How to deal with self-harm alone?

in my personal opinion self harm isnt something to deal with alone! and the amazing volunteers are here to support you, i think when feeling the urge to self harm you try hold back as long as possible using diffrent ways such as placing ice were you would like to harm, putting an elastic band or hait tye on your wrist and flicking it this will give a sting but leave no marks! when the urge is strong i suggest sitting on your hands and doing a breathing exercise till you have calmed down and the urge has passesd! remember there as amazing listeners here to help love and support you, you got this keep going !!!!

Firstly, it's really brave that you want to help yourself with your self-harm, and I know how difficult it can be to take the first steps when trying to stop self-harming. There are some things that from my own experience in the past have helped, but have a look at different methods too, as they might also help. So the things that helped me the most was distracting myself and channelling the emotion I was feeling into something else. So if i was angry I would scribble on pages or write down my feelings. I found exercise is definitely something that can help as well. Sometimes drawing on where I wanted to harm also helped as it gave me something visual which is sometimes what I needed. Just try to take every second you do not give into that urge as a success, and try to keep building up how long you can go without harming. Even if you slip up, that's completely okay as well, and focusing on the efforts you have taken to try other, more healthy coping choices really helped me.

Dealing with self-harm alone is honestly very difficult, not being able to talk to anyone is scary and honestly heart breaking. Self-harm is so dangerous, yet many of us tend to use it to help feel something or express something. I am so sorry to those out there who feel like they cannot share their feelings or what they are doing. I found help by finally reaching out to my parents about how I have been feeling because I was scared for my own safety. Everyone out there, you do matter and you are not alone. We are here at this safe place.

As someone who has self-harmed before, I know it is one of the hardest and most uncomfortable habits to talk about or to seek help for. For more severe cases, where you self harm with the intention or future plan of ending your life it is essential you seek out medical and professional help. In situations where you feel the urge to self-harm, try to remove yourself from the object you use to harm yourself. I have found being in the same room as the object often pressures you into use. Self harm can also become a habit, and it is not abnormal for someone who has self harmed during a panic attack or depressive episode to self harm when bored, since it’s something you get used to. Most Importantly be gentle with yourself!! If you are able to practice self care it can be a major milestone, in my experience self harm was wanting to make the outside match the inside, and for some it is a physical cry for help. Taking care of your body is a good way to regain control over your life. Don’t be ashamed if you relapse, that is normal, but know you can make progress

Self harming can be tempting when alone. Take a moment to breathe deep breaths, and try to alert someone on some platform that you feel this way. If it's a very persistent need to self-harm, a coping mechanism can be to use ice and red dye. Use a cup to place the ice in and put red dye over it. Then take the ice and put it over the place you felt the urge to self-harm. This method allows you to have sensation, without hurting yourself. Another method could be to use a rubber band around your wrist and when you have and urge, snap the rubber band over your wrist to experience sensation if it is a serious urge. Stay safe, and know your thoughts and feelings are validated!

Dealing with self hard along is never a good idea, find an adult or someone you trust and tell them whats going on. See if they can help you talk to a trusted adult so you can get the help you need to feel better. Getting help is the best thing you can do for yourself. Keeping your self-hard hidden will only make things worse and you will fall into a deeper hole. Find someone you trust and tell them about your feelings and whats going on in your life, make sure you trust this person and ask them for help.

I think the important first step is to throw away whatever tools you use to hurt yourself. Try to find a healthy way to relieve yourself when you get the urge to self-harm, an example would be art therapy, you could try colouring/painting. When I used to get the urge to self-harm I would take a bit of red paint and colour on my arm where I would have hurt myself. Try to acknowledge what triggers you to self-harm, and instead of acting on it, distract yourself from that type of thinking. Maybe watch a funny show, listen to some uplifting music, go for a walk and be around nature. Try to channel your energy into something more positive.

When dealing with self-hard alone, it is important to have both a mantra and a calming/ decompressing action to reduce the impulse. A mantra is a set of words that you can always remember to tell your self such as "I am worthy of care" or "I have the best intentions for my well being" to remind yourself of your worth. An action that helps calm you away from the impulse can be something like writing a letter, petting your cat, setting up dominoes, or wrapping yourself in a blanket like a burrito. It can be helpful to have a few always accessible routes of action to calm you in case one isn't working for you in that moment. One of my favorites is to paint or draw on my body while saying a self love mantra in my head to help remind me I do not want to hurt myself.

Set yourself a goal ( a small one) and use different things as a trial. For example, drawing what you feel or investing in a good book. I am currently i month free of self harm and im very proud of myself. Remember you can always do better but don’t be too hard on yourself. It wont be very easy but take baby steps. You wont have quit overnight so stay as positive as you can and remember it is ok to ask for help. You are allowed to feel down but never under any circumstances stay down. Remember always stand back up proudly. I am proud of you no matter how far you have come

Find an anchor such as message. A photo. A memory. Get rid of your triggers, anything associated with your self-harming experience. Seek out other ways to let out what’s inside you, for example to Paint. Write. Bake. Dance. Anything that nurtures you. Find what it is that supports you; friends, family, people who have been there, professionals, support groups. It can also come from within. Also, you only have to get through the next five minutes. Think of this as small achievable goals. Lastly, to practice mindfulness regularly, and when you feel like you want to self-harm, do something else.