How to I get my friend to stop self harming without telling on her?

You can get her to stop by being there for her and letting her know that you're only there to make her feel better. Your support may better if she knows you aren't plotting against her.

Tell her that there are better ways than self harming to express your feelings and make sure she understands that you are always there for her and support her. Do not get angry with her...

This is a very difficult one. If it were me (remember I can offer advice because what could help me could make things worse for you) I would ask her why she was doing it. Listen to her and offer your help as a friend and as someone to talk to. Reassure your friend. Let them know that things will turn out to be ok and encourage them to go to their doctor, and that you will be with them every step of the way, without judging them or telling anybody else. Sometimes, people harm themselves because they feel isolated. If you help to ease that isolation, maybe the self harming will reduce and eventually stop. After all, you never know until you try. Make sure you keep gently encouraging your friend to get confidential help

Then it's up to you. Sometimes the only thing you can do is to tell on her because in the end, it's all to help her.

Explain to her that you care about her and what she is doing is hurting her, and you, and others around her. Tell her that you understand what she is going through and tell her that you are here if she needs someone to talk with. There are therapists and counselors she can talk to about self harm. Maybe try to convince her to talk to a school counselor. If she still doesn't want the help or seem to stop, I think it is best to tell someone else so they can help. She may not like you for it. But when she gets better she will thank you in the long run because you are only doing it to help her because you care about her.

First of all, talking to him/her about it. The reasons behind it, if they think it really helps them or not. If yes, why do they think so. They probably have emotional issues so trying to get them talk to you about it and showing them emotional support is also very important. Talk to them. But most likely, only one conversation will not be enough so be patient.

This is a hard one. Firstly, it's important to remember that we can never expect ourselves to "fix" another's behavior. That said, it's equally important to sit with the person and allow them to know how difficultly it's affecting you watching them suffer. To expect them to "stop," may be a far-fetched goal, but support is more manageable. That may look like encouraging them to seek professional help, or encouraging them to communicate with you or someone else when they feel like engaging in these behaviors. However, it's crucial to find balance to take care of yourself while you're trying to assist them.

Appeal to her in a way she might understand. Tell her that you care for her and that she doesn't have to suffer in silence. She needs a friend. As long as she is with someone, she will know someone cares for her.

How old is your friend? If you're in school, most schools have a "safe to tell" program that you can use to submit your concerns anonymously. If you're comfortable with it, please provide more details so I can route you appropriately.

You can ask them to get on 7 cups, or you could yell a counselor at school and make it anonymous, it's hard to do, but I have done it b4 and you can ask me about it.