Why do other people yell at me for self-harming? Why can't they be more sympathetic?

People don't understand self harm. They see the harming aspect of it, but not the relief it gives people. They just don't understand.

Because they don't personally understand. They can't wrap their heads around the reason of why you are doing this.

People get scared when they see scars because they want you to be happy, and when they see the scars, they are worried about what might come next. When they yell at you, that is because they care. They aren't more sympathetic because they are scared and they want you to stop. As well, many of them don't know why you do it. People are awful to you about self harming because they are scared... And I am sorry you have to live with that

I think others yell out of fear mainly, fear of something they don't understand, fear that they can't save you and make it all okay. Be patient with and educate them by bring honest when you feel able - tell them how they can help you not add to your issues

because some people do self harming for attention. that's why it's hard for other people to understand whose the real persons who suffers.

It's important to know that other's may not have had the knowledge on how to respond to them. Offering a conversation, aimed to enlighten is often worth trying, but if they continue to disagree, let them be so and understand that they may have their own opinion.

It shows that they are scared because they want to help but don't understand it so they be hoping you will snap out of it. Some people will never understand. Best thing to do is focus on yourself and speak to people that do understand or that can help.

Not everyone understands what it's like to be someone who self harms. They assume people who do it do it for attention and think it's simple to switch to alternative methods just like that. It's hard to be sympathetic of something you don't understand but none the less yelling is never the way to go. If you can think of a way to explain the feeling of need to self harm and help them understand it could help them become more sympathetic if they understood the situation better

Other people may not understand self-harming and react to it in a fight-or-flight response. You cannot control how other people react, what they say or think. You can only control and count on what you think aobut your own self-harming. It's ok to say "Can you just give me a hug this isn't helping right now?" but beyond being calm and honest about what you need, you cannot control what other people do with that information. You are looking for sympathy. It is posible you can find that sympathy if you keep telling other people about your self-harming. Eventually you will find osmeone who can be compassionate and help you the way you want to be helped. You will not find that person if you give up on them existing altogether. Good luck!

Some people may be worried about your safety and health and that worry can translate into anger. Others may not understand what you're going through and think that you're just doing it for attention. If it's the former, try to keep in mind that you are loved and cared for. If it's the latter, try and educate others on your difficulties so they can be more helpful and compassionate in the future.