Why should I go to a psychologist if he would have to tell my parents that I am hurting myself and I do not want them to know?

You could ask your psychologist to withhold this information under the practitioner-client confidentiality agreement, which if he fails to do so, he could be sued by you. I would say go to a psychologist who knows what is best for you, and when it is most appropriate if you wish to let your parents know, if at all.

I don't know what country you live in, but in Europe, if you tell a psychologist that they shouldn't talk to your parents about that stuff for now, then they might be fine with it and not tell your parents. My therapist once told me that if you are in great danger of committing suicide, then she would have to tell my mother for safety reasons. So if you talk to that psychologist about you hurting yourself and you tell them not to tell your parents about it, then they might not tell your parents. Though I can't guarantee for anything and it's the psychologist's decision if they do. Though, everything else that you tell that person will be kept in that room and nobody is allowed to have insight in the files other than you. Also, if that psychologist thinks that you are in great danger of hurting yourself or others extremely, then he will have to tell your parents. But you might wanna ask that psychologist about how they handle that because I don't know if it's different from each country.

It'd be best to go to therapy or counseling; someplace where someone wouldn't tell your parents, but they have the resources and the professional experience to help you through your time. They can also be there to cope and come up with a way to tell your parents that you harm.

going to a psychologist helps in 2 ways: one, helps you get a better clarity on your problem and helps you better in understanding your current situation and two, telling your parents is never a bad thing... i am sure no one will want to hurt their parents and thats the reason we hide things from them... but one think that we need to keep in mind is that parents will always support us and always will help us resolve our problems.

I have a past with a similar situation but with a mental illness which I was embarrassed of. Let me tell you right now, the pain and anger and loneliness you feel now is much greater than the pain it would take to let your parents know. It will initially hurt when you are healed. Just like how you clean out a wound causes it to burn but it then becomes clean and can heal properly. This is the same thing.

Your parents love you, no matter what. They are always there for you through any trouble you have and will provide you will all their support. They will NEVER be angry at you for hurting yourself.

They can help you tell them. It may be more comforting to have the help before they know as then you are taking initial steps to get better

Maybe he wouldn't tell: he is under professional secret, so unless you're putting yourself in danger by hurting yourself, he can't really tell your parents. The psychologist is here to help you deal with your thoughts and will surely help you to develop alternative means instead of hurting yourself. Please trust him! and if you're not comfortable with your psychologist, you can always change and go see another one that suits you better.

Maybe it would be a good thing for both your parents and a psychologist to know.... Take all the help you can get and try to get better.

Your psychologist shouldn't tell your parents about your self-harm unless you are cutting yourself to a point where you are losing a lot of blood or where you are likely to die. If you are a hazard to yourself or others, this information should remain confidential, so I would suggest you find another psychologist. And don't be afraid to tell your parents. Chances are they'll be worried and more supportive of you than you think they will. Good parents would be hurt to see their child going through that and wouldn't do anything other than try to help you