Should I stay at a job that I hate?
Anonymous
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Nov 30, 2018
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That's a very personal decision that may require a lot of soul searching. Some useful tools to help make these kinds of decisions include pro/con lists, journaling on the things that upset you about your job, figuring out your values and how your job may compliment or deter from them, talking with a trusted friend or professional who knows your situation, or evaluating the costs involved. It could be helpful to see what other jobs are out there and if any of those appeal to you. It's important to listen to your feelings if these thoughts come up often and strongly.
KayHelps
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Dec 6, 2018
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Short answer: in the long run - no
But since we do not live in a black/white reality, there usually have to be tradeoffs. We still need money to survive. So make sure, whatever your wealth, that you money suffices for a long enough time in case you want to quit.
If one is honest to himself, the fear of quitting the job results from only a few distorted views:
1) I will not find a new job (and some people will call me useless then / I do not contribute to society)
2) I don't know what I want to do
3) fear of the unknown/new
Seeing the big picture, you should never work only for the money. If you do not enjoy your job, why would you waste over 50% of your wake time on it? When in your death bed, do you want to admit to yourself that you wasted over 50% of your life with something that you hate? That would be a pretty sad thing to imagine.
You can search for a new orientation while you continue at the bad job or you can quit it in case the job causes damage to your body. If the job is unethical, I suggest to quit instantly. Same if you have serious health issues because of the job/colleagues.
Just imagine all the good things that can happen when you quit. All the opportunities, the freedom that you will have, a more relaxed mind etc. Have the boldness to dare jump into the unknown, possibly even changing your field of profession, dream big. A small failure while changing the job would be way better than realizing the waste of precious time you were given with something that you hate.
BlankaM
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Jan 9, 2019
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Sometimes you should stay at a job you hate because it is necessary in the long term. However, if it is directly impacting your mental and physical health, you really have to ask yourself, is it worth it? After all, you only get one life, and one body, so you should take care of it so it lasts healthy and happy for the rest of your life! You could ask yourself why you keep putting up with the job, what are the final goals. Is it more money? Better prospects? Promotion? Sometimes looking after your mental and physical health is more important than chasing money, so double checking your intentions behind all your decisions is never a bad thing!
Anonymous
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Jan 13, 2019
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You should only stay at a job you hate as long as you have to. With that said there are a few reasons this applies to. Some examples are if the this is the only job you have that you can do, if it's the best job to have while supporting your family, if you are in the process of finding a new job or if it's the best paying job you can get. More importantly then if you like your job or not is if the job allows you to provide for yourself or for your family.
Anonymous
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Feb 10, 2019
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Yes, if you have nothing to replace your current income with than you should stay put unless it has gotten to the point where you are wanting to do something stupid. Then by all measure you should leave ASAP otherwise try to find another job to replace the one that is getting on your nerves. It is so hard to replace a active income when you got a family and other obligations that you are responsible for my friend. You have no choice but to stay put and to grind it out until a better opportunity comes your way. Hang in there my friend and I pray nothing but the blessings of God over your life.
jkimz
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Mar 9, 2019
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Unlike the classic American mindset of following your passion and not wasting your time doing something you don’t love. There are exceptions. Because there are bills to pay and people you need to take care of. Generally speaking, it is common sense to not waste your time at a job you hate. However, DO NOT quit if:
You know the stress from looking for a new job will outweigh the stress you get from your current job.
You don’t have any plan on what to do after you quit.
But if you know your stress could not be any worse and you do have another job to go to or some type of plan, ask yourself these next questions:
is this a job that has a potential to get more interesting? Even people who love their jobs experience extreme frustration and boredom at times. It’s perfectly normal. Just like a person, a job has its good and bad aspects.
Were you ever happier than this at a different job? Or have you always hated work in general? If you cannot think of anything that you’d be happier doing, just stay at your job. Because there is a possibility you will hate your next job as much as this one.
Is it the people you work with or the nature of the job? If it is the people, you should quit. The people you work with can make a world of a difference especially if you are a sensitive, social person. If it is the job, however, understand that unless you get a completely different job in a different field, not much will be different.
Most importantly though, just understand that no matter where you go, there will be people you don’t get along with, tasks that bore you to tears or frustrate you to tears. This could be a great turning point to consider that maybe it’s not the job. Maybe it’s a different underlying issue, such as your mindset.
Anonymous
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Mar 10, 2019
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It all depends how much you need that Job. I believe we are happier when we do what we love, so if you can, quit and find the job of your dreams. If you cant quit, try and find the job of your dreams and the quit. Life is too short to be stuck doing something that does not spark joy in us.
Sometimes we cant make that choice because we need the money to support ourselves and our loved ones, but even then we should work towards doing something that we enjoy. Perpetuating a reality that brings us misery is not only harmful to us but to those around us, because they don't get to experience the best of us.
LadyJaneGrey
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Mar 24, 2019
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I’d suggest a one on one session. Try talking about what you value about your work for five minutes. Then five minutes on what you want to achieve in it. This could be a change achieved through the role, it could be for your personal development or it could be a wage - there are no right or wrongs. Then spend another five minutes talking about what frustrates you. If it’s a person centred issue (as these things often are) it can help to imagine yourself as them talking to you. Then for ten minutes think about how you could get around those frustrations and what support you would need. If the job doesn’t match you values or your goals are not achievable then it may be time to move on.
Anonymous
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Apr 3, 2019
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Nope - if you have dependents (children, family members) you can try to save money before leaving the job. Ultimately, start looking the instant you can.
A wise man once told me to never leave a job until you have a backup job or backup support. My brother's girlfriend, as an example, hate her job. She was to the point where she was losing sleep just knowing she would have to return the next day.
She had the support of her boyfriend and ultimately left the job without a different backup job. But - she had his support and her stress levels dropped dramatically! She found a job within two weeks and now is that much happier.
Ask yourself - is your soul worth the job you're doing now? No job is worth it if you lose your soul in the process.
nlpinspiration
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Apr 19, 2019
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It depends. You should evaluate situation. The best shoot is if you can find some think that makes you feel better and stick to it.But that is not always easy. It needs a little brainstorming. And than to make decision what is best for you. If you stay on current position what would the consequences could be. If you quit, will you be able to survive up to your next job? In both cases it needs to be in harmonies with your needs . The harmony have some impact on your personality. Positive impact can move you forward, bit negative influence, I mean if there is some non consistency within yourself can lead you toward anxiety and depression
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