My manager is very impatient and often criticises me. I cant take criticism well and have a low threshold of stress. What can I do to get stronger (to cope) on my own and without changing her at all?

You can try understanding yourself first as finding solution here doesn't seem to end the chaos ! You can do your best try in whatever you do, continue creating your own ways and goings not necessary to be admired but least respond in polite manner and try adjusting mood swings things need space it shall work for you too! Give your gratitude and stop trying to figure of things a but it spoils your mood too You can cheer yourself as I see you are brave and enough to bear things! Always stay focused you are there for your own development take it as a path of your delightful journey as roller coaster there will be ups and downs how you handle it CAPABLY make you The Best 🙂👍

I would keep trying my best because that is what's most important. I would keep trying to grow every single day because that is what would allow me to get better and better in dealing with stress. I can also seek out a therapist to help me with any mental health issues I may have such as anxiety or depression. By trying to take things one step at a time and improve every single day, it will allow me to better adapt to situations that are causing stress and allow me to cope better ultimately making me a strong person

If your manager is not effectively communicating with you then it will definitely have an impact on performing your work. This can then lead to performance management. There is also a very big difference between constructive and destructive criticism. It is important to try and maintain a healthy relationship with your immediate manager and also have it reciprocated by them. You also have the right to response when any criticisms or issues are highlighted. Personally, I would simply respond with something like "Thankyou for bringing that to my attention." and then noting the incident shortly after it occurs. However, if you believe you may be targeted or being performance managed it would an idea to keep a journal of any negative significant events that occur. Noting the good things you do or are complimented on is also important. You can then reflect back accurately to any questions that may be raised regarding your performance in the future.

First, you must understand that your manager's impatience and critical nature are not your fault. This is important for you to know so that you don't carry any guilt about the situation or anger towards your manager. Practical steps you can take include taking time out during your work day to collect your thoughts, or take some deep breaths to reset yourself. This may help you feel less overwhelmed by stress. Meditation and introspection can also be helpful by allowing you to take the useful parts of criticisms on board and throw away the rest. Meditation will also lower your anxiety which will help you feel less overwhelmed by your work. This will result in you having a higher stress threshold so you will be able to cope better with your manager's impatience and criticisms as well as any other stressors in your life.

Know that feedback and criticism whether it be from a boss, university marker, teacher, etc. isn't a clear judgment of your character and who you are as a person. It can be difficult to feel secure when someone is directly challenging or criticizing you but it is often them projecting other issues onto the people in their direct surroundings. A couple of activities that might be of use is writing a letter that you don't actually send to your manager about what is bothering you or you could journal about this and try to address what makes you feel bad and how you might be able to overcome that. Whilst this may not be completely relevant to the situation, it may help you relieve some stress.

Think about the fact that your manager hasn't seen the whole you. She just saw you in your work environment where probably you don't have that much time to get to know people. Just think deeply if she is right. If you don't feel that she is, just trust yourself and speak up. If there is a part of you that thinks that she is right, ask what you can do better in the future, show her that you care about her feedback and that you are willing to learn and to develop. Also, try to get to know yourself better before letting other people influence who you are. Just tell her how that makes you feel.

The first thing to realize about your manager - regardless of their temperament - is that they probably have a manager as well. If they're the proprietor of the company, they're under constant scrutiny to keep the company afloat by all means necessary. Does that give them right to hassle staff? No, but it does suggest how/why they're exercising said emotions and can allow you to "observe" without "absorbing" them (and not take what's being said personally). It's difficult to provide a more thorough answer without examples of the above scenario - but generally speaking, if the complaints are petty/arbitrary and your role in the company is vital and difficult to replace, that's something else to keep in mind.

I would remind myself that people who are too critical and impatient might be dealing with insecurities and or anxiety issues. Consequently, I'd probably pay more attention to see whether I need to tweak the way I communicate with my manager. Perhaps I am holding weak boundaries to protect myself from external negativity or toxicity, or perhaps I am in need of strengthening my self-care. I'd probably have to address the setting of boundaries issue with my manager more assertively. Also, it'd be a good idea to revisit the list of expectations, unrealistic requests and circumstantial limitations at the work place. In addition, I'd also pay attention to my own low threshold of stress and try to add more tools and strategies to cope with a stressful environment. For example, I know I recharge my batteries with walks in nature, talks with supportive friends, and having enough time for relaxation activities such as yoga and meditation. When I behave mindfully, living in the moment, I am usually more grounded and aware of my inner triggers so I am able to communicate better and practice self-care with more consistency and assertion.

The only way i found out for me (stubborn me) is taking full responsibility for my perception. Without creating roles, after which war starts in my mind, me vs the other. Taking responsibility 100% means that I see tbe cycle of inertia, or karma if you like, do-see-do-see-etc. I was like that in the past, now i see the (damned) effect. Its my doing coming back to me. I take it back, meaning i accelt it to happen, i let it happen, i realize its past, my past, i refuse to cooperate with that past game, i try to keep my cool, calm, wait it out, focus on me, on my perception, leaving the other creating his or her experience for future. I want a good future, calm future, not stressed future. So i focus on planting calm seeds now, today, in spite of my stressed past. The other is just a catalyst for my past karma to appear. It works (for me at least) You will find the universe changing the relationship with the other, reflecting your improvement. Its super cool to see it happening right before your eyes, when it happens. But dont exlect instant changes. Take it as planting new seeds for future, your future.

Working with a harsh manager can be really difficult. You never quite know how to work with this person and you need to get work done, so you constantly feel as if you are on egg-shells. We also tend to spend so much of our time at work, it's important to like the people you work with. It's good you recognize you cannot change/control other people. You can only control yourself. Having dealt with challenging bosses myself, I would say that I had to put in extra legwork (such as spending an hour or two on the weekends to prep for the week ahead) to make sure I stayed one step ahead of my boss and anticipated their requests. It could also just be a matter of different styles of communication. How does she prefer to have her updates? Via email, phone calls, pings? Get a pulse on how she likes to communicate, and maybe this can be through a quick conversation/question. Lastly, I think having thick skin is something that's often built through practice. If you are relatively new to the workforce or new to working with someone with this communication style, it just may be (although everyone is different), that dealing with the stress and criticism (as long as it is constructive and not abusive, and the line can be thin at times between the two which is why it's important to speak up when you need to) will get easier. Definitely prioritize your mental health first, and find an advocate who you can talk to to help you assess the situation. If you find this is causing a lot of stress and does not improve over the period of time you'd expect, it's reasonable to look at the impact this would be having on your career and look for perhaps another work environment that would better suit what you need and give you the resources to succeed. Some additional resources: https://www.themuse.com/advice/10-brilliant-tips-for-dealing-with-a-difficult-boss