I harm myself on purpose. I never do it because I need to cope, I do it because I like the pain and like to have something on my body. I know I should stop, but I don't want to. Why is that?
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Updated: Apr 10, 2022
Anonymous
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Dec 2, 2017
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Some people find that they just need that release and pain to flow from their body. Sometimes it can be because it has started as a release and you just don't know how to stop. Do not worry this can happen to people but there are alternatives to self-harming such as pinging an elastic band where you would normally harm or drawing or going for a walk. I hope this helps
Emily619
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Dec 7, 2017
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People can self-harm for a multitude of reasons, and there is neither a "right" nor "wrong" reason for someone to self-harm. Similar to other negative mechanisms (like smoking and alcohol), self-harm is an addiction and can become a reliance tool, even when it is not used for coping. Thus, it can be hard to stop wanting to do it.
Anonymous
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Dec 14, 2017
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Self harm releases hormones called endorphins, these are 'feel good' hormones. You can become addicted to these hormones, just like you can become addicted to smoking, alcohol etc. However recovery is always possible!
Anonymous
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Dec 20, 2017
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You are harming yourself because it has become a habit for you, and like you have already acknowledged, the pain is something you like. And you are aware that this is not a good habit. What you can do is whenever you are feeling the urge to cut, try doing something else instead to distract yourself. Drawing, cooking, painting on yourself has been a popular one for those trying to stop self harming. Squeezing an ice cube is also an alternative. Good luck :)
Anonymous
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Jan 24, 2018
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That is a tough question to answer. Many people use self-harm as a coping mechanism, whereas you simply harm yourself since you enjoy it, it's more of a hobby?
You could possibly be a masochist, though I cannot say that for sure, it is something you could look into and explore, to find out for yourself.
Anonymous
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Jan 25, 2018
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I believe it's an addiction. I have personally gone through this and it's just that feeling that your body gets and you want to feel that way constantly. I had over come this and I know others will/have too.
Anonymous
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Feb 1, 2018
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Though you might not be conscious of the purpose, I am glad you actually admit that you are doing it on purpose. Talking to a therapist can help you understand what that purpose is. Only then can you find a replacement activity that can help change your pattern of behavior.
Greatlistener1357
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Apr 6, 2018
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You mustve been through somethings really harsh. Some people use pain as a shortcut to mindfulness, because it forces them to experience the moment.If you are injuring yourself or you feel very distressed about your involvement with pain, I would recommend seeking advice from a psychologist.
Mbali313
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Apr 6, 2018
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This could potentially be a distraction for another area in your life out of balance. Self harm can seem like a way of having a bit of control in our lives that at times are chaotic.
coricidinpeacheslistens
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Apr 7, 2018
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I have harmed myself physically during addiction many times. I did it so I could feel something other than the pain the addiction had been causing or just a general sense of euphoria caused by pain. In a sense, I enjoyed it also. The reason I stopped is because it is not a healthy habit and it can be a very hard one to break. If you know you should stop, you might consider taking actions to break the habit.
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