Why I can't stop self harming?

Self-harming gives you a strategy and so you can deal with problems , but in an unhealthy way, but it´s effective. But there are a lot of other strategies you could try instead of harming yourself :) for example breathing exercises. You can find a lot of ideas in the internet

You can stop doing it when you want. You just have to focus on the good things in life and say that you can do it when you want to.

it's our brain pattern how it is developed, we make simple things into complex even though we though know it

You can. Don't doubt yourself. You need to seek help. Look on the 7 cups website. Never give up.

Self harming is more common that most people think. It's just that very few are comfortable talking about it. Self harm is an attempt to change the pain from mental to physical. The beginning to reducing and eventually stopping self harm is to first seek professional counselling to remove the pain that is emotionally and psychologically being experienced.

Self-harming is often an addicting activity that gives a euphoric feeling which is usually why people can’t stop.

It's the thing you do that gives you peace. When you self harm- you do it to yourself so you have full control of it. The outside word hurt you so much and you couldnt do anything so now- when you can control how much pain it does to you, you have peace. When you cut your fragile skin and make yourself bleed, when you see the scars- you know that you did it and you have full control. It isn't good. You are hurting your body to make your soul in peace and Without you realizing, in reality,- it somehow controls you.

Self harm is like a habit.Once you to self harm, it is hard to stop.Try using a rubber band instead.