why do I feel like I need to self-harm to feel okay?

Self harming is a way of being in control. When everything seems to be out of control the only way to feel ok is to gain that control. Back and therefore. Self harm.

some people thinks it gets the stress away when really it don't please contact someone to speak to to help you deal with your problems in a better way than self harming

You may feel like the physical pain takes away the emotional pain. You may feel like that is the only way that you can feel okay. But you should know you're not alone & self harm is not the answer.

Sometimes when we feel like we're not in control, self harm seems like the only option to make you feel better - when in reality, it will truly only make things worse.

Sometimes when we are overwhelmed with sadness, after all the tears, we feel numb, really numb inside. Some of us desire to 'feel' something again, so we use this unhealthy method of 'self harm' to feel in control of the situation around us. However, self harm is addictive and have serious negative repercussions, so stay away from it and fall back on other methods to feel with the pain inside.

I think I felt like that because I wanted to control my life a little more, and I also wanted something that made me feel different from everyone else. I think I read a lot about people who would self-harm and then be told they were enough. I wanted someone to see my scars and tell me I was enough. Even now, years later, it still makes me kind of sad that my fourteen year old self felt like I had to go to such lengths to try to feel loved, but I remember how it was. I also think part of me wanted to end my life, but was too scared of the permanence.