Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

What do I say to people that ask about my scars without making them uncomfortable?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 25, 2017
...read more
Just tell them how you felt in that time because that it's really important but people may be don't open-minded so, do that with people you trust.
Struggling with Self-Harm?
Find relief with 7 Cups online therapy.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 25, 2017
...read more
Tell them that you fought in a battle, and these are your battlescars. You are proud of them, because they remind you of who you are and what you made it through.
Profile: Abbyyy123
Abbyyy123 on Mar 18, 2017
...read more
When I get scars from things like self harm, and someone sees them, I answer a few different ways. If it's something that looks like a cat scratch then I say my cat did it but if it's quite big and significant I say that's it's tricky to talk about, can we leave it for now? Most the time, the other person accepts that and understands you don't want to talk about it.
Profile: Immortalwolfieslyrics
Immortalwolfieslyrics on Mar 19, 2017
...read more
You can tell them anything, but people always assume... there is nothing wrong with you. They shouldn't be uncomfortable because they asked. They shouldn't say that you're dumb or stupid or anything like that. Wear your scars proudly. It's so hard to accept the beauty that you are. It's so hard to find people who understand, but the ones who are uncomfortable, don't understand. Don't keep those people in your lives. They aren't going to see you for the amazing you are. They are going to see you for your flaws... your all beautiful and amazing. Remember that
Profile: PandaLover123
PandaLover123 on Mar 26, 2017
...read more
Hello! Depending on the age group (young ones can be quite curious) the answer will differ. For children, you can express that it shows you were/are sad sometimes, but you're getting better, or that you're trying to get better.
Profile: peacefulkat
peacefulkat on Apr 5, 2017
...read more
If someone asks you about your scars, you could tell them that you were going through a rough time a while ago.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 8, 2017
...read more
Well, since they asked and made you feel uncomfortable, they shouldn't expect to feel comfortable. Anyways, if it isnt obvious they are self harm scars you could make up an excuse, likw you had an accident when you were young or something. Otherwise, and if you dont like talking about your struggles, just say you've been through a hard time. You arent obliged to explain things to everyone I believe.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 19, 2017
...read more
Scars are what makes us who we are, but the thing about them is the fact that they tell a very personal and painful story, and people don't always like hearing personal stories especially of they are painful. If people ask about are scars and its people you don't know very well or someone you feel just want a juicy bit of information then tell them its a long story, one you don't feel like telling, and if its someone that you know well and know they are asking because they want to know more about you because they care, then they won't feel uncomfortable, they may get sad for you but they won't feel uncomfortable
Profile: RheanaHazel
RheanaHazel on Apr 19, 2017
...read more
You don't owe anyone an explanation that you don't want to give. If it makes them uncomfortable, then that is their own thing to deal with, it's your story. However, if you don't want to make them uncomfortable, just tell them that they are from a cat, or a dog, an accident, any other tale that aligns with the scar appearance.
Profile: blitheDreamer35
blitheDreamer35 on May 5, 2017
...read more
If you trust them, tell them honestly about the nature of your scars. People are often uncomfortable with talking about self-harm because it's seen as a touchy subject. However, if people are open to talking about the history behind their scars, it gives courage for people to reach out and also offers an opportunity to educate loved ones around you to better support you. It's uncomfortable at first, but the more you put it out in the open, the more comfortable it gets in the future.
Have a helpful insight? Don’t keep it to yourself.
Sharing helps others and its therapeutic for you.
0/150 Minimum Characters
0/75 Minimum Words