Why do I have such a hard time asking for help?

Asking for help can sometimes be difficult because of the stigma that may be attached to it. You may think that people will judge you but if you really need the help then just try to disregard it and think of help as just maintenance, we all need it sometimes.

Sometimes society portrays asking for help as a sign of weakness. This is especially true for men, who are expected to act strong. But this is not the case. Asking for help is not shameful, on the contrary it can be seen as a form of bravery.

Sometimes we're afraid to ask for help because we think people are going to judge us or for fear of rejection.

Everybody has difficulty asking for help. We all think we should be bigger and stronger than our problems. The truth is, we aren't, and you've made an impressive step to reach out to us today.

Often we feel like the only way to learn something is by figuring it out for ourselves so we would rather struggle than ask for help. We may feel weak for asking for help.

Asking for help can be hard for all of us. Sometimes it is hard to admit we need help, other times it is just hard to go out and seek help, because this takes a lot of strength.

I have a hard time asking for help for several reasons, among them are feeling that I "should" be able to handle things myself and if not, I am failing, and not feeling able to trust anyone, being afraid that a request for help will be used against me somehow. This is what I am trying to overcome currently.

because it means being vulnerable, and it means that you are no longer in control, and a lot of the eating disorder is the control.

Maybe because you feel embarrassed about your problem or ashamed that you are not able to handle it on your own ? But there is no need to feel embarrassed, the strongest people are those who recognize when they need help and go get it. It's not easy to open up about what you are going through , also because that might cause a flood of emotions and you subconsciously or consciously are not prepared to deal with that. Does knowing that you have to resolve the issue some time help? Is it any comfort knowing that talking about the problem in itself is proven to help substantially?

Pride can be a big obstacle in asking for help. When we ask for help, we are admitting to ourselves that we need assistance which can be a difficult thing to do. Additionally, if we feel isolated or alone in the difficulty we are having we might not feel comfortable asking someone to help with it. Whether it is embarrassment, shyness or simply believing there is no one who can understand or relate, we are stopped from seeking help. We also might not have someone in our lives that we feel we can ask for help from. Having social support can be an immense help in overcoming difficulties.