Why do I let self-harm control my life?

Sometimes we do not have all the answers as to why we do the things we do, but finding professional help can help to resolve these issues, and find out answers.

Self harm is an addictive behavior. It takes control at one point, unless you stop it in time, which doesn't happen to about anyone. It is very hard to stop, and the more you self harm, the more it takes control.

Because you don't feel like you have control in your life. You want the pain to end, and self harming feels like a way out.

'cause you think that self-harming is controlling your life when is not. You're thinking this but you can stop doing it when you want.

You don't let self harm control your life, self harm in itself is an addiction, an obsession that you're unable to control. You can try to limit yourself by keeping yourself around people, talking your feelings out and finding better coping mechanisms to help but its a process that takes time.

There are plenty of reasons to explain this. It may be a pain release that works better than dealing with emotional pain. It may just be a coping mechanism developed over time that seems effective, but in reality causes harm. It just depends on the situation and the person. I know for me it was a pain release that seemed to temporarily take away the emotional pain. But then I had regrets and felt like I was a disappointment.