Why do I have such a hard time asking for help?

I know that I have a hard time asking for help as I feel as if I should be strong enough to handle things on my own. I don't want to be seen as a failure and I don't want to burden someone else with my feelings.

Maybe early in your life, let´s say when you were growing up, you learnt that being as invisible as possible is a good way not to burden others. You thought your needs were a burden because that´s how it came accross. Maybe your parents were stressed or didn´t know how to handle your needs, so they just unconciously pressured you to push them aside to be a "good and behaved child". However, not asking for help and cause us to feel overwhelmed, lonely, anxious and depressed. We need to take the risk of being rejected and probably getting a "no". You´ll get also a "yes" or a listening ear or a helping hand. But without ever asking, how would you find out?

Fear of rejection, assuming that asking someone for help would be a bother, or you feel weak and vulnerable when you ask for help.

Sometimes asking for help can make us feel weak or even stupid. Most cases as well, people want to do things on our own and show that we are mature enough to handle a situation, or we are simply afraid to ask for help. Asking for help no matter what situation is NOT a bad thing and you should never feel afraid to ask for some. You are NOT weak, stupid nor "adult enough" if you ask for help. Even adults ask for help and it's not a bad thing. You should never be afraid to ask for help because there's nothing bad with it either.

sometimes its letting someone help let you guard down get the help you feel so much better at the end

It's hard to put ourselves in situations that make us feel vulnerable in general. When you have to ask someone for help, you're telling this person that you don't know how to do something or that you don't understand something. This lack of knowledge can make you feel vulnerable to this person.

I don't expose my time of weakness very lightly. So I try very hard to figure things out on my own before I ask for help.

Having hard time asking for help can mean one of two things, either being shy/not very social or having a bit of pride that prevents one's self from showing weakness or need in front of others. Once one of those two is defined and understood and thought through thoroughly then it only becomes a matter of deciding not to keep that a blocking wall from asking for help.

Some people find it difficult to talk about strong emotions because they can't articulate themselves or don't feel like they can trust anyone. Just do whatever you feel comfortable with - this website is a good place to start.

It depends on the certain person some just feel scared of being judge and others feel that is bad to ask for help but trust me you wont be judge nor isnt bad or weak to ask for help.