How can I deal with being blamed for things that aren't my fault?

Sometimes journaling these details and occurances will make you feel justified. Others may make you feel to blame now, but you have the record to look back on to see the truth later.

First, understanding that it´s not your fault, the first big mistake we the humans have, it´s taking the responsabillity for thing or situatuions that aren´t our faults.

You cannot control what other things say about you or how they view you. What you can control is how you respond to those things, and that makes all the difference in the world.

Feeling blamed and attacked is no fun, especially for people who internalize things. The key is to have a very small number of people who you can be very open and honest with and they will do the same for you. 'Fact check' the situation with them and get their thoughts. It is their thoughts that matter. If people are not doing life and battling with you and working with you and are not in that small group you have to let their opinions go. It is those who battle with you and you are open with whose opinions matter.

You can remind yourself that you don't have control over what others may blame one you as you know your own truth. You don't even have to necessarily explain to others why something isn't your fault as you don't owe others anything. If you do feel the need to respond to others blaming you can make a simple statement, you know what I know my own truth, I have no control over XY and Z, and I was not a part of XY and Z and move forward. If responding to others was emotionally taxing, take a moment to watch a relaxation video on you tube or do something that is peaceful to you and will allow you to move forward.

Being blamed for things that are not your fault can be hurtful and exhausting. It’s easy to understand that your initial reaction or natural instinct would be anger. You may be asking yourself many questions. How can I manage my emotions better so that I can deal with conflict in a more calm way? How can I keep my mind peaceful? Why do I get defensive people blame me for things? What is triggering the misunderstandings and how can these misunderstandings be cleared? To be the voice of reason and assure yourself that you have good intentions takes self-acceptance as well as patience. Looking back on the things you have been blamed for, what did you hope to ask those who have blamed you? Has there been any misunderstandings in the past that have been cleared and if so how was the misunderstanding cleared? It takes time to fully relax when someone has blamed you for something you have not done. You may move to a different room for a while to just process what has been said and then on how to deal with what has been said. Its ok to reflect for a while before you choose how to react towards accusations made. Take your time to share your thoughts and your feelings in a way that is diplomatic and honest. It can either be speaking to them in person, through the phone, through a message or a letter. Explain what you felt when you were blamed in any type communication comfortable to you. Before thinking up your response it’s important to ask yourself: Am I feeling calm? When you are calm you have a response that is reasonable this will likely make others take into consideration what you have said. For further support you can communicate with one of our listeners or members and you can also get access to mindfulness exercises and self-help guides.

* Realize that instead of dealing with the pain, the other person tries to move it onto you so he/she can feel better. * Realize that words are just that: words. It is your own responsibility how you deal with them, you always have the choice. Break out of behaviour patterns to increase your options. * Ask the other person to reflect on his/her own actions. Ask naive questions and make them subtly realize it may be their own fault. Bad things happen, too. Why create more negative energy out of that? Don't fight the NOW. * Just acknowledge the fact that it may even be your fault. Realize that everyone makes mistakes and that we also grow from them. Try saying "yes, you are right, I made a mistake" and see what happens

I can relate to that question as the oldest of four children, my parents blame a lot of things on me that I have no part in. Sometimes people don't see the truth so we have to suck it up and just take in the criticism but if we do our best to be our best selves and give them no reason to blame those things on us, they will soon see that those actions were not our fault. It also might help to ask them to explain why they are blaming you. If they have a reason, there must be a way to disprove it if it really isn't you. If their reasoning is illogical, then just give them time and show them through your actions that you are a better person than they are making of you. :)

You can try talking to a teacher, parent, older sibling, or someone older who knows what your going through. And remember to always tell the truth even if they don't believe you. It's honestly honesty that gets you to the top and helps you through life. If someone is blaming you for something you didn't do you should also try to show them proof that you had no part in it. Or find witnesses. Even ask someone to just believe you might be enough to turn someone else's perspective. Now I need to get to 100 words for some reason so there lol.

Try and talk to the person who blamed you and try and reason with them. Try explaining you're side of it. Don't get flustered and get mad. People tend to be more understanding when the conversation is calm and not tense. If that doesn't seem to help the issue, don't forget that You know the truth and that's what matters!! They might not be able to understand it from your perspective, but you know the truth and that matters. Don't beat yourself up about what others think they know. The only people that truly know are you and anyone involved.