Why do I feel the need to hurt myself?

The reason why I would hurt myself is because I felt like I had caused a lot of my emotional pain and I wanted to be punished. I wanted to feel worthless, sad and abused by myself because I deserved it. I felt like by me doing that I was showing how much I hated myself and I was embarrassed about it too. I felt like I was going crazy and no one would ever like me because of it. So therefore, I would hate myself even more for self harming. I am still working my way out of this destructive circle but one thing that gets me out of it is to realize that the things I hate about myself don’t define who I am. That is just a part of myself I can work on. They don’t make me a bad person, they just make me a damaged person who is healing.

I think is because the pain inside is too much to handle we want somehow to get distracted

Feeling the need to hurt yourself can be surprising and scary. Sometimes, the desire to self-harm can be our minds looking for a way we can control our pain. Our mind confuses hurting ourselves, and causing our own pain, with being able to control the pain people or things outside of us can cause. But the truth of the matter is that people/things outside of us can still cause us pain even when we're already hurting ourselves; so, self-harm isn't really accomplishing what our minds are trying to convince us it will. Try to be strong and out-smart the part of your mind that thinks self-harm will help. Tell your mind that we can't control everything, so we have to learn to cope with pain in healthier ways. Radically accept the truths that 1) life can be painful and 2) we are strong enough to handle that pain in healthy ways.

Why do people feel the need to kill ? or to abuse drugs and alcohol? or even to feel worthless ? we never truly know , thats up to you. you aren't worthless or alone , you may feel that you are and maybe thats because you feel people around you just don't understand what you're going through . they are great people here on 7 cups , but even talking to a professional , which we can refer you to might be better as well .

Causing pain means you lack pain somewhere else. I find most times it's due to being hurt so much throughout your life and then there all of a sudden is no pain. The best thing will be to find a good pain. Find something you absolutely love doing and do it as much as you can.

it takes 3 weeks to form a habit, and hurting yourself is a habit, overtime you get urge to hurt yourself try doing something else, walking your dog, going for a walk, or painiting a picture, after three weeks, the urge should start to fade