How to deal with self-harm alone?

When you feel the urge to cut or harm, draw a butterfly and name it after someone you really love, if you cut where it is, it will die, it you don't it lives. These butterflies are extra special. take good care of them.

To put an effective plan to deal with self-harm alone, it needs you to not be feeling like self-harming right now. First of all recognize why you self harm? Is that to feel something? A way to cope? To explain or discard your pain? Based on your answer you can decide to do other things instead of harming, for ex: if you do that to feel something, then an ice cube would be a nice alternative, or a long hot or cold path. Or if that to express your pain, you can try writing or listening to a song that describe your feelings. I know it might seem hard but never impossible. You can do it. You are able to manage it. I do believe in you.

You don't need to deal with self harm alone. Find someone you can trust and talk to them about it. Self harm isn't an easy thing and it makes it so much harder when your facing it alone.

Personally, I had to look at the literal process and logic of it. Most people tend to self harm because they're hurting, so, somehow, harming yourself is supposed to help, right? I have often heard and used the phrase in the past, "it numbs the pain", however, realistically, it doesn't physically numb the pain, make the pain go away, or help your mindset in anyway. The name says it itself, as you can see, self(harm). So, after that was resolved, I looked at what caused me to self harm. There were many issues, but I was specifically looking for my main triggers. This helped me to recognize the times in which I wanted to harm, which was important to know. It helped me to realize that when those triggers take place, I have to recognize that I will have to take extra precaution, and realize that those situations affect me the most. Basically, I was organizing my pain. When you organize your triggers, you are able to see many different reactions, for example, heavy breathing, crying, panic attacks, etc. The great thing about all of those, is that they happen naturally, for everyone. This means we have so many other solutions to take care of them! What I was looking for at this point were new, healthy coping mechanisms. 7 cups can provide you with many of these I believe, and you can also find others all over the internet. Once I found mine, I made them my first option before self-harm. Sometimes they didn't work, and that is okay. It is a tough habit to get over. Remember that it doesn't make you a failure, it doesn't make you weak, because really, just the fact that you're making the decision to deal with this by yourself is incredibly strong. Sometimes when you fall into a hole, it's hard to dig yourself out. But you are on your way up, my friend! When I was regularly able to replace self-harm with these other techniques, I made sure to dispose of all my utensils as soon as possible. I tried to do this as early in the process as I could because it's difficult to use those utensils when you don't have them. And if I must say, this was a really empowering moment. :) In my experience, letting the tears out and breathing were my two best friends. Always remember to use those healthy coping mechanisms. Practice them when you aren't feeling the need to harm yourself, that way you can make it a memorized motor movement. And!!! Most important tip of all: you can. You can always, always do it. You specifically, have all the power in the world to accomplish what you want, simply because you want it. Best wishes, friend! I really hope I could help, and good luck with your journey!

Well tbh you can't it's like trying to deal with depression alone you will eventually realise that you need help

This is a very difficult thing to do. Because hiding it and keeping it to yourself will only hurt yourself more in the long run. You have to find healthier ways to cope and other things to distract or calm you down when you feel impulsive to self-harm. Reach out to people on this website, including myself or find a good support system through friends or family that you can trust.

I think that's very important to know how to treat any wounds that need treating. Taking care of yourself is extremely important when you're dealing damage to your body. Not over-doing it is also important, but finding less 'risky' ways is also something someone can look into. Eventually - it will all pass. Nothing stays the same forever.

Self-harm is a tricky thing to overcome. Especially alone. You just need to put good thought into your brain. Don't think about the negative comments or the flaws in yourself. That won't help anyone. Thinking about how you handled something that's bothering you then thinking about a better solution to that problem is great help.

Try things like running ice along your arm or flicking a rubber band on it. It can help to feel a little better

Make sure you keep all your wounds clean, see how long you can go without doing it, try to get into therapy, and do your best to not be ashamed of it. There is no shame in your struggle.