How many times will I have to tell myself "I'm never going to do this again" for me to realize that self harm is not the right way to deal with pain?

Each time you tell yourself this you are one step closer to realising that it is not the right thing to do. You need to persevere and stay as strong as possible for you and everyone that you have around you.

We have the need to do it because we feel like no one around us gets the way we are feeling. When we find someone that understands us and help us getting through this pain, we can stop telling ourselves "I'm never going to do this again"

Well, unfortunately getting over self harm is a huge struggle- it's like nicotine. Sometimes you just have to wait for that moment where you realize that it's truly not a good coping mechanism.

Time will heal the deepest of wounds. You can keep trying methods to stop. You can keep telling yourself you aren't going to do it again but you have to make a stand and be the change you want to see.

You'll need to find some other way to cope with your issues. You have to replace that unhealthy habit with a healthy habit and it can take a long time if you're addicted to self-harming. Maybe it can help to talk to a professional/friend/family member... someone you have great chemistry with, someone who shows understanding and compassion.

For me it took months to stop self harming. I relapsed several times. When I did it for the first time, I told myself that could stop whenever I wanted. I'm in recovery now, self harm free for 3 weeks. I'm proud at it, and at my love of my life who supports me as much as I can. Now I truly know that this isn't the right way to deal with pain.

You're going to fall - and you're going to relapse, and you're going to relapse a lot. But every hour you go without self-harm is a step closer to recovery. Your skin isn't paper don't cut it. Your face isn't a mask don't hide it. Your size isn't a book don't judge it. Your life isn't a film don't end it. You are beautiful, and you're just going to have to deal with that truth. It's important to remember when you're depressed you have to nurse yourself and be extra gentile towards yourself. Just like an athlete wouldn't break an ankle then force themselves to run that ankle. They rest as it heals and do not think "I'm a failed athlete" they think "right now something isn't working so I'll take care of myself until it does." Just like a broken bone, depression can change the way your daily life plays out. Pushing yourself too hard and getting frustrated when you don't feel better is like trying to run on that broken ankle and getting frustrated when it doesn't heal.

it takes time. It takes alot of streanght, but youll get there. It depends from person to person as well, for some it takes maybe two times for others two houndred. But if you just ceep telling yourself and believe in what your saying you can do this. good luck

I will remind myself every day until I know I won't slip back into self-harming to cope with my depression or pain.

There's no set answer for that. Something will take away the lure of self harm eventually, whether it is positive or negative. Then after it's no longer what it once was, you build up personal strength and it's easier to say no.