How do I stop self harming -if it's a addiction- without telling someone?

You can stop harming yourself by changing your thought pattern, distracting your negative thoughts and replacing the self harm with positive coping strategies!!

Find something that distracts you from these thoughts because it's never a good solution. But also, think about talking to someone you really trust. Having someone who supports and helps you is the best way to get rid of dark thoughts.

Okay so I've dealt with this sort of thing before and no one knew. The best way to stop is to find another way to deal with struggles you are having, find a hobby that will preoccupy your thoughts. Also, throw away whatever you are using to harm yourself with if you can (if you are harming yourself in another way this may not be applicable to you). Getting rid of the object will make you unable to do anything, it will also means you are able to go through a difficult time without relying on the object. This is a big step however and it may be best to just isolate yourself from the object to stop the trigger and need. Hope this helped. If you need anymore advice please check out the 7 cups self help guides.

I do not self-injure but a dear friend of mine does. I am not sure if I can say this within the 7Cups rules but I am an admin of a board which supports people who self-injure - I joined to learn how to learn how to support my friend. My impression from what other members of the board have written is that Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT) can be effective with a therapist who has experience of using that approach with people who self-injure.

You can stop self harming by discarding any of your supplies in a place that you can't get them again, (Flushing them down the toilet, throwing them out on trash day, ect.) or restrict yourself by putting a reminder or "stopper" in a commonly used harming area. once you have gotten rid of your tools, think about your triggers. fears, places, people, what ever makes you want to hurt yourself and tell yourself why it bothers you. Then find an alternative. This could be snapping a rubber band on your wrist, drawing, tearing paper, or doing something you enjoy to take your mind off of harm. I read, go outside, practice my instrument, sing, do yoga, ect.

It will be hard, but there are many techniques. Drawing wounds with red pens, rubber bands on your wrist, writing the names of your loved ones instead of cutting, and dedicating this day without cutting to them. Ice cubes are a way, but for me too close to actual self harm. It can also help to call a support line and venting to them.

If you can't tell someone in person, talk to someone online who would understand what you're going through and would be willing to help you keep yourself accountable. It's hard, but you can do it!

I would check out Kati Morton's free self harm work book. I will link her page, and the website will help you from there. I also find that DBT can help and at the bottom of Kati Morton's website is her recommendation for a DBT workbook. http://www.katimorton.com/sh-workbook-vol-1-sign-up/

I keep telling myself that I am stronger than that. In the end, hurting myself does not change anything at all. That view makes it at least a little bit easier for me to stop. But I still struggle. Relapse is a part of recovery I gues.. You have to try to understand yourself and your life, even if it's not perfect or never may be. It is hard but not impossible. You're stronger than you think you are.

throw away everything you use to self harm. when you think of it just breath. breathing methods help