I harm myself on purpose. I never do it because I need to cope, I do it because I like the pain and like to have something on my body. I know I should stop, but I don't want to. Why is that?
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Updated: Apr 10, 2022
NordligSno
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Sep 9, 2017
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Self harming and/or cutting is a addiction. It releases adrenaline & dopamine (which are your 'feel good'/happy hormones) to compensate for the pain, and/or you might feel like you're lacking control in some areas of your life and you make up for it with selfharm as you chose the place & intensity of the pain. Please do yourself a favor and seek medical help for it, and if you absolutely need something on your body, why not be artistic and look up tattooing or similar?
Anonymous
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Sep 21, 2017
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It's something that isn't often talked about with self harm. I've been through this! In the end the healthy way to do it became to get tattoos because I could feel them on my body and they hurt a bit. Obviously this isn't a solution but it became something that I would allow myself to do instead of cutting, in the end after therapy I was able to stop the compulsions after using stickers I could pick off my skin.
Anonymous
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Oct 22, 2017
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Many people think of an addiction and automatically relate it to drugs or alcohol. Addictions come about when the brain releases a chemical that makes you feel good-dopamine. You said that you like the pain and the thought of having something on your body, as this happens dopamine is released. Your body remembers that when you do this dopamine is released, and it likes that. It becomes addicted because it knows that when you do this certain thing, dopamine is released. Truly it’s not your fault, it’s your body/brain’s natural reaction.
aurorabasque123
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Nov 10, 2017
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maybe it is a way of coping? im the same way! its just thats how you cope, and you dont want to, because when you feel a certain emotion, your mind thinks : hey? what did i do last time i felt this way?oh yeah! self harm! that made me feel better, i should do it again!
Anonymous
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Nov 11, 2017
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Because you are addicted to it. It is addictive for you at first and then you do it more and more. It is important to stop
MissNatureNat
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Nov 11, 2017
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you probably feel in control when you do it. you feel as though you are in absolute control of your body. I suggest talking to a professional about this behaviour. It can be very dangerous for you.
Anonymous
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Nov 15, 2017
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I have went through a problem like this before in past, it is difficult but I found a way to fix my problem by doing less and less harm and instead of hurting I would find something else to.focus on and draw on myself untill things soon were better. I know that its hard but stay confident and you can solve this !
Anonymous
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Nov 23, 2017
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Because at times is hard to stop we are so used to feeling that pain that we don't want to let it go.
YasmineNotYours
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Nov 23, 2017
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maybe because you're kind of addicted to the feeling it gives you, or maybe you're thinking if you stop doing this you'll not get this feeling elsewhere
heavenlyBrenna
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Nov 25, 2017
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When you self harm, you are ultimately injuring the body. The nerves send the painful feeling to your brain. As soon as this happens your brain releases a happy chemical called "dopeamine" in ways to cope with pain. Without knowing it, you don't long for the pain, you long for the dopamine.
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