When I'm angry, why do I always feel the need to hurt myself?

Hurting yourself gives you some release. It makes you feel like you are in control because you cant control the pain or anger that you are feeling.

Hurting yourself is there to actually release the intense emotion that you have between yourself and the situation that makes you angry. I would instead try to take a couple of deep breaths and let the angry slow down before responding.

Sometimes we need to express that angry energy, so it can come out in many forms. Physical excertion releases this, but if that is unavailable we sometimes turn to other things, such as self harm, to "numb" this pain/anger.

when you are angry you automatically want to let it out which is quite normal. some would like to show it on others while some would feel like breaking things...some people also feel like harming themselves as that anger would soon evaporate and sympathy on oneself would arise.

For my personal experiences I think it's because you're desperated, you are filled with anger and stress and you probably have no one to blame it on or you don't know who to blame for your bad mood. So you blame yourself. Or you don't even know why are you so angry and that makes you feel even more mad at you. You don't think straight and you feel like everything's your fault.

I'm going to say this again. We except the pain we think we deserve. I know that I feel like this sometimes, but it's only normal to feel like that. Okay not normal, but it's okay I guess you could say. Some people have a hard time showing their feelings, like when we're mad we cry or want to hurt ourselves like you said

You feel the need to hurt yourself because you need to take out your aggression in some form. Hurting yourself is not the safest way to get your anger out. I suggest breathing exercises or taking part in an activity that you find joyful.

I understand this feeling very well and battle with it quite often myself. Based on my experiences, I feel like the anger comes from a place of misguided self-defense. It may be a mechanism you are putting in place to not have to deal with the anger. When you are angry, do you also feel any secondary emotions? Sometimes a person can feel guilty for their rage.. like it is wrong or pointless in some way. Instead of facing an issue that seems too daunting and seemingly impossible to deal with, we respond by hurting ourselves to beat back the overflow of emotions. Some people do it to calm themselves as pain may give you a feelings of "resetting" your mind and emotions. Some people self harm to feel again when you are feeling cold or numb inside. I have also heard that some people self harm to stop themselves from lashing out at others whether physically or verbally. Maybe inside, you feel like you deserve the pain. But trust me, you don't. The need to hurt yourself may be strong but it is definitely not right. There are many coping methods out there and hopefully both of us can find a method that will help us handle our emotions.

You feel this way because you have nothing else to take it out on. And sometimes you may feel angry about yourself or think it is your problem for whatever had happened. Try getting a pillow, punching bag or a stress ball, or even talk it out with someone. Could be more helpful and leave you unharmed.

Because you don't know how to deal with the anger. Everything inside of you is burning and because you don't know how to let it out, you choose to hurt yourself, imagining that all the anger is fading away. The pain actually calms you down.