Why am I harming myself to make myself feel better when it only last a little bit?

Only from personal experience and the individuals I have chatted with, I think it has a lot to do with control. Many people do not feel as though they have control over their lives or at least many aspects of their lives. This can make people feel really lost and confused, or even angry. Sometimes when you feel an overflow of emotion, also something you can't control, harming yourself gives you that control. Instant gratification can be rewarding, but only for a short time; eventually it goes away. This can also turn into longtime problems.

I used to harm myself about a year ago. My emotional pain was so great, I couldn't feel any physical pain. Everything was so surreal, I didn't think I was real. I did it to make sure I was still alive. Watching the blood trickle relaxed me. I could've calmed myself without hurting myself. I wish I knew that then.

For me it was to feel physical pain for a while to stop from feeling heart ache. Although I realized after I promised my best friend that I would stop, that there was no way to stop feeling heart ache. So now, food and sleep and TV are my ways to cope with feeling overpowered

I harm myself to make myself feel better despite it only lasting for a few seconds or minutes because sometimes I felt that state of numbness or tranquility was what I needed to get through the day.

Harming yourself gives you a sense of control, you can control the pain you have. And you can control how many cuts, bruises, scars .e.t.c. you have. This is what most people want. Or they want to transfer emotional pain to physical pain so it doesn't hurt so bad.

when we are suffering from pain when became as like mad person.cannot identify what should we do and what shouldn't?i too had experienced some thing like that....i had put my hands in the burning fire just because my mom scold me ..i cannot say anything to her so i burnt my own hand..its easy to say but had to do that we should never lose control on ourself

I like to be in control of the pain I feel. Honestly, it's come to be more of an addiction than want, but I've stayed clean for two months now.

You can feel overwhelmed by your emotions, and seek a way out. Crying doesn't always help, so one may seek to find a different way to release emotion in a more substantial fashion. It may also because there is a lack of those willing to speak, or an influx of feelings that render you unable to relay them to others. Either way, it is a moment of ecstasy that allows you freedom from what you are feeling, even if it is only a few moments long.

You're doing it because it takes away from whatever pain you are feeling when you harm yourself or because you feel you deserve to be punished

Self harm is a mental idea. It only lasts a little bit but really it can affect you for a very long time.