How to deal with self-harm alone?

If possible, move to a safe public place where your ability to self-harm is restricted. For example, going on a walk by yourself if it's safe without taking your self-harm tools. You're alone, but still in the presence of other people. Re-evaluate how your're feeling after the walk. Sometimes the urge to self-harm can be impulsive and if we don't act on it right way, the urge can sometimes go away. It's about trying our best to give it the chance to pass. Also, you can always check into 7 Cups and chat with a listener of you're not in crisis. If you're in crisis, you can always reach out to a local helpline to connect with the right support that you deserve.

Dealing with self harm alone can seem scary, but understand that you alone are strong! The best way to deal with it is to get to the bottom of why you’re doing it first, stop yourself and think. Remember you are worthy, you are strong and you are loved. Keeping positive is key and having faith will help you get through this. As long as you put in the effort to change, you can do it, you can deal with self harm even if you are alone. Give yourself time to heal, give yourself love and remember you were given this body, and only this body.

Do it safely and have first aid ready. Have emergency numbers and helplines in case self harm goes wrong. Try to tell someone about it in case someone can help you and feel less alone. Work out your triggers for self harm and what impacts on your thoughts and feelings. Work out the root cause of why you started. Self harm is a short term relief not a long term one so try to prepare a long term alternative or therapy/help. Some people use ice cubes, play dough, clay etc to distract from self harm thoughts and to not hurt themself

First and foremost you need to try and identify why you self-harm. What is going on in your life or has gone on in the past? What feeling build up in the lead to self harming. What feelings do you get after self-harming. If you become more aware of these things, you will then be in a better position to identify what your current coping strategy is (self-harming) how it isn't effective at removing the problem, how it causes more damage and pain. You will then be able to work through what has went on and put in place more positive coping strategies such as mindfulness. However I must add there is no harm in asking for help, support or advice.

Don't deal with it alone, it's not a good thing to go through it alone. Speak to a loved one, or someone you trust about it. They'll be there for you if they really care

Self harm is often connected to other mental health problems, like depression or borderline, so to really get to the root of the problem support from your surroundings and professional help are really helpful. However there are so called skills that help withstand the emotional pressure or tension that would otherwise be coped with by self-harm. There are skills that are more intense, others are less intense so start off by determining how intense the pressure/tension you’re experiencing is from 1-10. 1 is barely there while 10 is the point at which you lose control and turn towards self harm typically. The goal is not reach the 10 because in such a state self control is really difficult to maintain. The key is to be mindful and notice tension before it reaches this critical point at which it’s almost impossible to hold back. So to become more concrete, there are many skills you can use to lower your level of tension. Softer skills can be: drawing, solving puzzles, focusing on a game, painting your nails, taking a walk, doing a breathing exercise. Medium skills can be going for a run, taking a cold shower, letting out aggression safely by beating into a pillow or putting a fizzing vitamin tablet on your tongue that creates an intense sensation. Hard skills (that need to be used carefully in some cases) can be chewing a hot pepper or even ammonia capsules that can rip you out of very intense states of stress. Other tips are ripping paper, to safely destroy something or if you have the urge to cut use a red (soft tip!) felt pen or even red watercolor and a brush to paint the “cuts”. The same message is sent to the brain and the tension fades without you having hurt yourself! So depending on how high your starting level of tension is, you should use softer or harder skills. Work your way down the scale until you feel relaxed and safe. That can take a while sometimes but it’s worth being patient. Different skills work for different people, try different options and think of new skills yourself! It’s best to make it a habit to use them, they’ll work quicker and better that way. Good luck and take care!

we need to understand that a person who is at stage to self harm" is really needing some help to come out of negative beliefs and patterns and live a normal happy life. To harm self, a person has to be in a very negative frame of mind with low self esteem, weak will power and inability to see perspectives and delusion ed reasoning . To be aware that one needs to come out of this feelings, is a battle half won. If , for any reason, a person doesn't need professional help, and wishes for self help, there are many resources at his disposal. But most importantly , he will need to have a strong will . Self help books, volunteering for social cause, developing hobbies, reaching out to people and friends , meditation are few ways .

Make sure to get rid of the tools you use. Then distract yourself each time you feel as if you need to hurt yourself. This can be done by icing the area that you want to hurt yourself in, drawing on yourself when the urge comes, making sure you clean your marks so they don't potentially scar or get infected. make sure you don't pick at the wounds and to just leave them be. If it upsets you to look at them then cover with band aids. Put ointment on the areas if needed. Remember you are in fact loved

Dealing with self-harm alone is not recommended. But online communities can provide some help if you choose to seek help but remain anonymous. You are still dealing with your self-harm alone in your offline life. However, on an emotional level you are not entire alone. For example, 7 Cups is among the online communities. You will find a self-help guide for people living with the tendency to self-harm. Also you can post questions on the community forum and hopefully other members will provide some suggestion. In case you are in a crisis, volunteer listeners will direct you to the professionals or crisis hotlines. It depends on your comfort level.

Dealing with self-harm alone is very hard, but I guess you already know that. Here are some suggestions that helped me, and friends of mine who also struggled with self-harm: - Using a red pen to mark where you would cut. This gives the tactile contact and the color. - Putting ice on the spot you would cut. Specially if the ice is dry (before it starts melting), it feels very similar to cutting but doesn't leave damage. - Just rubbing you fingers alone the spot. - Personally, just using my fingernail worked. The scratches fade after an hour or so, but it relaxed me. Remember that you are not alone in this, and you can reach out here and talk :)