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How can I deal with being blamed for things that aren't my fault?

Profile: phosphenerelief
phosphenerelief on Jun 23, 2018
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All you can really do is clarify and provide your information and your evidence, and understand that their disbelief doesn't diminish or devalue your truth.
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Profile: KurtCups711
KurtCups711 on Jul 25, 2018
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You may not be responsible for a given problem, but you can certainly be part of the solution. Try to focus your energy on working hard to fix a problem, strengthen a relationship or achieve your goals. Demonstrating to the people around you that you're more concerned with success than pointing fingers will build a culture where people are less likely to assign blame.
Profile: niceRainbows39
niceRainbows39 on Aug 1, 2018
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If you can't explain to somebody that it isn't your fault, than it isn't worth the fight. You know that it wasn't your fault, and that is all that matters.
Profile: cheerfulMonkey67
cheerfulMonkey67 on Aug 3, 2018
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There are many things in life that we can be blamed for that are not our fault. Unfortunately, that can be a part of life. The main thing, I think, is realizing that though you may be blamed it is not your fault. So long as you are doing the best that you can, that is what matters. If you can look back on the event and know you did the best you could than you should feel good about what you have done and ignore the negative incoming speech.
Profile: LiteViWanda
LiteViWanda on Aug 5, 2018
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People may have a misunderstanding due to perception. You have to understand how they perceive the situation. Even though you may think something is not your fault, the other person may see your actions of take your words differently. So first start with understanding the problem, don't get offended and try to see where the other person is coming from to really get to the bottom of the misunderstanding.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 5, 2018
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Explain to the people that you did not do what they are accussing you and if they continue to say other wise just ignore them they are not worth getting worked up about. They are just trying to instigate.
Profile: magicalUnicorns76
magicalUnicorns76 on Aug 10, 2019
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Try to find out why people blame you, then give reasons why this is not true and why it is not your fault. Also turn it around and ask them how they would feel in your shoes. Explain how you feel and ways to avoid this. Such as having good evidence before making assumptions and blaming you. If things do not change you maybe have to work on not internalising it and grounding yourself and self care. Sometimes you have to pick your battles otherwise you will be losing energy over the small stuff and lose sight of other things
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 21, 2020
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First of all, don't take it personally. State your position in this situation. If you are not taking the blame, say what you need to say and exit the as soon as possible. It may be hard to a people pleaser to do that. However, it is very essential to set your boundary from the get-go. Remember, "Not my circus, not my monkey." Make sure to get your guard up. A lot of time people tend to over explain a small matter which causes them get blame and even guilt into taking the ownership of other people's mistakes or even issues. Don't fall into that kind of mind trap.
Profile: plushUnicorn4912
plushUnicorn4912 on Jun 27, 2020
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It will always feel unfair to be blamed for things that aren't your fault. And it will always be frustrating not to be able to voice that sensation of injustice. You would love to voice that but sometimes, for some reasons, you can't always set the records straight. If it's something punctual and the people that blame you don't know you and are total strangers you'll probably never meet again, just remind yourself of that: "they don't know you so their judgement doesn't count". If it's something that's been happening with a certain group of people and you feel they should know you by now, try and remember: "If you know you weren't wrong, you know you will still able to live with yourself". In the long run, action speaks louder than words and people will start to see that they treated you unfairly. The waiting part can be frustrating but at the end, you have to remember who you are, and if who you are is someone innocent, that's good enough in the worst case scenario.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 23, 2018
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Depends what you’re being blamed for? Try and sit down with the person who is blaming you and calmly explain that it’s not your fault
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