Why do people try to blame you for what you're feeling when it is just your method of coping?

People will often deal with overwhelming situations and especially those outside their control in a number of ways. Blame can be a way of trying to win back control, it can also be a way of avoiding responsibility, very very few people live in total isolation so blaming someone for their feelings is a way of avoiding their role in the wider picture and the fact they may have had SOME role in the way you currently feel. They may also not fully understand, prehaps because they cannot relate on any level and it may also depend a little on your culture but sometimes we blame people for what we regard as having an element of shame - for example in the environment I grew up in 'feelings' and expressing them was seen as weak and this is why blame can be a way of preventing anyone from showing perceived weakness and impacting on the way a family/ group of friends is seen by outsiders.

I like to think its because they are not used to something that is strange and unusual to them. I couldnt blame anyone.

We all have our own way of coping with things. Getting others to acknowledge and accept it is half the battle. The other half is overcoming your problem.

Those people function differently, they don't exactly understand your methods. When you're trying to help yourself, they see it as you trying to hurt them.

people blame you for how your feeling because they don't understand how what your going through or how much pain your really in.

because they dont understand you. and sometimes they are right but no one knows for sure why. to me its all about if you think it is true or not

because they don't know you. they don get you. only you know exactly how your thinking and don't let them say different

Some people are extremely judgmental and like to jump to conclusions, even when they don't know the full extent and circumstances of the situation. Humans like simplicity, and so they think that people can 'just get over it', when it's really much more complicated than that. As long as the coping method is healthy and not harming the person or anyone else, then that person should just be allowing to feel what they are feeling and cope in whatever way feels natural to them.

Because those people may not understand and they can't feel what you do. They won't be you. Try to make them understand that.

Because most people don't understand what we are going through they think we are happy and all when we pretend to be happy and fake a smile all the time :) but I'm here if anyone wants to talk? :)