How do I stop self harming -if it's a addiction- without telling someone?

without telling someone you wont be able to stop on you own its best if you reach out and get help.

Try to pin point when the urge to self harm is the strongest and think of something else you could do instead. Like crafts, music, games, anything like that and keep your mind off dangerous thoughts like self harm

This can be very challenge to do however that does not mean that this is impossible. I find it helpful to focus on other activities when I feel like self-harming. So when you want to self-harm try reading a book, going on a walk, biking, swimming, listening to music, journalling (anything that allows you to focus on something other than wanting to self-harm). In a way, you are not going through this alone and you do not have to at all either. You are telling people when you reach out here to 7Cups. You are letting in a whole group of listeners that want to support and that are willing to be here to listen when you are struggling. Try talking to a listener when you are struggling as well. Self-harm is addicting to some degree but it is mainly about developing new habits to replace the old habit of using self-harm to achieve temporary relief trom what is triggering you. You can do this!

You can't , there is no possible way you have to tell someone you trust and if you can't then go see a therapist . But you have to talk to someone

For me, I just stick my nails into my palm because it won't cut you as bad. And for cutting, remember those scars will never heal.

Well you should tell someone. I understand you think it may hurt them but cutting themselves is hurting them even more.. If you don't want said person to know you told someone try going to a guidance counselor and telling him/her that you want to keep in anonymous and you don't want them to know you told.

You could try to find your triggers. What makes you need to self-harm? And then either try to avoid them or find something you can do when they come. Also, finding something like going on a bike ride or writing when you feel the need to self-harm could be helpful.

Self-harm, from a psychological perspective, is a distraction and emotional release. The best traits for a person to have when they decide to stop harming themselves self-control and resolve, as having more control over your impulses (i.e. the impulse to self-harm) will make the road to recovery smoother and less prone to relapse. As for physical alternatives to self harm, in the early stages of recovery if you feel like you're going to relapse, there are a couple methods to curb your impulse. One common one is to clench an ice cube in your hand, while another simpler one is to snap a rubber band on your wrist.

Self harm can be an addiction, but it isn't for everybody! Either way, being able to recognize what sort of thoughts or situations lead to self harm can really help, so that you know what to avoid, and what you should look out for. There are all sorts of alternatives depending on why you self harm--I know writing has helped me a lot, but you could also heat up food coloring and drip it over your arm where you would want to self harm, or you could talk to somebody, or do something you really enjoy. Usually distraction can help, and there are a lot of ideas online

Keeping your hands busy can help sometimes. Making something, writing, drawing, doing a puzzle of some sort. Keeping your hands busy can help take your mind off the urge to self harm. Exercise also helps some people.