I want to wear t-shirts, but I don't want to talk about my scars? Some of them LOOK very recent, but aren't. What to do?
LucVincent
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Mar 4, 2015
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Those are battle scars that prove you are a survivor. You should show them off proudly. When I first started wearing clothes that showed my scars in public, I used to tell people I rehabilitated fighting dogs (not a lie, but not where the scars came from). But in the end it all comes down to shame. And you should not be ashamed that you are a strong individual who had to deal with something difficult in your life and you SURVIVED IT. You should be proud. I am proud of you.
Anonymous
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Oct 29, 2015
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Have you ever considered or tried camouflage make up - the type that covers tattoos? There are various tutorials online although some may be triggering. Depending on type and severity of scars could you also wear jewellery? The scars are your battle wounds how you show them or cover them up has to be right for you.
infinitrinxx
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Apr 29, 2019
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Try accessorising! Bangles, wrist bands, ribbons, maybe even temporary tattoos. Anything is on the board, as long as it makes you happy to wear it.
Remember though, your scars are nothing to be ashamed of and anyone who says otherwise is being unreasonable. They are evidence that you have gone through pain but healed and I am proud of you for having confidence to wear what you want with them. I understand that the questions can get uncomfortable, intrusive or annoying though and you may want to hide them just because they are an uncomfortable conversation topic.
In that circumstance, another good method is to wear what you want and let them be out in the open; simply be straightforward with whoever asks. Tell them, "Hey, I'm not comfortable talking about that, sorry." And direct the conversation elsewhere. If they persist in asking, they're not exactly respecting your boundaries and the fault is theirs. Evaluate if that person should stick around if they won't respect your boundaries.
colourfulFlute75
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May 31, 2015
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Some scars can be covered with make up. I chose to tattoo over mine and people see the tattoo more than the scars.
Anonymous
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Mar 7, 2015
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It is up to you whether you feel confortable with your scars there are a couple of options though.
1. You choose to wear a T-shirt yet attempt to hide them - for example you can use camouflage make up ( it's common for burns victims to use it ) or some people just use regular make up such as concealer. The other option is to use a scar reduction cream (such a bio oil but the effect of this is often limited with more obvious scars and can take some time to have any effect at all.
2.You can wear a T-shirt and have pre- prepared answers just in case people question. It is best not to outright lie but good answers if anyone asks can be 'They are from when I was ill, it's hard for me to talk about' most people will respect your wish not to take it further or ' I would rather not discuss it but thank you for your concern things are much better now' so reassure them then turn the conversation right on to them, because people love, in my experience to talk about themselves and when they get the message you do not wish to talk about it and they are not concerned their natural interest will dwindle.
bliss1994
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Jun 29, 2015
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Personally for me I always wear chunky bracelets on my wrists? Or even I drape a light cardigan over me so it's not noticeable
364rain567
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Nov 15, 2015
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Try using either makeup of accessories like scarves to cover them up. I understand what you mean so I used these back when I did it.
listeningforyou
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Nov 24, 2015
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I think that if you are comfortable with them that you should wear them because is nothing to be ashamed of. Obviously this is my personal opinion and if you dont want people to see then thats something each person needs to decide.
RainDrops17
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Jun 7, 2016
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It is your choice to talk about them. If it is not something you are willing to discuss then perhaps just mention that to anyone who asks.
Anonymous
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Jun 13, 2016
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I personally think you shouldn't care too much what others think. If others talk about the recent looking ones, simply explain that they aren't. But it's your choice, and if you'd rather not, then wait until they fade some more.
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