Why can't I stop punishing myself for making mistakes?
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SettledBreathing
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Aug 11, 2015
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Guilt. It always comes back to guilt. Try to get perspective on your mistakes, how small they are compared, in turn, to you, your life, the world. It's important to avoid dragging that guilt around so that you don't feel that urge. A way to do that is to forgive yourself, truly and sincerely. Take some time off to relax and think about forgiving yourself. Best wishes :)
Anonymous
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Jul 11, 2016
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Because your problem lies deep in your roots. You think you are orthless, unless you do something to prove that wrong. When you fail doing that thing, you punish yourself to avoid failiure. Because failiure means worthlessness
MidnightFalls
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Jan 24, 2015
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Making mistakes makes us who we are, humans. And it's normal to punish yourself for those mistakes, some people punish themselves by cutting others by looking in the mirror and calling themselves stupid. But all-in-all, it's normal to make mistakes, and as humans we make even more mistakes by punishing ourselves for them.
Stay strong.
Chris91
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Nov 17, 2015
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Making mistakes is something that is part of the nature of being human. On the other hand, we as individuals tend to be perfectionists. Unfortunatelly, being a human means that we are far away from perfection. Which is entirely okay, as mistakes and making them is what makes us beautiful. But sometimes, there is a misbalance in the mistakes we make and the way we are punished for them, mostly by ourselves. The need to punish ourselves succeeds the mistake itself. Long story short, no mistake done by yourself is worth to punish yourself for eternity.
Anonymous
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Apr 29, 2015
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The most common thought is that you deserve what you've been through but I'm here to tell you that you don't. If you've made a mistake in your past it's best to try and let it go. Realize that your mistakes are not you. You're only human and everyone makes mistakes.
lizzle
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Nov 30, 2015
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Maybe you are self critical and feel like you want to become alot better, everyone in life fails , and the greatest teachers will tell you, in order to find success you first need to fail. Failure should be learnt as lessons and not to discourage you from pursuing whatever it is that you are trying to triumph.
Iam80Here
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May 31, 2016
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It's because you can't let go of who you think you are. Once you accept yourself fully, and realize that you can never be somebody else, you can stop. You can stop doing anything that feels violent, ruthless, unnecessary and unworthy. Start loving yourself.
Anonymous
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Jun 1, 2015
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Most have trouble accepting themselves for who they are- flaws included. People hold themselves to unrealistically high standards, and feel horrible when they don't meet them.
Anonymous
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Nov 10, 2015
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You blame yourself but its not your fault, you just have to see things in another perspective .
Anonymous
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May 10, 2016
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its all in your mind. you think things are worse then they actually are. most people will forget about your mistakes because they care too much about them. do not dwell on the past. you can not change the past. the future will always be better.
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