How to deal with self-harm alone?

There are many coping mechanisms for self-harm. I wouldn’t recommend doing it alone because it is much easier with support from family and friends. However, if that is what you choose to do, there are a few things that might help. First, you should identify why you are self-harming. Some people self harm for a release, because it makes them feel better, as a distraction, because it is something they can control, to feel pain. Depending on why you self harm, there are different ways to deal with it. Some things you can try are finding something other than self harming to satisfy your urge. Some examples are walking, listening to music, doing a puzzle. Something calming or distracting, or something that releases energy. Some other suggestions are making a goal to not self harm for a certain amount of time, and keep increasing it, using ice, snapping a rubber band, tearing paper, and drawing on yourself. I hope this helps!

Some ways that personally help me deal with self-harm and may help you is listening to comforting music, let yourself cry and don’t feel ashamed of it, try to tell yourself to breathe (inhale 1, 2, 3, 4, exhale 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) and one day it will improve and you will find your happiness. In addition you can also scream into a pillow which isn’t much use but it will make you feel better, research on how to resist the urge of self harming whether it’s drawing in your room or dancing! take care of yourself! 😊😘❤️

Self-harm can be a really tough thing to deal with when you are alone. The thought of it and the inability to control those thoughts can be incredibly scary, when they are going through your mind. I don't think there is one good way to deal with self-harm alone, but it is you that needs to figure out what works for you. You could think of mindfulness exercise that calm you down, or getting rid of all the sadness/anger/frustration by exercising or just distracting yourself with some good old netflix. However, the most important thing when you have to deal with self-harm alone is to accept what is going on and the thought going on in your head, even though it is scary and strange.

Facing such a large issue on your own is difficult but it is not impossible. As someone who has dealt with self harm on my own, I tried to find the little things in my life that makes me happy. Sometimes I would think about how hurting myself isn't going to make anything better even if it was the only thing I could control. I began to realize that I can take control of some aspects in my life and that made me overcome this idea that self harm is the only thing that I control because at the end of the day you control your life and there is always a rainbow after the storm, you just have to be willing to wait for that storm to end to see that beautiful rainbow.

There are a variety of non-violent self-harm alternatives I'd suggest. Some are about putting the urge into something beautful e.g. draw a butterfly where you want to hurt yourself. Other strategies involve safer forms of inflicting pain such as holding an ice cube in your hand. Such methods are only a google search away, I'd recommend them to anyone with the immediate urge. Should it be more of a feeling that you might hurt yourself that day, try to distract yourself and find a place to put your energy by engaging in activities you like in the creative or the movement areas. If possible contact someone and promise not to hurt yourself. This is common practice for doctors, it holds the patient accountable and it's a way to take reaponsibility off them.

When I would have urges to self-harm, reminding myself that though the feeling temporarily made me feel better, it hurt those who cared about me and embarrassed me later would often prevent me from going through with the act. Calling someone I know cares and asking them to talk with me or stay with me until the urges went away was always better than remaining alone. Other things that helped included doing something I wouldn't normally allow myself to do: drawing on the walls, hanging up a painting without waiting for permission, painting a closet. Creating something rather than destroying something can redirect feelings of helplessness, and even if you cover it up later, it will leave a feeling of having made a difference you can be proud of.

Start by being aware of which situations are likely to trigger your urge to cut. Make a commitment that this time you will not follow the urge, but will do something else instead. Then make a plan for what you will do instead of cutting when you feel this urge. call a friend and talk about something completely different take a shower (make sure you don't have razors in the shower) go for a walk or run, take a bike ride, dance like crazy, or get some other form of exercise play with a pet watch TV (change the channel if the show gets upsetting or features cutting) drink a glass of water

Someone once told me to replace your blade with a marker. Draw on yourself instead, that way the problem doesn’t permanently stay on you but it can be washed of. Use different shapes or colours for different problems and when you feel better wash it of. The idea of it is that the problem doesn’t stay on your skin permanently bug you can remove it when you are ready scars you get from a blade is often permanent so being able to wash away my problems really helped me because I felt like I was a new person after the ink was washed away.

First and foremost, I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I too have endured my own struggle with self-harm. Dealing with self-harm alone is arduous and not recommended. There is a plethora of resources available for this and many services that will allow you to discuss these things with others. I found trying to deal with this alone made it worse as I was always able to justify my actions. It wasn’t until I sought help from a mental health professional that I began to make positive strides. Being honest and open with a therapist regarding this will ensure you are provided with the best resources available that will be effective towards helping you.

You need to realise what you are doing is unhealthy and you do need to learn new coping mechinisms. Not all coping meathods you see online will work for you but take some time to find what does work for you. It isn't easy to deal with it alone so expect some difficulty and this ultimately means there will be times where you have to resist those urges with everything you have and you might give in to these urges and relapse. This is ok. It is an addiction and is very hard to quit but it is ultimately for the good of your physical and mental health. It is ok to want to deal with it alone but if you can find someone you trust like a very close friend who might also be struggling with this as well and you guys can support each other. Good luck, I believe you can do this :)