My manager is very impatient and often criticises me. I cant take criticism well and have a low threshold of stress. What can I do to get stronger (to cope) on my own and without changing her at all?

In life, you will meet impatient people. And one thing you could do, wellis to be patient with them

The first step is to understand that you always need healthy criticism to grow yourself. You don't have to take everything personally. If not for criticism, none of the real life heroes would have been what they are now. And this is not going to be as easy as it may sound for you, at least in the beginning and it's fine. A few tips might help. 1) Try putting yourself in the manager's shoes time you face criticism and see if he genuinely has a point or if he's nitpicking. Chances are high that in most cases, the manager might be genuinely putting across a point for the growth of you and the company. I'm not saying managers are always right but trying to see things from a different angle can bring in a lot of change in your life and it will make you a much open minded person with high tolerance for different opinions as well. 2) Try not to take everything personally. Not everything is your fault. Sometimes everyone messes up and you receive healthy criticism just for personal growth. Also, don't take yourself too seriously. At times, laugh at yourself and some stupid stuff that you do. Laughing at oneself makes them a much tolerant human being.

First thing is, you can't change your manager.If she criticizes you about something, do the best about it that you can do.Don't let her criticism get to you

There are two types of criticisms. Constructive and unconstructive. If you are being offered constructive criticism perhaps it'll be wise to write it down and assess how you can improve on it. Reassure yourself that this is for your own personal growth. It's also not a reflection that you're incompetent or your manager would not bother to offer the criticism. She does it because she's aware of your capabilities. If it is unconstructive criticism, then calmly close your mind off to it. Breathe and continue doing your best.

Another tough situation because our jobs are such a big part of our life. But I would study up on ways to counteract what she's doing. There's nothing wrong with finding confidence in yourself. I had a boss who would hover over me and completely stress me out. So I learned about a technique called the "Johnson". It's where someone hovers over you to intimidate you. So I decided to not let that happen ever again and I was ready for it. When she came in, I sat straight up in my chair and looked her in the eyes. (And if sitting wouldn't work, I was going to simply stand) But it totally worked and she never did that to me again. I hope this helps you a little.

You can either change the job if possibly or just ignore the criticism, if it's a feedback then it's okay but in another case just try to ignore it.

Find ways to self-soothe so that your stress levels stay low. These may include getting out in nature, exercising, journalling, yoga, a good nights sleep, meditation, making a vision board, reading a good book.

If my manager is very impatient, and I cannot rake criticism, I will try to talk to a close person about it in order to be able to deal with my emotions.

I think you can try to breathe deeply whenever she makes a criticism. Evaluate if what she says is true or not, maybe she's trying to teach you how to improve your work and she's not able to say it properly. If not, then you can simply try to be the best in what you do and improve at it every day, organising your time and trying to complete all the work you have.

Is it possible that your manager is under pressure from her own superiors, and so her own stress is being passed down the chain to you and your co-workers? That might be something to consider... Regardless, there's the old saying "It's not personal, it's just business." With that in mind, try to detach from the personal aspects of your manager's criticisms (Granted, it's easier said than done sometimes!). Instead, listen to the //constructive// parts of her remarks and let those be a guide to improving your work.