Why should I go to a psychologist if he would have to tell my parents that I am hurting myself and I do not want them to know?

1) he might not. It depends on your age, location, and their privacy policy. You can ask them when you go in "What is your privacy policy?" and they will both explain it to you and give you it in written form. 2) It can mean you finally get the help you need. As much as you don't want your parents to know, it may give you support you need - maybe from them, but more importantly from a psychologist who can help you learn DBT and CBT skills that can help you recover. If you want to recover, telling someone is eventually a must-do step. 3) If you aren't ready yet to recover, that's okay. No one on here can make you talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist. However, I do advise it. Still, if you don't want to recover (which some people don't yet), then you don't really have any reason to go. If any part of you wants to recover though, AND you think you might like to encourage that part of your mind and heart to grow so that someday you truly want to recover, then I would really consider telling someone and getting help.

A psychologist is a trained professional who knows the mind and its working. Besides, parents are there for support. It's no point hiding from them that you need help.

You don't have to talk about the self-harm e.g. I kept telling my counsellor that I used to self harm, even though I was doing it at the time. They won't tell if you emphasise why you don't want them to know

Well, it is because a psychologist knows better on how to deal with such situations. I guess your parents deserve to know what your problem is...

A psychologist has a oath of secrecy. He isn't allowed to tell anybody anything what you tell him unless it's putting you or/and your environment in danger.

If your parents support you enough to send you to a psychologist then they probably support you enough to help you with this problem. If they aren't angry that you need to see someone professionally they won't be angry that you self harm. They love you.

A psychologist will help you sort through your emotions. With some, there's confidentiality, though that is not guaranteed when you are in immediate danger.

If you were to tell a physiologist about you self-harming, you may even request for it to be kept private, but that's not the best choice. You parents should be aware so they can arrange for you to talk about it with the physiologist. If your parents were to confront you about it, just tell them that you do not wish to speak to them about it, if you honestly feel that way, but speaking to a professional about it would help and you may even realize why you shouldn't self-harm.

letting somebody, anybody know is the first step to dealing with the problem. No one can or will help you if they don't know whats going on.. and unfortunately some of the first people that need to know are your parents because whether you like it or not they are the closest to you. a psychologist is a great way to fully understand your problem.

While having family know about self harm is an extremely challenging thing, it is very helpful (and somewhat of a relief) to have people know about it. Secrets are hard to keep sometimes, and tiptoeing around them can be very harmful to us as it can be very stressful to maintain! While you may not want them to know right now, they can't help you if they don't know, and they will be able to help alongside the psychologist and understand your situation easier, which will allow them to know what tools they will need to offer you their assistance and support. In addition, the psychologist is a good idea, as it can sometimes be easier to open up about these uncomfortable situations with someone "on the outside" that you do not particularly know.