What do I say to people that ask about my scars without making them uncomfortable?
Lexithelistener
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Jun 29, 2016
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If it is a family member or friend, you could say you're not comfortable talking about it then change topics or would like to speak to them in private about it. If it is a stranger, tell them you do not feel comfortable in telling them and change topics
Anonymous
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Sep 26, 2018
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Well that sounds incredibly rude on their part. I'd just say that I'd rather not talk about it, and if they press the issue, just keep saying you'd rather not talk about it or you're not comfortable talking about it. It's really none of their business to comment on or ask about, so it's not like you have to tell them anything. You could also brush it off like, "That's in the past now," and then quickly change the subject. If they seem concerned you might tell them you're better now, but if they're just being rude tell them you don't like to talk about it and move on. Either way that's pretty rude on their part, I'm sorry that happens.
calmchats
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Oct 10, 2018
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Sometimes, humor is a good way to downplay an uncomfortable situation. You owe no one a serious explanation, as your body, and your scars, are your own. Make a joke, make up a silly story, you have no need to feed into prying eyes. When I'm questioned about my own scars, I often bring out the joke, "I was attacked by a unicorn." The silliness of your explanation can switch the subject without scaring anyone off, while simultaneously letting people know that the story of your scars is your own, and not anyone else's. Remember that you only owe things to yourself, and no one needs an explanation out of you.
Anonymous
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Jun 26, 2016
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Say to them that you've been through a lot. That in truth that you've suffered from specific things you don't want to say sothey aren't uncomfortable.
Millichidulinas
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Jul 13, 2016
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If you trust people you can tell them the truth. I mean, you can try to say what happened and then talk about something else or go like "but I don't do it anymore" and stuff.
Alexisheretohelpyou2
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Jul 21, 2016
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Well, you don't have to say anything really, you can tell them you'd prefer not to talk about it. You have overcame an obstacle in your life, and you shouldn't worry about making them uncomfortable. If they question it in the first place, it's their fault that they get uncomfortable.
You are a warrior, those are your battle scars; don't worry about what they will think.
Armanta
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Jul 23, 2016
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The main thing is for you to feel comfortable. If you feel as though you would like to tell someone close to you about the scars ,if they've asked, then by all means do it. And with regard to making them comfortable before you talk to them about it it might be worth just telling them it might be sensitive and asking if they are alright with it. The same goes for telling anyone else as well I suppose. Just make sure you are comfortable with telling them, you don't need to tell them about it if you don't feel like doing so, you can politely ask them to drop the subject as you do not feel comfortable. And if you do, just ask them if they are alright with talking about certain topics whatever they may be.
Anonymous
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Aug 14, 2016
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Tell them that people deal with stress in different ways and that you decided to go down a more negative route that other people; it's like smoking because you cut as a release for something that has hurt you or that's bothering you and smokers smoke for the same reasons.
Anonymous
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Aug 20, 2016
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Just be honest with people, they brought it apon themselves to ask you about them therefore you should be real, if it makes them uncomfortable next t ime they will remember not to ask questions to things they shouldn't be asking..
Anonymous
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Oct 19, 2016
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If you feel they would feel comfortable, tell them the story.
If you feel it would make them feel uncomfortable, you can just tell them a general truth, like "Oh, it's nothing. I got it when I was a kid."
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