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What do I say to people that ask about my scars without making them uncomfortable?

Profile: Implode
Implode on Aug 9, 2017
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What I say, is that it was an accident from something, and a realistic answer! Make sure you tell everyone the same thing. If lying is uncomfortable for you, you can just say I had a rough phase, etc. Sometimes being honest with your past is necessary if it's a friend! If it's just some random person, no need to tell them something you don't want to.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 7, 2016
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Tell them they are your battle scars and how they convey how strong you are for pushing past your dark times
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Anonymous on Jun 23, 2016
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Answer their question with the understanding that what you are doing to yourself is not normal behavior. They have a right to be curious about it especially if you are displaying it openly. And so long as the query is done in a respectful way, just answer them and maybe enlighten them to your condition. Cutting is difficult for lay people to wrap their arms around and some face cringing is to be expected.
Profile: lina713
lina713 on Jun 25, 2016
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What is said all depends on whether you feel comfortable telling them or not. Forget if it makes them uncomfortable, focus on yourself, and how it makes you feel. If they're prepared to ask a personal question, they really shouldn't feel uncomfortable with the answer- generally only people close to you ask personal questions such as this.
Profile: kindWhisper16
kindWhisper16 on Jul 27, 2016
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You can say what you want, you should not have to change who you are because someone feels uncomfortable, you are you, and they are not you, they dont have your body, and the scars you have left make you well you and they should understand that, I am always here for you x
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 6, 2019
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I have scars myself so I know how uncomfortable and awkward this situation can be at times. I've had my younger cousins and brothers ask the question, to some friends who don't know a lot about self-harm. What I usually do, depending on the relationship with the person, is to just tell them. I have only told some of my friends when they have asked and not my cousins or brothers as they're too young, or were at the time of asking, to hear things like that. Your scars are nothing to be ashamed of, if someone asks about them and you don't want to talk about it or tell them, just say "it's personal". People tend to leave their questioning from there, if not and they ask something like "why", you can just say you don't want to talk about it. I hope this helps :)
Profile: Lovelycats7134
Lovelycats7134 on Oct 30, 2016
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I think you should tell them . " I had a rough past and im still recovering from it," I think that should know something happened before.
Profile: SlowHealing
SlowHealing on Dec 31, 2017
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You could tell them that each scar is a mark of the problems you have faced and conquered! :) Be proud of your scars!
Profile: Summerwish
Summerwish on Jul 14, 2018
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Tell them that you were in a car accident or something like that you don’t have to tell them what they are really from
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Anonymous on Jul 14, 2016
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It depends on who the person is, some people could have gone through the same thing! Or maybe not. It may feel uncomfortable but being honest is the best way to go. After you explain where the scars are from, you can explain how you got help or how you don't do it anymore.
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