My manager is very impatient and often criticises me. I cant take criticism well and have a low threshold of stress. What can I do to get stronger (to cope) on my own and without changing her at all?

That is a great question! It is always good to realize that you can't change others but you can change yourself. I have a question for you . . . what do you think would help you to increase your ability to manage your stress. I know for myself I saw a counselor who helped me develop ways to manage my stress in positive ways. I also did not do well accepting criticism until I learned to receive it as feedback that could help me get better at my job and not as criticism of my character. I don't know if either of those things could help you but I believe that the fact that you recognize in yourself something that you would like to change is a great first step in accomplishing the change that you desire. Most of all, I know that you are strong because you are willing to change and that can be a frightening experience at times. Good luck!

Everyone has a different threshold when dealing with stress. Here are some helpful tools to help you cope. When knowing you have to deal with your manager create a list of what makes you less stressed such as having rubber bands around and snapping the band on your wrist. Along with that try talking to her about the criticism mentioning that it is stressing you out. However, without changing her you should sit down in your work environment away from any other listeners. If you do not want to do this, always take a moment sometimes to walk away and gather your thoughts.

Be able to discern what you can change and improve, and what you have no power over. You cannot control everything, so might as well concentrate on things you can change. If you see that you could do better, try your best. If you see that you already do your best, then you cannot do more and it's okay. So if your boss criticise for something you can't anything about, dont put that weight all over you shoulder. Life is a contribution of a lot factors. Knowing that you did the best you could makes you feel at peace with yourself.

Remember you are important and a person of value. Your manager is displaying short comings. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. If you are being treated that way that person is wrong. Given your position you may not be able to confront them directly, but you should remind yourself you are valuable and their behavior is not appropriate. They (though it may be hard to muster) deserve your empathy and forgiveness. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your manager directly, you may want to approach your Human Resources Department for advice as well. Remember no one is perfect. We all need a little help every once in a while, . . . even cranky managers.

I like to think that I handle constructive criticism well. Though, it isn't easy for me to hear criticism about myself. When I consider criticism about me, I let it percolate in my head. Is it something I should address or not? Is it something I can address quickly, or will it take a long time? And how does addressing it contribute to my goals at work? Based on those answers, I develop a plan of action to improve myself. Or I decide to take no action, because there will always be someone who won't be pleased with my actions. That is my own action plan to address criticism. I would suggest developing your own, and do what works best for you.

if the criticism gets worse, you should tell someone you trust. you could do the things you enjoy the moment you arrive home or when im stressed and pressured, i will actually go to the pantry or toilet to listen to some music and do some breathing escersizes. always try your best to take the critism and you can always come to 7cups and talk to one of our many listeners whenever you want. it is easy to ask for help from others especially the ones you trust! sometimes, a short and wholesome cry always helps to comfort me

How does being criticized make you feel? What about being criticized makes you feel stressed? Criticism can creqte a very difficult and stressful work environment. What kind of expectations does your manager have for you and how do they align with the expectations you have set for yourself? Criticism can be a very hard thing to deal.with and understandably so. It can be especially frustrating to deal with criticism when we do not see any flaws in how we are accomplishing tasks. Why do you think your manager appears to be impatient and has he or she expressed their standards?

Write down and date anything she says to you that you don't like, and go to your higher manager and complain. This should get you on the road to resolving the situation and will make you feel stronger. Every company has its own procedure for this, so you may have to do some research online, or find yourself a solicitor maybe. I hope this helps you. Sometimes if you believe in yourself a bit more and have a bit more confidence it is easier to take critisism because you have the back up of your own confidence and self esteem then. Perhaps try writing a victory log every day of five things you think you have done well on that day.

When you feel stress and exhausted especially at work. Take some minute to breathe, and calm yourself. We can work on criticisms by taking them as a challenge in order to make ourselves better. Some criticisms may said by unusual words that may let us feel belittles or offended but let see it as a way to learn. Accept the challege to be better everyday. Working in handling emotions are not easy, but we can try some practices to somehow be able to manage it. Watch some videos regarding emotional management, ask advice from family and friends. At work there will be times our superior may said something but as long as it do not cross the line, try to prove her wrong. Show her that you can be the best, show her that you can accept challenges.

When ever that was the case, if you can't change shifts away form your boss, I'd pick my battles. Take deep breaths, and focus on what she's trying to explain to you. If she's just being nasty, I'd consider either sitting her down and telling her what's going on or going above her head. If that doesn't work, don't push yourself to stay, that's probably the worst thing you could do for your mental health and wellbeing. I had to quit my manager job because the owners were being extremely unfair and nasty. After I left I was a completely different person :)