tryyiiiiing 🙏🏻🥺
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Mental health
by laisha34
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I hope this is the right place to speak about but lately I've been struggling with bipolar depression it's not just that but I feel lost at the same time I moved to text as from Colorado back in 2024 last August got into a massive fight with my roommate went to jail and I lost everything in the process my home, myself my cats my best friend my job I was a huge wreck and wanted to relapse but I pushed through I moved back to Colorado to live with my bf and honestly it's great but it's hard to get a job I'm waiting 2 month for my ID it's under processing expectation being stuck at home makes me feel so guilty that I lost everything that mattered to me I'm back on square one I'm struggling I'm doing everything I can to help myself and get my life back on track just some set backs with my ID but I'm finding ways around it I feel like I'm not doing enough idk what I'm doing wrong is it just my bipolar depression acting up? Or how can I manage this feeling it's killing me? Idk if anyone can relate but I hope someone relates to me with bipolar depression
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Feeling lost
by Stellz
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I’ve got a lot of good going for me in life at the moment. I have a supportive partner, a solid friend, university to a super promising career, a business… I still find myself looking at it all with a severe lack of appreciation. I feel like I have nothing most days, and that everything is due to slip through my fingers at any moment now. Despite protests, I feel as though those around me are tired of me, that nothing is in store for me, and that I’m alone despite it all. I lay in the arms of my partner some nights and just wonder if things would be better if I was back in my reclusive bubble, in some quiet apartment on the other side of town without much communication with anyone.
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Thoughts
by SadBirthdayCat
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I already wrote this in my diary, but basically, sometimes I think what I'm feeling isn't my own. I guess it's a defense mechanism from my brain. Yesterday I cried so hard and had bad thoughts, now I'm like numb. I don't feel anything. It surprises me how emotionless I can be, or how quickly I can change moods. As if there's a separation from yesterday to today. I don't know why it happens. How to explain it? It's like my brain it's telling me “no, you don't feel that”, “you aren't sad”, and it makes me feel bad? As if I'm supposed to be sad but I'm not. But if I say I'm sad it's like I'm lying?. It gives me headaches.
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Starting a new life in a different country..
by solaria444
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Am I the only one who was not excited moving to a different country? I have always been open to try new things and meet new people but right now all I want to see is a friendly face. It’s been so hard living in a completely different environment and I feel like I’m not progressing at all even though I’ve been away from my home for 3 years now. It is beautiful up here and life seems to be less harder than it was living back home. But I always feel like I do not belong here. Nobody is making me feel that way yet something inside me just does not feel right..
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I need help - a bit desperate vent and a quest for a brighter day.
by energeticWest1129
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello, I'm an old member of the group but I'm not regularly active.  I just turned 30 recently, and It's hitting hard. I feel mentally crippled a lot of the time lately. I used to be the driver of my life but now I don't feel like I'm in control at all. I have been financially on my parents over the past 9 months, which sucks so bad. I feel ashamed about myself. And I've been picking up smoking habits over the past few months. I've gained 33 pounds over the past few years since covid and it sucks. Today I'm trying to quit smoking and it's feeling miserable, I feel like a zombie in a stupid body. But enough negativity. At least i've tried to go for a long walk and resisting the temptation as much as I can. I'm trying to process the next steps of my life, i went through this kinda depressive cycle before and I found the light at the end of the tunnel, maybe right now is just another tunnel.  I need to work around my chemical balance in the brain during nicotine quitting. it feels horrible. an AI generated photo with my prompt "dopamine hits" - i hope to have a pet but taking care of them could be a pain...
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Help
by littleOak6508
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Kinda feel lost in this world even after finding the place I want to go I just feel lost.
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Stuck
by Pipo216
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I haven't gone outside in over a month, except to step out onto the porch and then go back inside. I am a freeloader living with my parents. I don't have a job because of personal issues that make it hard for me to keep a consistent schedule. I drove for DoorDash because I could work whenever. The pay was horrible and my car was not fuel efficient so I ran out of money.  I more or less gave up in early January and ended up here after a crisis line. I talked more in the last couple weeks than I have in years but I don't know where to go from here. I struggle to form lasting bonds with people and get panicky when people are getting too close. Someday I want to talk to someone in real life but I don't know when that will be.
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Life
by kindWheel7279
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Ever notice how, even with friends and family nearby, loneliness can still creep in? It's one of those puzzling feelings that doesn't always make sense, but it's there nonetheless
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forever hating myself for trusting so easily 😂
by hopefulencounter
Last post
 Friday
...See more why is that everytime i feel like they care then i suddenly tell them everything but then  ...they stop giving respond and then i end up overthink everything 😁🙏
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Lonely
by peachBanana3925
Last post
 Thursday
...See more All my life growing up, I was told not to show emotion not to get attached and not to let people in. Now I am in my 20s living on my own and feel so alone, I can’t have good relationships because I shut people out, and have a fear of getting attached. I’ve been a caregiver my whole life to my parents And I seek to fix people and every friendship/relationship. I don’t know how to stop this and I wish I could open up to people, but I don’t know how anymore.
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Third year of Uni with no close friends
by neonSky7387
Last post
 January 28th
...See more I'm currently in my third year of Uni and I have no close friends. I've really been trying to make friends but I just have "acquaintances" and no friends. No one I can really talk to. No one curly knows me. I feel even more lonely now because I moved out of my old room (I had a big fight with my roommate) and now I leave alone. It's just so lonely. Going to classes alone, eating alone, having no one to talk to and always being alone. 

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